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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 5
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5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism but it’s not important
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
One who looks for art in the everyday.

If I tell you that you're beautiful, realize that it's not an achievement or a trophy but rather an attempt to share an experience. It's the same as calling a friend to tell her to go outside and look at the moon!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've spent 15 years as a highly paid programmer, but I've decided that I'm through working for the man. I'm starting my own freelancing business. I'd also like to make a mark in my field and attain some recognition as a musician.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Giving backrubs. Playing Traditional music. (Irish Trad) Dancing. (Contra Dance) Understanding what it's like to be misunderstood -- and using this to see how I can better understand the rest of the world. Making odd but interesting lateral associations.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm long haired, unfortunately. They also notice that I'm Asian, and that I seem serious. This doesn't reveal much which is really truly interesting about me, however. It's only fodder for prejudgements. I'd rather they notice something about how I ask questions.

Once you get to know me, I can be one of the goofiest people you know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Consider Phlebas. The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Klay. On Basilisk Station. Count Zero. A Fire Upon the Deep. Dune. Ringworld. (Yes, I'm partial to Sci-Fi. Hard Sci-Fi, please, though I do like the occasional space opry for fun.) The Selfish Gene. Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality HPMOR. Guns, Germs, and Steel.

Movies: Almost Famous. The Secret of NIMH. Lost in Translation. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. The Truman Show. Up. Winged Migration. Latcho Drom. Fight Club. Love Actually. Serenity. Princess Mononoke.

Food: Bibim Bap, Lentil Salad, Omelets. Pecans. Fresh fruit salad with toasted sesame seeds. Casa de Luce. Steamed Kale. Avocados. Artichokes. Grilled Asparagus. Italian.

Music: De Dannan. Altan. They Might Be Giants. Solero Flamenco. Imogen Heap. Lamb. Hespèrion XX/Jordi Savall. Tim O'Brien & Darrell Scott (Real Time). Kate Bush. Llan de Cubel. André Marchand. Fantasia Thomas Tallis. Orange Range. "The Red Priest" Yma Sumac. Fly Me to the Moon. Tori Amos. Lara Neao. Esperanza. Josephine Marsh. Edith Piaf. La Bottine Souriante

Radio: NPR News. This American Life.

TV: Battlestar Galactica. Firefly. Mythbusters. Top Gear. Weeds. Guns, Germs, and Steel. (Makes an awesome drinking game!) TOS.

Podcasts: The History of Rome. Skeptoid.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Playing Music.
Women who use their voice like an instrument.
Hand-brewed coffee.
The company of the whimsical and the curious.
Afternoon Naps.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to reach people.

My latest thing: the new minimum standard. It might be too much to ask for someone to die suddenly for their principles. How about being willing to die quietly and alone sometime far in the future for one's principles? It doesn't seem so much to ask, but in thinking about it, it seems that most people don't even do this much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Alone at home, reading, playing music, or doing a personal project. I might go out to a Hackerspace or to see something like Flamenco dancing. Lately, I've been tweaking frame drums.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I don't want to admit any of my private things. Well, if asked, I say I'm atheist. Really, most people just don't say anything about what they really believe or go along with the crowd somehow. There's probably some wisdom to that.
You should message me if
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If you often observe people jump to conclusions and wonder why they did so soon. If you are a clear thinking sensualist intellectual or artist. If you like the sensuality of motion and love its expression in the rhythm of traditional musics. If you are a lover of music without words. If you understand the language of touch.

(Moved to the front of my profile, since it was one of the best parts:

If you can listen openly when I tell you that you're beautiful, and realize that it's not an achievement or a trophy but rather an attempt to share an experience. It's the same as calling a friend to tell her to go outside and look at the moon!)