Various friends have described me as a Renaissance Man; something I at least aspire to. I place a high value on intimacy, creativity, intelligent conversation, nurturing and honesty. I enjoy exploring and learning new things and sharing and supporting others in their creativity. Sometimes I'm serious and sometimes silly when I get comfortable with someone.
I have always been an usual and iconoclastic person and I doubt that will ever change. In my youth I was a technological geek but into art, music, dreams, poetry, philosophy, yoga, meditation, science, weightlifting, running and various sports.
While I have a career working with computers I do have an MA in Psychology. I grew up in a distinctly Jewish family in an old town in the suburbs of Boston, went to a radical liberal arts college in Vermont, and a specialized graduate school in San Francisco. I hace traveled throughout India and lived with a Tibetan family in Dharamsala and studied Tibetan Buddhism.
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Several times throughout my life I’ve been through different forms of individual counselling, as I am in now. This combined with having also studied psychology and done other forms of inner work and exploration, I know myself fairly well. I’ve also been through couples counselling and found it immensely helpful. Once upon a time in a life far, far away I participated in and facilitated regular community meetings, lived in a cooperative household, taken a classes in group dynamics and men's psychology, participated in a men’s group and went to college in a school where the educational style was based on both study and dialogue.
Dreams are important to me. I’ve always remembered and often have vivid dreams, documented them in my journals and thought about their meaning. Sometimes I explore them through dance embodying different characters and significant parts of the dream story. They are a good mirror to what is going on in our lives and feelings that aren’t always clear to us in the waking world. I’ve journaled most of my life, sometimes write poetry and short stories. Some have been published online and while I work to continue improving my craft I have also self published my first novel on Amazon to thankfully very good reviews and feedback from others. Along with that I can be a very imaginative and creative person.
Despite the fact that my work is technical, it is also very social. Doing computer support at a big school means I don’t sit at my desk all day. I get up, move around and visit clients in their offices, their spaces to resolve difficulties they have with their computers, software and connectivity. For me this is a path of service and I take this opportunity to get get to know and maintain good relationships with everyone and they often say they also benefit from my ability to listen and my calm and patient manner. I work, sometimes with great effort to let go of my judgements and frustrations to listen, be friendly, compassionate and helpful. My work is an extension of my inner work and I enjoy what I do.
Many of my friends and most of my family live in the states but I'm happy to live in this peaceful little shire. In my spare time I like to go for hikes, read, write, do a little yoga, meditate occasionally, go out to hear live music, dance, hang out with friends and sometimes watch movies. I sometimes play a wooden flute while I am walking in the woods and paint or draw when the inspiration comes to me. My major creative medium for the past 7 years or so has been writing a novel, short stories, some poetry and painting. I've enjoyed taking dance classes including modern-improv, ballroom and 5 Rhythms.
While I like my alone time and time with friends and my teenage kids, I would love to find someone to grow and explore with and develop an intimate, nurturing, life long relationship. I really enjoy sharing creative work and growth with others in support and collaboration and I understand that there are many forms of creative expression from cooking to movement, drama, crafts, photography, painting, ritual, music and more. I've got significant longevity in my family and I'm pretty darn healthy so age matters less to me than maturity.
I started off with Jung and Yoga when I was in my teens and began meditation when I was 16. I have continued exploring different forms of yoga and mediation off and on since then. In my 20’s I went to India wanting to learn more about Ayurveda and Yoga Philosophy but instead started learning about poverty, suffering, Buddhism and my place in the world. The beggars, the homeless children I fed, the priests, the wealthy and the lepers became my teachers. The Tibetan family I lived with and those in the community having lost their homes and their land became my teachers. The monks, nuns and others whom I studied under also became my teachers. The arrogance and selfishness of the wealthy both East and West became my teachers. I used to be fascinated with extraordinary states of being but now I am more focused on mindfulness, kindness, clarity and insight.
One of the most pivotal life experiences in my youth was completely unplugging for a year and living on some farm land. I did nothing but watch the progress of the seasons, wrote poetry, did art, sat by a stream and discovered a profound sense of being in the heart of nature. And I have been going back to nature ever since, to stay connected to the peace, beauty and wisdom I find there.
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