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ste4en

51 Victoria, British Columbia, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:03pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a calm, creative, intelligent and passionate guy who is in good shape and has found a reasonable amount of inner peace. While I have a relaxed manner I am also a determined person and express myself creatively these days through art, music, writing and sometimes dance.

Various friends have described me as a Renaissance Man; something I at least aspire to. I place a high value on intimacy, creativity, intelligent conversation, nurturing and honesty. I enjoy exploring and learning new things and sharing and supporting others in their creativity. Sometimes I'm serious and sometimes silly when I get comfortable with someone.

I have always been an unusual person and I doubt that will ever change. I've always been into technology, fascinated by science, nature and spirituality along with music, dreams, poetry, philosophy, yoga, meditation, and enjoy hiking and being surrounded by trees. While I used to be into weightlifting, running and various sports now I workout occasionally but not obsessively.

While I have a career working with computers I do have an MA in Psychology. I grew up in a distinctly Jewish family in an old town in the suburbs of Boston, went to a radical liberal arts college in Vermont, and a specialized graduate school in San Francisco. I have traveled throughout India and lived with a Tibetan family in Dharamsala and studied Tibetan Buddhism.
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I've enjoyed taking dance classes including Swing, Modern-Improv, Ballroom and 5 Rhythms. While I'm not naturally good at dance I am willing to keep trying.

Although I like my alone time and time with friends and my teenage kids, I would love to find someone to grow and explore with and develop an intimate, nurturing, passionate, life long relationship. I really enjoy sharing creative work and growth with others in support and collaboration and I understand that there are many forms of creative expression from cooking to movement, drama, crafts, photography, painting, ritual, music and more. I've got significant longevity in my family and I'm pretty darn healthy so age matters less to me than maturity.
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Some Inspiration:

A Girl Who Reads:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lmEbF2uhsZk
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work as an IT Professional doing technical support among other things. What I like about this kind of work is that it is a helping profession that provides a nice balance between personal relationships and interesting technical challenges.

In my spare time I'm writing my second novel, editing a couple of volumes of my poetry, exercise, go for hikes. Sometimes I watch movies, bake something or play games and crafts with my son who lives with me part time. I often do a little yoga, art, meditation, and occasionally hang out with friends with whom I break bread. I still enjoy climbing trees, and though there aren't many to climb around here I immensely enjoy going to Wild Play park. I have a didgeridoo, a drum and some flutes gathering dust in the corner and a piano that I'm learning to play. In the past I have taken classes in African drumming, Japanese language and Jewish philosophy. This past summer I got back into refinishing wood furniture so I can see the grain better.

While I work with computers and software I prefer things made of natural fibers and wood and reading actual books. Handmade mugs and pottery are better by far than fine china as far as I'm concerned.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Staying calm in the midst of a storm.
Listening and talking openly and honestly.
Creative collaboration
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
From what I've been told...
My inner calm, open mindedness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Movies:
Fiddler on the Roof, My Fair Lady, Shawshank Redemption, Everything is Illuminated, Little Miss Sunshine, Stranger Than Fiction, The Red Violin, The Straight Story, A Serious Man, Despicable Me, Wall.e, 2001, Inception, Howl's Moving Castle, My Neighbor Totoro, Spirited Away, Fellowship of the Ring, Avatar, Dreams: Kurasawa, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, Young Frankenstein, Blazing Saddles, the Power of Myth, Dr. Who and Sherlock.

Favorite Books:
Thesaurus, People of the Book, A Tale for the Time Being, Dandelion Wine, Something Wicked This Way Comes The Epic of Gilgamesh, the Odyssey, the Hobbit, Dune, Shambala: the Path of the Warrior, When things Fall Apart, The Dhammapada, The Universe Story, The Dream of the Earth, Why I Wake Early, The Cryptonomicon, My Name is Asher Lev.

Food:
Japanese, Thai, Greek, Indian, Chinese, ... anything tasty

Music:
Ambient: Brian Eno & Harold Budd
World Music: Ladysmith Black Mambazo, Ayub Ogaba, Ravi Shankar and Ali Akbhar Khan...
Electronic: Tangerine Dream, Trance Mission
Classical: Beethoven, Bach, and many more, Postcards From the Sky
Folk: Greg Brown, Dave Carter & Tracy Grammer, Pentangle
Rock: ELP, Kansas, Queen
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children
Friends
Nurturing
A little Yoga & Meditation
Creativity
Music, Art, movement
Nature... especially trees, mountains and wild flowers.
A good book
A handmade mug
Not limiting myself to just 6 things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Finding the balance between knowledge, wisdom, and compassion in my daily life.

The Art of Loving
What makes relationships work:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200410/relationship-rules
Not believing everything I think.
Not taking myself too seriously.
How to help my children grow into great human beings.
The curvature of spacetime
Simple solutions for complex problems.
The melting point of technology, nature, spirit, & psychology.

On falling in love:
http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?_r=1

"To straighten the crooked you must do a harder thing and straighten yourself."
Gotama Buddha
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes at home alone for a quiet evening with a book and the candles lit, sometimes over a friend's house or having dinner with a friend, sometimes watching a movie. As I learn more dance I'm open to going out dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I find it strange that people in this culture are obsessed with shaving most of the hair off their bodies.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are creative, love nature and are interested in cultivating an depth connection.