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30 Somerville, MA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 9:03am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It is so easy to get lost in the shuffle.

I grew up outside of Kansas City, a proud part of what meteorologists call "Tornado Alley," where I dutifully participated in D.A.R.E. and daily traced out the lines that define suburbia. I've seen three tornados in the air, two on the ground, one of which hit my house -- most likely an F1 on the Fujita scale, but I was 10 and am now prone to exaggeration. On that night 20 tornados were spotted in my county -- a faux-coincidence I then found profoundly unsettling. On an unrelated note, the basement was always my favorite place in the house: it was damp, dark, full of wolf spiders, and safe from tornados. Safe from tornados and wolves. I also had nightmares about wolves, dressed in pin stripe suits and white fedoras -- gangster wolves*, like the henchmen in Who Framed Roger Rabbit. I then spent 5 years worth of my weekends slowly helping my dad replace fence posts left weakened by said supposed F1 tornado, and further weakened by the cows loitering in our "hobby-farm." The only stick I can drive is from a 1950 Ford Tractor, and even that, not well.

Then some other stuff happened and I ended up here, in Boston--a city that declares an emergency when threatened by a dusting of snow.

*OK, they're Weasels. Thanks for ruining my childhood, you kill-joys.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to make my body forget grad school.

Riding trains from coast to coast; writing poetry on the back of napkins about the souls of the dead; cynically staring across the aisle at my untethered dreams; carving boats out of drift wood and setting sail down the Mississippi; making language out of actions and acting impetuously in the face of language. Maybe one day I'll do these things.

As it stands, I'm a postdoc. I work in a lab. I build “atoms,” get them real cold and measure them better than anyone else in the world.

I’m staying positive while positively applying what I've learned to the world around me; trying my hardest to resist becoming cynical.

But if I could make music videos like Spike Jonze or Michel Gondry, then that's what I'd do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Fuck it. Being sensitive to the wildness and weirdness of life. Parenthetical statements. Making hummus. Being a victim of the charitable deceptions of nostalgia. Gnashing of teeth; pulling of hair; drinking of battery acid. Seeing so much beauty in the world. SO MUCH BEAUTY. Overthinking EVERYTHING (following my gut at the last possible moment). Making strong Manhattans. Composing long nonsensical emails in a flurry. Regretting hitting send. Internal dialogue (verbalizing said dialogue). Literary flourishes. Falling in love with a feeling (if that’s even possible). Measuring my life out in coffee spoons. Being sentimental (falsely). Being infatuated with what it must feel like to be someone else (flagrantly). Empathizing. Spilling water on my computer. (re)Qualifying. Did I say thinking?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That a small tree frog lives in a hollow of my neck. I’ve also been told that I have hustle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Cormac McCarthy, Murakami, David Foster Wallace, Atwood, Eugenides, Marquez, DeLillo, Eggers, Chabon, David Mitchell, Jonathan Safran Foer, Franzen, Hesse, High Fidelity, Moby Dick, Crime and Punishment, The Stranger...

TV : Deadwood, Louie, Twin Peaks, Breaking Bad, Wire, BSG, Top Chef (haters gonna hate)

Movies: Cosmopolis, Drive, Tree of Life, Melancholia, 13 Assassins, Moonrise Kingdom, Warrior, The Fountain, Manhattan, Wild at Heart, Coffee and Cigarettes, Amores Perros, Neverending Story, Before Sunrise series, Lost in Translation, Romeo+Juliet, Eternal Sunshine.

Music: Radiohead, Swans, Beck, The Knife, Joanna Newsom, Magnetic Fields, LCD Soundsystem, Nicolas Jaar, The Field, Ghostface Killah, Fiona Apple, M83.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
BRUSSELS SPROUTS, “ctrl+z,” sriracha, awkward moments, an unattainable goal, cast iron skillet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If I want to stay in academia. The trappings of nostalgia and the underbelly of desire. The color combinations of my dream bike (yellow and black). How to challenge myself creatively. If I should double or triple the amount of garlic in a recipe. Our food choices. Where I want to travel next. Self discovery. The harrowing task of reconciling the distrust I once felt towards complacency and "settling down," with how appealing it sometimes feels. The immediate future and my intermediate goals -- I need something to strive towards or I'll get lost in the static. Would I meet interesting or insufferable people if I had an Infinite Jest themed tattoo on my lower back?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Most likely dancing to LCD Soundsystem in the lab, scaring the other postdocs.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can’t get If I Only Had A Brain out of my head...for, like, years. Before that, it was Andrew Lloyd Webber musicals. It is a problem.
You should message me if
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You are earnest, bold, inquisitive. You enjoy sarcasm but don't hide behind it. You are passionate about something. Being "laid back" isn't proudly featured in your profile. You want to be the Ru-Fi-Ohh to my Peter Pan. You want me to cook you something with too much sriracha.

I'm looking for the perfect combination of whimsy and pragmatism--metric still to be defined. AND, I'm super sincere about the "new friends" category.