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29 Pretoria, South Africa Man


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  • Ages 18–32
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Last Online
Today – 4:48am
5′ 10″ (1.77m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
When drinking
Atheism, and laughing about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Finnish (Fluently), German (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Swedish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm the shadow, the object, the sun. The empty air.
What I’m doing with my life
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I recently got my MA from general linguistics (minoring in archaeology and African studies). Now I'm working full-time as a Ph.D student in a linguistics research project focusing on a certain South African language. I'll be conducting field work in South Africa on-off for the next few years, commuting between Helsinki and Pretoria (a little under 10 000 km).

Sometimes I make some noise - with my vocal apparatus, on my pc or on the drums, preferably, and with other things, although I don't really know how it's supposed to be done with most of the latter.

I <3 cycling

Enjoyable, to me, it is, with language, so clumsy yet graceful, to play.

Travelling, where- and whenever possible. My wanderlust is somewhat tempered by how expensive and often unsustainable travel is, though.

And, more importantly: Planning, with friends, how to take back our lives and live them - slowly and not always that steadily learning the skills and doing the things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Saying stuff that sounds cool in my head
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Here comes the clutter:

music: I like music: free jazz to techno, folky ballads to hc punk and black metal, medieval and world music to the most modern abstract hip hop and back to baroque componists, to name a few.
I don't like dividing music into all those sub-genres, yet I know most of the genre names.

A few more or less representative relatively longtime love-affairs: Soft Machine, The Gathering, Why?, Sole, dälek, Faust, Neu!, Kraftwerk, Modest Mouse, Neutral Milk Hotel, Los de Abajo, Deerhoof, Magma, Vintersorg, Frank Zappa, Devin Townsend, Xiu Xiu, Venetian Snares, King Crimson, Pain of Salvation, Ojos de Brujo, Paco de Lucia, John Coltrane, J. S. & C. P. E. Bach, Igor Stravinsky, György Ligeti, Witold Lutosławski, Kaija Saariaho, Nuova Compagnia Di Canto Popolare, 久石譲

Some recent favourites: Swans, Agrypnie, Grouper, Pan Sonic, Six Organs of Admittance, The Knife, Bike For Three!, Paysage d'Hiver, Cocteau Twins, Daikaiju, The Monks, Silver Apples, Ellen Allien & Apparat, Wilco, Hermeto Pascoal, Lila Downs, Binni Gula'za, Konono N°1, MF DOOM, M.I.A., Blut Aus Nord, First Aid Kit, The Meters, The Pharcyde, Skitsystem, Agalloch, This Heat, Deutsch Amerikanische Freundschaft, Wolves in the Throne Room, Sunn O))), Jaakko Mäntyjärvi, Carlo Gesualdo, AGF/Delay, Mulatu Astatke, Fred Frith, Julie Doiron, Mount Eerie, Slowdive, Mihai Edrisch, Gire, Thy Catafalque, My Own Private Alaska, Hans Otte, Harry Partch, Aussitôt Mort, Celeste, Tinariwen, Terakaft, Tamikrest, Group Inerane, Chelsea Wolfe, Agrypnie, Nocte Obducta etc.

Listening statistics to satisfy my egomania:

books: satire, classics, historical fiction, science fiction, fantasy, and nonfiction stuff about e.g. popular science, biology, history and languages, and all kinds of weird books.
I'm also a fan of comics / graphic novels.
some favorite authors of mine: Neil Gaiman, Kurt Vonnegut, Stanisław Lem, Ray Bradbury, Neal Stephenson, Terry Pratchett, Ursula LeGuin, Dan Simmons, Jonathan Safran Foer, H. P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allan Poe, Mikhail Bulgakov, Ernest Hemingway, Douglas Adams, Henry David Thoreau, Günter Grass, Max Frisch, and all them poets (the good ones). Tolkien, for what his books did to the little me as much as, or more than, for the writing itself.

