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43 F Stevenson Ranch, CA

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5′ 4″ (1.63m)
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Working on Ph.D program
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Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I lived my first couple decades in south Florida, went to grad school in the San Francisco Bay Area, and have been living in southern California since 2012.

I'm currently writing the very last pages of a dissertation on the challenges and inspirations associated with aspiring to address the ecological crisis. I've been working toward this for many years and really feel as if I am about to start living my life in a more fully engaged way as I prepare to set that project free.

I am intellectually curious, a deep thinker, sensitive, empathic, perceptive, passionate, kind, can be silly, analytical, gentle, politically progressive, conscientious, health conscious, and a little unconventional. I love learning and critical thinking, but also value stillness, embodied awareness, being in the moment, being with nature (inner and outer).

I think I should also say, as a way of revealing myself, that I think I come across differently in person than I do in this profile. I'm intuitive and in my body, definitely not someone who is always in their head.
What I’m doing with my life
I am on the cusp of realizing my goal of attaining a PhD in the little-known field of transpersonal psychology. Transpersonal psychology arose out of the phenomena of scholarly LSD experimentation in the late 60's. Since then the field has evolved into a whole-person approach to psychology and human consciousness states that emphasizes human strengths and potentials rather than pathology and recognizes the significance of spirituality (in it's broadest sense, e.g. deepest beliefs about existence) to the psyche. I am most interested in the link between profound spiritual or otherwise deeply meaningful experiences and the inspiration to transform society, in particular in the context of developing a better relationship with the natural environment.

I will be finding work at a post-doctoral internship as a clinician and/or as a teacher over the next couple months and I won't know where in California I'll be settling until then. Once I am there, i.e., in a place where I can hopefully put down roots, I want to focus on developing a beautiful, celebratory, eco conscious lifestyle (e.g., gardening, community organizing, spending time amidst trees and under the stars with others). I also enjoy traveling to beautiful places all over the planet.
I’m really good at
--Deep Tissue and Swedish Massage (I had a bodywork practice for several years while in graduate school).
--Seeing the big picture.
--Tuning in to "what is"
--Critical analysis
--Perceiving and responding to qualities of light
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A People's History of the United States, The Spell of the Sensuous; Environmental Culture: The Ecological Crisis of Reason; The Fifth Sacred Thing

Movies: Dancer in the Dark; Dogville; most anything by Woody Allen; Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind; 2001; The Shock Doctrine; The Corporation; What the Bleep Do We Know; The Future of Food; Me and You and Everyone We Know; Before Sunrise; Before Sunset; Warner Herzog documentaries.

TV Shows: Northern Exposure; Strangers with Candy; X-Files; Democracy Now.

Music: Van Morrison, The Beatles, The Grateful Dead, The Doors, Mazzy Star, Beck, Muse, Dead Can Dance, Moby, Radiohead, Elliot Smith, Cocteau Twins, Coldplay, Earth Amplified, Nneka, Taken by Trees, Morcheeba, and spiritual music of all sorts. I like reggae, earth conscious hiphop, techno/electronica, world beats, blues, classical, and jazz, too.
The six things I could never do without
I don't like to say "never," especially in this context, since I know how resilient humans can be from years of working as a counselor with impoverished and traumatized people. Things I would prefer not to live without include:

true love
a non-corrupt government
a pristine planet
a nature reverent culture
I spend a lot of time thinking about
--How to address the corruption of our political system.
--Synchronicities, where they come from, and what they mean, e.g., irregularities in the fabric of space-time; clairvoyance; omens/signs I'm on the right path; signs I should be paying attention, quantum non-local consciousness, etc.
On a typical Friday night I am
Living the hermetic life of a scholar.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Actually, I probably tend slightly toward over-sharing, thus I feel I must explain my photos. Ahem...I hate being photographed by others due to vanity issues.

...As a consequence my photos are old, scant, blurred, and those that do exist are poorly and self-taken with ridiculous looking facial expressions. I do plan on taking more soon, but please don't ask me for them as I know from experience that will forever turn me off to you on an irrational level of my psyche beyond my control.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 33–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You are not allergic to the word "feminist," politically progressive, and think we might find a genuine connection. I can tolerate a patina of jadedness, skepticism, even bitterness, as long as it is evenly balanced with kindness.