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57 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45–70
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:05am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Judaism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I am here to ponder, day dream, plan and marvel at all the possibilities of the "perfect relationship". I am a man that has raised the kids, blessed with a youthful body, optimistic outlook and work i love. I have old friends and new friends; and travel far to share some time with them. I mention this here because not many guys are lucky to have old friends that we still connect with.

I believe chivalry is not dead!

I am grounded, sincere, a loyal friend if we connect. I am also playful and know that i need work AND play in my life (this is a sexual and non-sexual reference)... i like puns but not fond of sarcasm.

raised on east coast, been a homeowner "here" for 18 years...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work with my hands and brain. I enjoy community, i like to help.

Counting my "careers."

I give without expectations. I like connections and community in all its forms. I enjoy making the world a better place.

Pondering the human condition as i go about my day. Enjoy moving and interacting amongst all sorts of people.

Helping my two 20 something kids become more self-sufficient and productive adults.

Promoting Meaningful Work: If you have it, you know it. Meaningful can be fleeting, you might be changing the world one little bit at a time... or through a big bang. Everybody needs meaningful work! This i know.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
using my hands and brain simultaneously; my power of observation.

I forgive relentlessly, and do not hold grudges.

I enjoy giving really good intuitive massages on my massage table as foreplay (really). I also cook, fix, build and make connections. I enjoy kissing... I enjoy life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Depends if i have my clothes on or not... ok... my smile?

I am comfortable in most situations.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The New Yorker as i put myself to sleep.

I went to school with creative types... my creativity is subtle and not in your face. I enjoy texture, all sorts of performance art, dance, music, images...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my health, the rest can be created
but.. not in order of preference:
good food
community and the tendrils of connection
whatever makes my lover smile
whatever makes me smile
sensual connection
i still grill with charcoal, fish, meat, vege's

only six?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Making the world a better place. Why are some people so greedy and some so giving?

Meaningful work.

Why universal healthcare for US citizens would open the floodgates of creativity... people would be able to focus on life and meaningful work instead of staying in boring jobs "for the healthcare"... it really isn't that complicated.

Why are some people so scared of taking chances?

My leftist politics and desire to create social and fiscal equality is something that is always on my mind, but I am not necessarily a sign waving type. OK, I'm a socialist and a home-owner, ethical business owner.

I spend a TINY about of time pondering OKCupid matches that are more this or more that...

Does my Jewish upbringing influence my decisions?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
music, friends, home... sushi, pizza, vacuuming... practicing guitar, random.
Pondering: why is this night different from other nights... or not pondering this very silly question
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I enjoy exploring my sensuality. My kinks don't define me. I have a private toy bag, i have some rope skills. I like to play, remember what play is (not necessarily a sexual reference, but can be). I like women my age +/- 10 years. I have enjoyed 3-somes and 4-somes but don't "do" random sex or sex clubs.

I am capable of monogamy for short periods of time, though i am not sure if it is an ideal.

I wonder what "new friends" or "short-term dating" means on OKCupid... is that code for something between casual sex and long-term dating? I only enjoy sex with people i like... so i guess i should check that box as as well, if there was one...

As for the boxes below... whether we enjoy our company or not... short or long term... or maybe a hot tryst... it all starts with meeting a new friend

I am not choosing "long-term" relationship because life is short... yet, i am a loyal friend if we connect.
You should message me if
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You are OK meeting a man for conversation, flirting, friendship and more of that exploration of the human condition thing. After (if) you read what i wrote above... remember, i am a responsible, grounded, sane AND playful man.

I am NOT seeking casual sex in the craigslist sense. Casual does NOT equal meaningless. I really enjoy being sensual ... i enjoy various forms of sensuality. i don't take my connections lightly, i enjoy sharing my rather sensual being with people i connect with

I enjoy the company of a strong women, yet understand that men and women see strength very differently. You likely enjoy life, enjoy the male/female dynamic. I am NOT a sub and dislike the DOM label, though I am very capable in that role. I enjoy serving/chivalry. A strong women means strong spirit and body, one who is not afraid to explore, state what they need/ want.

If you are interested in exploring and enjoying your life, maybe making a new friend.