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stark_raving

26 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:01pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
A stranger once told me that I both sing and curse beautifully. The more I think about it, the more I think that exactly sums me up.
What I’m doing with my life
I have an awesome job in children's book marketing, and I love my work and the books I get to read because of it. I was formed by good books for children, and I learned and am still learning so much about empathy and equality through reading.

But even more importantly, as I see and experience an increasing amount of inequality in the world, I look more and more critically at advertising and marketing and work to effect changes in that system from within. I love what I do because it challenges me to be critical of sexist, cissexist, homophobic, racist, and otherwise othering attitudes in media and to find new and more empowering ways to reach people.

On top of that, I'm fighting the urge to fuck off and live in the woods, abroad, or in a library. I'm examining whether I've chosen the best path to effect change and make a difference. And I'm trying to express how beautiful and utterly strange this life is.
I’m really good at
putting my foot in my mouth, laughing at myself about it afterward, fighting empathetically, structuring a compelling argument, dissecting literature, making people laugh, ranting (seriously or for laughs), holding myself to high standards, finger-painting pelicans, and telling people about books in a way that makes them want to read them.
The first things people usually notice about me
It used to be my awkward and usually hilarious first impressions, but now I'm guessing it's my pink hair. Hooray for moving up in the world!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
- anything and everything by Kristin Cashore
- The Golden Compass by Philip Pullman
- the Alanna/Song of the Lioness series by Tamora Pierce
- How I Live Now by Meg Rosoff
- the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling
- American Gods by Neil Gaiman
- King Lear by Billy Shakes
- whatever book I'm working on at the moment!

Music:
- Tanglefoot
- The Decemberists
- Tegan and Sara
- Fleet Foxes
- The Shins
- Metric
- Queen

Movies:
- Kinky Boots
- Lord of the Rings
- Step Up 3D (pure, delicious crap)

TV shows (you didn't ask, but I'll tell anyway):
- Battlestar Galactica
- Avatar: The Last Airbender
- Orange is the New Black
- LOST
- Game of Thrones
- Firefly

Food:
- Ice cream!
- Burgers (specifically from Dutch Boy in Brooklyn, but almost any burger will do in a pinch)
- Seafood (After all, I am from Baltimore!)
The six things I could never do without
- Critical discourse leading to positive change
- A challenge to focus on
- My sense of wonder
- Books with great writing and powerful emotional content (and feminist subtext, hoorah!)
- Close friends who think and analyze like adults but make time to play like children
- The belief that what we do and say is inherently meaningful and important, and should therefore be deliberate and self-aware
I spend a lot of time thinking about
intersectional feminism, the snarkily satisfying response to whatever might be going on vs. the response that might actually get shit done, how privilege functions and what I can do about mine, whether I and those around me are being emotionally honest and just, favorite book characters that I carry around in my heart like friends, things I want to do with my life, how good stories work, why people act the way they do, complementary colors, how and if I'd survive a zombie apocalypse, my friends and the people I admire, pirates, ponies, puns, and what I've just read and whether I accept its philosophies.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably making last-minute plans, because chances are I didn't think ahead during the week. But I always try to do something unique.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a list of things I want to do before I die, and it includes seeing the northern lights, learning to sail and blow glass, trying out vegetarianism, studying at Oxford, and getting a falconer's license.

When I see hollowed-out trees I'm secretly trying to decide if I could live in them, My-Side-of-the-Mountain-style.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 20–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
- you're crazy, contagiously passionate about something and you think you can share it with me
- you think like an adult but play like a child
- you have high standards for yourself and others
- you're looking for someone with whom to have an adventure (preferably through the back of a wardrobe)
- you fall somewhere on the queer spectrum and are open to the idea that attraction and gender are fluid