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spiraledsilence

26 / F / Bisexual / Single

Seattle, Washington

Her Details

Last Online
May 24
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Buddhism and laughing about it
Sign
Libra but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Offspring
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
To begin with, while I'm looking for new people in my life I'm prioritizing friends over sex partners in that search. So this will probably work out best if getting laid is not a requirement for you. I would like more interesting people in my life, but expectations are not hot.

That said, I'm looking for people to hang out with, drink in the sun or a bar with, dance with (ballet or modern class buddies?), cook with, and have long talks with. I also want people to motivate me to get outside and be active while the sun's here. And general adventures.

I'm a freelance artist, who has recently gone back to school to study psychology, so that I can study art therapy.

I like good food, coffee, cocktails and conversation. I try to live sustainably and seasonally. I like people, gin, berries and going out in the summer and books, whiskey, root vegetables and staying in in the winter. I don't mind solitude, but people don't suck, either. I like kids, but think kittens are cuter than babies (and pretty much everything else). I like places and people I can walk to. I'm an INFP and I'm poly.
What I’m doing with my life
After going through a very backwards early twenties, in which I didn't have money for college and worked instead (in various teaching and art related fields), I was recently given all manner of educational grants to attend the UW. So my life is pretty full with doing homework, sleeping, eating, and petting my cat right now.

At school, I'm taking a ton of psych and art classes in preparation for grad school in Art Therapy, as well as taking as many literature and dance classes as I can. Basically, I'm trying to understand the human experience from as many angles as possible. Fortunately, it turns out I really like being a student, and I'm really good at it!

I also work as a visual artist, graphic designer, babysitter and model from time to time.

I've been all about attachment theory lately (there's a very cool quiz about it here: http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-attachment-style-test ) and I'm into family of origin healing.
I’m really good at
Understanding people who aren't me, managing my emotions, fine art and literary criticism. My parasympathetic nervous system kicks ass.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I look for wit and depth.

I like jazz and blues.

I like food that's real and tasty.

Here are a few specifics from recent weeks: Trainspotting, Gosford Park, Philadelphia Story, Jeanette Winterson, Buffy, Virginia Woolf, eggs Benedict, Bulleit Rye.
The six things I could never do without
Luxuries I spend money on even when I'm broke:
macchiatos
local food
books
yoga/ dance
whiskey
therapy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Individuation and evolution. Specifically the intersection of what we evolved to do, what we've been acculturated to do, and what we choose to do.

It recently occurred to me that my ideal man is probably 70% Giles and 30% Spike, and my ideal woman looks like the little mermaid and thinks like Virgina Woolf.
On a typical Friday night I am
Realizing it must be Friday because of the raucous night life outside my apartment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a humanist often mistaken for a misanthrope. Or maybe the other way around.

My least favorite part about relationships is meeting new people.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You don't mind feminists of the of-course-we're-going-to-fuck-on-my-period persuasion. You're creative, intelligent, witty, low drama and self-aware.

Come woo me with your dazzling intellect and staggering good looks!