steely_thews
29 Bellingham, WA
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My self-summary
Thinker, tinker, traveler, unraveler, reader, writer, maker, baker, lover, and mathematician. I'm Pagan and I'm INTP.

I like puns and beer and the ache in my legs from climbing a mountain trail. I like to feel the pages of a book between my fingers and I like to spend all weekend in bed with a lover, just sheets and skin and sweat and the luxuriant power to give each other pleasure. I like math problems and goofy exercise programs and I like to laugh.

I am polyamorous: I think it's possible and desirable to enjoy more than one romantic, sexual relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of everybody involved.

I don't get jealous. I encourage the women in my life to follow their hearts and their lusts wherever those may lead, because I know that I am a man and a lover worth coming back to.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying it. That's what it's for.

I'm starting graduate school (in mathematics) at Western Washington University in September. In the meantime, I am traveling, reading, enjoying my loved ones and my lovers, and becoming more Pagan every day.
I’m really good at
Everything I put my mind to, except putting my mind to things.

Math, cooking, wandering, getting lost, getting found, philosophy, fun, puns, listening, sex (no, really. I'm very good).
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall. Really tall.

Also broad of shoulder and square of jaw, but I think it's the height that grabs people's attention. One of the OKtrends posts claims that most men on this site exaggerate their heights by 2 inches. I don't; I've got no reason to.

Then I open my mouth, and people notice that I'm a total geek. I make no apologies.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
Lots of science fiction and fantasy. Robert Heinlein, Cory Doctorow, Isaac Asimov, Charles Stross, Neal Stephenson, Frank Herbert, and such. I'm pickier about my fantasy. Lev Grossman's The Magicians is my current favorite: it's what Harry Potter should have been.

I idolize Mark Twain. I also like Kate Chopin, Ernest Hemingway, Ayn Rand (don't judge me), and George Orwell.

Polyamory books: The Ethical Slut, Sex at Dawn, Marriage and Morals (by Bertrand Russell). Stranger in a Strange Land, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, and Courtship Rites.

Ready Player One is AMAZING. Eccentric ultra-billionaire video game creator dies and bequeathes his entire fortune to whomever finds an easter egg in his game. It's chock-full of geek culture references, a total nerdgasm.

Movies:
Anything with Arnold Schwarzenegger, especially the first Conan. The Addams Family, The Royal Tenenbaums, Ghostbusters, Trading Places, Vicky Christina Barcelona, Creature from the Black Lagoon, Risky Business, Forbidden Planet, Water For Elephants, The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou. Even-numbered Star Trek movies. The original Star Wars trilogy.

Music:
Mostly classical music, 70's metal, or the blues, depending on my mood. Van Halen, AC/DC, Aerosmith, the Rolling Stones; Tchaikovsky, Rachmaninoff, JS Bach, Richard Strauss, Bruckner, Vivaldi. A lot of Flamenco, recently, too.

Food (!):
I love food. Grease and salt and fresh local veggies. Ethnic food, from Argentinian to Zimbabwean, and classic "American" stuff like meatloaf or funnel cakes. I love craft beer and red wine and small batch bourbon and dry gin martinis.

I do not eat mushrooms. Other than that, it's all good.
The six things I could never do without
Books
Occasional solitude
Tasty, tasty food
Stimulating conversation
Grand hopes and dreams
Sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to answer this question. It's been blank for most of my time here on OkCupid.

I think about everything, all the time. Books and math and women and social justice and world domination and flowers and non-capitalist economics and Greek gods and Greek philosophy and what to have for lunch.

Mostly math and women, though, I guess.
On a typical Friday night I am
What's typical? Maybe I'm studying, worshiping the moon, drinking with friends, reading, stargazing, or sleeping with you ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am hairy like Sean Connery.

And I play D&D.
You should message me if
... you know how to spell.
... you think I'm cool. Or hot. Or interesting. Or baffling. But not if you think I'm boring.

I always appreciate messages, and I always reply, because that's just polite. So go ahead: you can't lose.
Edit: I *try* to always reply. Sorry if some slip through the cracks!
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