movies: I like movies of different kinds, and generally like movies. On the other hand, if a movie bores me, I usually get _really_ bored.
some movies, directors and styles I like: Jim Jarmusch, Aki Kaurismäki, the Coen brothers, Quentin Tarantino, Studio Ghibli -movies, movies from/about latin america and the iberian peninsula (e.g. El Laberinto del Fauno, Mar Adentro, Volver, Abre los Ojos, Villa Tranquila, Ilha das Flores), italian movies, asian movies (all kinds, but for example wuxia, jidaigeki and 60s/70s japanese youth films like the Nora-neko rokku series, some japanese horror movies and good anime), Monty Python -movies, La Jetée, Jan Švankmajer, Lost in Translation, The Princess Bride, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Donnie Darko, documentaries
I like watching movies a lot but somehow it happens way too seldom, and I gladly welcome any recommendations.

documentaries, news
black adder, jeeves & wooster, a bit of fry & laurie, monty python's flying circus, the young ones, not the nine o'clock news, the office (uk), harry & paul, black books
futurama, the simpsons, south park, superjail, ugly americans, pasila
the big bang theory, the office (us), scrubs, the fresh prince of bel-air, little mosque on the prairie
twin peaks, babylon 5, earth 2, the twilight zone, the x-files, doctor who, stargate, game of thrones, rölli
my name is earl, weeds, gilmore girls, californication, skins, freaks and geeks, oz, jericho, big love, life on mars (uk & us), boardwalk empire, breaking bad
agatha christie's poirot, sherlock holmes (the one by granada), sherlock, ein fall für zwei
cuéntame como pasó
i don't actually own a tv and rarely watch any shows on the intertubes :p
i don't really understand how this list came to be. i must've wasted my youth.

food: I really like cooking and learning new ways to prepare food. I mostly eat vegan. Not too strict about it when free food is offered though.
I'm interested in just about all the culinary traditions of the world. I especially like making salads, soups and stews and stir fries, as well as meals of many different dishes or appetizers.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
wouldn't necessarily want to go without: opportunities for indulgence; interaction with friends & other good creatures; music; beautiful sceneries & sights; action & inaction; hope
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-all kinds of languages
-specific people
-people in general
-other living beings, both specific and in general
-whether and how life could be made more bearable, even enjoyable, for said people and other beings
-nature both as a system and any of its interesting parts
-the world and all it's complexity
-politics & societies & cultures
-the history of the above, and history in general
-the aesthetic qualities of all the above
-the history of aesthetics too
-post-meta stuff
-freedom of information

actually i just think about whatever everyday stuff comes to mind like food or sleeping just a little while longer, and food. and when i'm hungry, i think about food a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out and about, nursing a stout, in between, nowhere to be seen.
Haven't really done a typology of my Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
ima oxy moron
You should message me if
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You feel it might be productive. Or as one more act of procrastination.
You like talking/writing about stuff, preferably stuff that I also like to talk/write about. Meaning we might have things in common, things that are absolutely rad.
(One thing I'm not looking for is a serious romantic long-term relationship. I am in one already, and for now that is enough. At the moment, though, there are about 10 000 kilometers between me and her, so we decided to kind of try this open relationship thing.)

More specific examples, if you're feeling special:

You have an awesome and broad taste in music? That's kinda superficial, I do admit, but as I tend to enjoy talking about music a lot, it just often is easier to converse with someone who knows their way around music somewhat (broad knowledge being slightly preferable to specific here, and history to theory).
Or maybe you have a passion for, e.g. freedom of information; the evolution of language; animal communication / animal behavior / animal intelligence / social animals; the relationship of belief and knowledge, and the restrictions to what one can know; the past and the future (just as random examples of things I sometimes like to ponder: theories about how Homo Sapiens spread across the globe or the im/possibility of a technological singularity)

Possibly you are intrigued by, for example, the (as of now, completely hypothetical) idea of a retreat, rural and/or urban, where people who get along well can go to do the things they like, undisturbed by all the bustle outside, for whatever lengths of time suit them, devoting whatever means they themselves deem sufficient for the maintenance of such a place. A place for individuals who nonetheless enjoy co-operation, maybe. Experiments in limited self-sufficiency might sound interesting to you, too, approached carefully (even slightly sceptically).
(Not that the retreat need be the primary residence of any of its caretakers - though it could be that too, for any who so desire.)