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43 Scarsdale, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 38–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 16
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body type
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Banking / Finance
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I work in Manhattan and live in the the 'burbs. As a result, I'm looking for someone who either lives/ works in Manhattan or lives/works in Westchester. My job and kids are quite demanding, so proximity will make this a lot more feasible.

Hmmmm... well, I think I'm funny, but an audience of one isn't much of a survey pool. One friend did say I was funnier than Chelsea Handler, so I got that going for me... maybe.

I love being outdoors - beach, moutains, kayaking, camping, hiking. I prefer summer and being outdoors. I enjoy amazing gastronomic experiences. I'm definitely a foodie and enjoy cooking.

I am generally happy with my life. My friends, kids, and job all come together in a chaotic, happy mess that I enjoy immensely. In short, I am smart, sharp tongued, sporty, and happy.

I am looking for an equal, someone to share amazing experiences with as we fly through the universe on this beautiful blue - green marble. I need someone who can keep up and isn't threatened by success. The simple, weak stomach, or underachieving need not apply.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am having fun. I have great kids, a great job, awesome friends, and a very close relationship with my parents. Life is good. And while my life is complete and satisfying, having someone to share it with would make it all that more incredible.

And while this is dripping with crazy optimism, I am equally jaded and snarky.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring things out. Being full of useless knowledge. And guessing the right answer when the first two fail.

Getting to the point.

Surprising people with what I can accomplish.

Baking cakes.

Biting sarcasm.

Being a good friend.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile and that I am not what they expected, but in a good way. Apparently, I need a better copywriter.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: most books. I love to read fiction. Non-fiction always strikes me like okra. If done well, it's good. If done poorly, you wish you had a dog to feed it to.

Food: sushi, stinky cheese, Ethiopian food, Thai food, and French food.

Shows: Modern Family, Vegas, Copper (BBC), The Following, Under the Dome, Top Gear (BBC), MNF...

Movies: Caddyshack, The Mummy series (maybe that should be part of my willing to admit section below), Buster Keaton, Withnail and I, Much Ado About Nothing, Nightmare Before Christmas, all the Bond films (well, not all of them), action films, anything with Hepburn in it, basically anything worthwhile from the 30s to the 60s, the Royal Tannenbaums, Down by Law.

Music: most kinds. I enjoy more towards alternative/ punk, but you can find me listening to current hits with my kids. My Pandora account is wildly confused: Pink, Fugazi, Leonard Cohen, U2, Katy Perry, Beatles, Pixies, Rhianna, One Direction, Bowie, Imagine Dragons. You get the picture.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends. My kids. Music. Savory food. Wine and cheese (I know this is two, but wine and cheese is a devine combination). And some sort of mobile communication device. (In no particular order)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether people write profiles that reflect who they are or who they want to be.

Why my NFL mobile app hates me. It clearly is bent on not telling me the current standings.

Why so many men are photographed without shirts and with fish. There has got to be a cottage industry in shirtless fish photos. Maybe a booth at Coney Island.

Why men look better with hats. Maybe women do too, but I don't see their pictures in such abundance.

How to get off this online dating treadmill.

Why OKC gives me people in East Harlem as being local when I am in Midtown and why it gives me people as being local who are in Greenwich Village when I am on the train out of the City. I'm think OKC needs a geography lesson or to at least understand and appreciate NYC. This isn't Kansas where everything is a 30 min. drive. No offense Kansas.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home with my kids watching a movie, eating popcorn, and giggling like a teenager. Or out with friends for drinks and dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I want to be seen. I want to be known. I want to have an impact and be noticed. But not in a public way, not in a fame sort of way. But in a meaningful, personal way to someone, someone special. I want to be the muse.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You know what you want, are serious about it, aren't afraid to take chances, are self-assured, and like to laugh.

Don't contact me if you are hung up on your ex, looking for someone to replace your mom, or are just wildly sketchy. I'm not your therapist, mother, or freaky.