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starshipedsel

49 / M / straight / Single

Bethesda, Maryland

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Ethnicity
White
Height
6' 3" (1.90m).
Body Type
Fit
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from med school
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Kids
Doesn’t want children
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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I am happy, compassionate, and enthusiastic.

My Self-Summary

I think that in the best relationships between people, the relationship develops its own ethos that guides the actions of both partners. And by working towards the needs of that third entity, one satisfies the needs of both self and other without any division of effort between the two.

Otherwise, I'm responsible, secure, and giving with a silly sense of humor. I'm bright and interested in just about everything. Professionally, I write medical software and am involved in a personal project to improve medical communications. In my spare time I sing opera, perform in community theater, and play board games with friends. I love good food of almost every kind, plain and fancy, and delight in finding new ethnic restaurants. I love rain and falling water, and have three cats and a koi pond. My friends say I'm dependable, honest, and creative. I'm looking for a lady of intelligence, wit, and confidence who has a giving nature; someone who is kind, strong, and happy with herself. A little zany or nerdy doesn't hurt.

What I’m doing with my life

Trying to make the world a better place. Right now that's by figuring out how to get medical information from one place to another. Spending time with my wonderful friends. Singing! Appreciating my cats and a good walk around the neighborhood. Searching for new ethnic restaurants, pie, and cool new (or old) words.

I’m really good at

Off-the-wall humor, coming up with original (not necessarily good) ideas, explaining complicated things, finding interesting stuff in anything, appreciating other people's good qualities, cracking myself up, not letting little things make me unhappy.

The first things people usually notice about me

Size! (6'3", muscular 250 lb). Then big smile, love of 50-cent words, silly sense of humor.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

No, no... too long a list. Some completely random ones:

Movies: Casablanca,GalaxyQuest,The Shawshank Redemption,The Lives of Others,Every Little Step,La Vie En Rose,Let the Right One In, Ray, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind,Star Trek 2 - the Wrath of Khan,Nightmare before Christmas,The Incredibles,O Brother, Where Art Thou?,
Slumdog, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The Princess Bride.

Music: Anything By Puccini, Queen, the Beatles, Tori Amos, most Jethro Tull, Eva Cassidy, Nat King Cole, Renaissance, They Might Be Giants, The Bobs, Cat Stevens, CSNY, Doobie Brothers, Ladysmith Black Mombazo, Loggins and Messina, Phil Ochs, Randy Newman, Stan Rogers, Trapezoid, etc.

Food: All ethnic food and all non-ethnic food that's done well. Good olive oil, prosciutto, coffee, fruit pies (oh yeah).

The six things I could never do without

A quiet place to live.
Good company.
Stimulating conversation (board games optional).
A creative outlet, preferably as part of work.
Good food, especially Pie.
Words and language.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Creative endeavors, especially writing.
Breakfast.
Love.

On a typical Friday night I am

Hanging out with friends or family.
Playing board games.
Going out to eat.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

For me, the greatest prize of a good relationship, friendly or sexual, is intimacy. When two people who like and trust one another take off their armor and allow themselves to be vulnerable, an exquisite thing happens. I cherish those moments above all else.

You should message me if

You're bright, sophisticated, silly, giving, strong, and happy.