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ste4en

50 Victoria, British Columbia, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:11pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled."
Plutarch

Just returning and taking this slowly.
(Maybe time to re-write this but I'll get back to this soon.)

I'm a nice easy going liberal American transplant with a curious and creative mind. In person I'm very good at listening, asking questions and carrying on intelligent and in depth conversations.

Most of my friends and family live in the states but I'm happy to live in this peaceful little shire. I've got a good job that I enjoy with a nice balance of maintaining many good personal relationships and technical challenges. I'm a tech support guy who doesn't sit behind a desk all day and but gets to go around fixing and maintaining things for people in many departments.

I'm a creative, thoughtful, optimistic guy who likes a reasonable amount of inner peace but stays active in body, mind and soul. A friend described me as a Renaissance Man, something I at least aspire to. I place a high value on intimacy, intelligent conversation, nurturing and honesty and enjoy exploring and learning new things. While I have a career in the cyber world I have an MA in East -West Psychology. I grew up in a distinctly Jewish family in an old town in the suburbs of Boston, went to school in Vermont lived in San Francisco and traveled throughout India and hosted foreign students so I quite enjoy other cultures and ethnic diversity.

In my spare time I like to go for hikes, read, write, do a little yoga, meditate occasionally, go out to hear live music, dance, hang out with friends and sometimes watch movies or read. I sometimes play a wooden flute while I am walking in the woods and paint or draw when the inspiration comes to me. My major creative medium for the past 7 years or so has been writing a novel, some poetry and painting. I've enjoyed taking dance classes including modern-improv, ballroom and 5 Rhythms.

While I like my alone time and time with friends and my teenage kids, I would love to find someone to grow and explore with and develop an intimate, nurturing, life long relationship with. I really enjoy sharing creative work with others either in support or collaboration and I understand that there are many forms of creative expression from cooking to movement, drama, crafts, photography, painting, ritual, music and more. I've got significant longevity in my family and I'm pretty darn healthy so age matters less to me than maturity.

A Girl Who Reads:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lmEbF2uhsZk
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
While I have a MA in Psychology and Comparative Religion I work as an IT Professional doing technical support among other things. What I like about this kind of work is that it is a helping profession that provides a nice balance between personal relationships and interesting technical challenges.

In my spare time I like to go for hikes, spend time doing sports, games and crafts with my two boys, doing a little yoga, art, meditation, hang out with friends and have dinner and sometimes watch movies. I still enjoy climbing trees, though there aren't many to climb around here though Wild Play was fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Staying calm in the midst of a storm.
Listening and talking openly and honestly.
Creative collaboration
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
From what I've been told...
My inner calm, open mindedness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies:
Fiddler on the Roof, Shawshank Redemption, Everything is Illuminated, Little Miss Sunshine, Stranger Than Fiction, Pixar movies, Howl's Moving Castle, Spirited Away, Fellowship of the Ring, Avatar, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, Dreams: Kurasawa, Young Frankenstein, Blazing Saddles, the Power of Myth...

Favorite Books:
Thesaurus, People of the Book, A Tale for the Time Being, The Epic of Gilgamesh, the Odyssey, the Hobbit, Dune, Shambala: the Path of the Warrior, The Dhammapada, The Universe Story, The Dream of the Earth, Moby Dick, Why I Wake Early, The Cryptonomicon, My Name is Asher Lev.

Food:
Japanese, Thai, Greek, Indian, Chinese, ... anything tasty

Music:
Ambient: Brian Eno & Harold Budd
World Music: Ladysmith Black Mambazo, Ayub Ogaba, Ravi Shankar and Ali Akbhar Khan and on
Electronic: Tangerine Dream
Classical: Beethoven, Bach and Mozart, Postcards From the Sky
Folk: Greg Brown, Dave Carter & Tracy Grammer, Pentangle
Rock: Progressive Rock
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children
Friends
Nurturing
A little Yoga & Meditation
Creativity
Music, Art, movement
Nature... especially trees, mountains and wild flowers.
A good book
A handmade mug
Not limiting myself to just 6 things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The Art of Loving
What makes relationships work:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200410/relationship-rules
Not believing everything I think.
Not taking myself too seriously.
How to help my children grow into great human beings.
The curvature of spacetime
Simple solutions for complex problems.
The melting point of technology, nature, spirit, & psychology

"To straighten the crooked you must do a harder thing and straighten yourself."
Buddha
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes at home alone for a quiet evening with a book and the candles lit, sometimes over a friend's house or having dinner with a friend, sometimes watching a movie. As I learn more dance I'm open to going out dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I occasionally enjoy trying to figure out what muppets people remind me of.
You should message me if
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If you can get beyond gender roles and find my profile interesting.