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28 New York, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:15am
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Average build
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A stranger once told me that I both sing and curse beautifully. The more I think about it, the more I think that exactly sums me up.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I learned and am still learning about empathy and equality through reading, and in my job as a children's book marketer I try to look critically at the publishing industry and work to effect changes in that system from within. I love what I do because it challenges me to be critical of sexist, racist, homophobic, ableist, and otherwise othering attitudes in media and to find new and more empowering ways to reach people. As time goes on, I'd like to take an even more active part in diversifying the industry, elevating the voices of authors who aren't privileged in the industry, and sharing the stories of diverse characters.

On top of that, I'm fighting the urge to skip out of the city and live in the woods or the desert. I'm examining whether I've chosen the best path to effect change and make a difference. I'm building and supporting communities where women can feel safe and supported together. And I'm trying to express how beautiful and utterly strange this life is.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people feel welcome (or unwelcome if you bring -isms into my space), getting you to laugh, understanding a piece of media's messages or a person's intentions, holding myself to high standards for behaving in a way that's empathetic and socially just, and telling people about books in a way that makes them want to read them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The blue hair's kind of a handicap on this one, isn't it?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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- anything and everything by Kristin Cashore
- The Golden Compass by Philip Pullman
- the Alanna/Song of the Lioness series by Tamora Pierce
- How I Live Now by Meg Rosoff
- the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling
- Code Name Verity by Elizabeth Wein
- The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie
- Through the Woods by Emily Carroll
- Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson
- Kindred by Octavia Butler
- American Gods by Neil Gaiman
- King Lear by Billy Shakes
- whatever book I'm working on at the moment!

- Tanglefoot
- The Decemberists
- Tegan and Sara
- Fleet Foxes
- The Shins
- Metric
- Queen

- Kinky Boots
- Lord of the Rings
- Step Up 3D (pure, delicious crap)

TV shows (you didn't ask, but I'll tell anyway):
- Battlestar Galactica
- Avatar: The Last Airbender & The Legend of Korra
- Orange is the New Black
- Orphan Black
- Firefly

- Ice cream!
- Burgers (specifically from Dutch Boy in Brooklyn, but almost any burger will do in a pinch)
- Seafood (After all, I am from Baltimore!)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Critical discourse leading to positive change
- A challenge to focus on
- My sense of wonder
- Books with great writing and powerful emotional content (and feminist subtext, hoorah!)
- Close friends who think and analyze like adults but make time to play like children
- The belief that what we do and say is inherently meaningful and important, and should therefore be deliberate and self-aware
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
intersectional feminism, the snarkily satisfying response to whatever might be going on vs. the response that might actually get shit done, how privilege functions and what I can do to cede mine, whether I and those around me are being emotionally honest and just, favorite book characters that I carry around in my heart like friends, things I want to do with my life, how good stories work, why people act the way they do, complementary colors, how and if I'd survive a zombie apocalypse, my friends and the people I admire, pirates, ponies, puns, and what I've just read and whether I accept its philosophies.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably making last-minute plans, because chances are I didn't think ahead during the week. But I always try to do something unique.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a list of things I want to do before I die, and it includes seeing the northern lights, learning to sail and blow glass, trying out vegetarianism, studying at Oxford, and getting a falconer's license.

When I see hollowed-out trees I'm secretly trying to decide if I could live in them, My-Side-of-the-Mountain-style.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- you're a feminist
- you're a Captain Awkward reader (or commenter!)
- you're crazy, contagiously passionate about something and you think you can share it with me
- you think like an adult but play like a child
- you're looking for someone with whom to have an adventure (preferably through the back of a wardrobe)
- you fall somewhere on the queer spectrum and are open to the idea that attraction and gender are fluid
- your favorite books list isn't entirely written by white men (did you have to check?)