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spytndvl

52 New York, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:56am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I’ve lived and live a lot of lives. I’m an actor and editor who also has an MBA. (‘Cause it’s well established that the best way to make it to B’way is to get an MBA first.) By the time I was 12, I spoke three languages and, if you count six weeks in Germany after being born there, had lived in four countries. All that traveling gave me a taste for exploring, for new adventures. But an adventure for me isn’t simply going to a new country. It could be driving to Ohio to canvas door-to-door for Obama the weekend before the last election. Or scouting out what dockside joint in Maine has the best lobster rolls. Or inventing a cocktail for a friend’s birthday. I love the classics, too: I go back again and again to favorite restaurants or to a certain painting at a museum. I’m blissfully happy sitting on a porch, reading a book. A real, actual book! (Moby Dick and One Hundred Years of Solitude have been the past two summer’s choices.)

I believe in having the courage to take risks, to jump off a narrow path if ultimately your life will be better for it. (You know, the whole MBA and acting thing.)

I've been told I'm great company, fiercely loyal, and a good sounding board, someone you can trust to be honest with you.

I'm spiritual. Though I don't go to church services, I regularly visit a beautiful chapel to sit and think, to give thanks for what I have, to ask for help with life's thornier issues.

I love children. I'm proud to be an "uncle" to many of my friends' kids, probably 'cause I'm quick to be as silly as they want.

I like to keep fit. (Because of injuries, I haven't been able to work out for awhile.) I love to be outdoors and am always up for a hike in the woods. I eat well (organic whenever possible) and often and anything.

What am I looking for? Smart is very attractive. At the end of the day, the hottest part of any woman is her brain.

Passion is very attractive. You get bonus points if your passion happens to be for me, but the judges will accept any of the following: your job, a hobby, a cause, an artist, an author, some country's cooking, a certain region's wine...

Sensuality is very attractive. I don’t just mean the obvious (though I definitely don't not mean the obvious). I hope you enjoy the sight of the first shoots of green in spring, the smell of the air in the woods, the feel and look of fresh vegetables at a greenmarket. What’s more sensual than cooking a meal together?

Humor is very attractive. Tell me a great joke. Let's spend days and nights laughing with and at each other.

A healthy lifestyle is very attractive. If you're a huge athlete, great. If you're not, I hope you stay fit and eat well (and enjoy eating!).

Support me and challenge me. Teach me some new skill or something about life; I promise I'll return the gift. Respect my goals and dreams even if they don’t match yours exactly. Appreciate, maybe even like, our differences. I figure that if we each have to give up a little to make our life together better, we’ll do pretty damn well.

I’ve dated some amazing women, even been engaged, but I don’t want to just keep dating. I’m hoping to find a woman to spend the rest of my life with. No, I don't have a deadline, and unless our first date is truly miraculous, I won't be proposing on our second date. I’m glad to say that my closest friends are in marriages that I admire. I’d be thrilled if someday my friends felt the same way about me. (And in case you’re wondering, that’s my nephew in those photos, and yes, I made that pie.)
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to find and keep a balance between the lives I mentioned earlier. I'm happiest when I have that balance.

And making my way through "Middlemarch," this summer's "project" novel. It's a little daunting to be 80 pages in and know that I still have 90% of the book to go.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
One of the best compliments I ever got was that I always do what I say I'll do. And my friends (unfavorably) compare all other Manhattans to mine.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Do people notice other people in NYC? Let's see... That I hablo español pretty damn well for a gringo... That I'm wearing tights and makeup (Onstage! C'mon!)... That they just now got the pun I threw out a couple of minutes earlier...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many to list, but some books I've read lately:
The Art of Fielding (Harbach), Moby Dick, Rogue Male (Household), Dreams of My Russian Summers (Makine), Gone Girl (Flynn), But Beautiful (Dyer), Girls (Busch), One Hundred Years of Solitude, The Blue Flower ( Fitzgerald), Drinking with Men (Schaap), The Conversations at Curlow Creek (Malouf), Ce qu'il advint du sauvage blanc (Garde; inspired by my trip to Paris to read a novel in French!), Dark Places (Flynn), Out of Sheer Rage: Wrestling with D. H. Lawrence (Dyer), Believers (Baxter), Eating on the Wild Side (Robinson)

Movies... Oy! Top 2 all-time: The Hustler, On the Waterfront. Others (basically off the top of my head): L'Armée des Ombres, High and Low, Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, Verdict, Nobody's Fool (yeah, there's a definitely a Paul Newman theme here), Out of the Past, His Girl Friday, The Lady Eve, Tootsie, Princess Bride, Bull Durham, The Natural, True Romance, most everything by Hitchcock...

Some favorite NYC food and drink places:
St. Anselm, Fette Sau, Death & Co., Buvette, Pony Bar, Weather Up, Le Philosophe, Ample Hills Creamery, Bar Corvo, Pig & Khao, Kati Roll Co., Ten Bells, Babycakes, Redhead, Good Beer, Mile End, Slightly Oliver, Cannibal, Compagnie des Vins Surnaturels, Racines
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Does bacon count as six?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How soon I can get back to Paris.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I can see that it's the cliché answer on the website, but there really is no typical Friday night. I might be out with friends or home. Seeing a play or home watching a movie or reading a book. Or visiting friends in the country. Or in a rehearsal or show. Or some combination of those.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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At the Mermaid Inn my fish always curls up entirely. (If you have no idea what I'm talking about, go for Happy Hour, at least, at Mermaid Inn.)
You should message me if
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You'd like to go on an adventure, wherever and whenever that might be. Or on a whole series of adventures over years and years.

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