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37 Santa Clara, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–41
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:27pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Space camp
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), French (Poorly), C++ (Poorly), Other

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My self-summary
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Calling a do-over on life, the universe and everything. It's time for Brand New Day...

Please know that it's difficult to write "funny" and "thoughtful" at the same time. Put another way: online, "the failure mode of 'clever' is 'asshole'."

"He's more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same."
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Decades after it happened, JFK's Gemini speech inspires me: "We choose to ... do the other things. Not because they are easy, but because they are hard."

Magical engineering behind the curtain to keep the internet as you know it from falling apart. At least, that's my day job. The size of my research projects list? Top gun fans might think "long but distinguished... So's my Johnson!"

I'm often inventing something that solves an immediate problem of mine, then giving it away -- open source, if you're into that sort of thing -- because I abhor the thought of humanity wasting more precious time on previously solved problems.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at shibari, writing code and while I won't be appearing on the food network anytime soon, people like it when I cook. I'm amazing at tetris and tetris-like activities (dishwasher loading, packing moving vans, international travel with carry-on luggage...)

After a bad day I'm more likely to tell you how to terminate the offenders and where to hide the bodies than to offer comforting platitudes... though my snuggles are world-class.

Recent snippets of feedback: "you're so good at making me feel sexy", "you're the best husband ever", "you win so many boyfriend points", "you would make an excellent cult leader!"
The first things people usually notice about me
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My well-written, yet intimidating prose.

Occasionally people hit on me because I'm tall and having have excellent posture. Maybe that's a polite way to say that it looks like I have a stick up my (well toned) butt?

I'm a terrible, horrible human being. Not really, but I do make some pretty awful puns. Have you heard the one about the neutrino in the bar?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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From time to time I'll sacrifice an evening on a pulpy thriller but preference goes the likes of Richard K. Morgan or Neal Stephenson. When not devouring something silly, I'll often be poring over some technical reference. XKCD, Sinfest, and A Softer World rate high in my morning comics list.

I'm fond of heist or caper films and spy movies, political or technological thrillers. Sneakers, Enemy of the State, War Games, Hackers, Thomas Crown Affair - you get the idea. Plenty of ground for debate on solving social problems with technical means. The last thing I watched on youtube was a cat licking a couple of ferrets.

I am something of a caffeine snob; it appeals to my fondness for ritual and craft, especially the daily ceremony of grinding coffee and running the aeropress. My cheesecake can take on Bettie Page and Betty Crocker, any day.

Among other things, my car CD is a mix of Gotan Project, VNV Nation, Delerium, Icon of Coil, trance, Deadmau5 and Bach cello concertos. Now seeking recommendations for a good baroque, chamber, or salon orchestra; SFCO was a royal disappointment.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* My chosen family: My wife boundfaith , my sweety pianississimo; and my cat basementcat (rescued from a snowstorm a decade ago).
* the Internet. It's like someone put a coffee shop in the Library of Alexandria. And it pays the bills.
* Novelty and adventure, because boredom and monotony will eat you alive.
* Nonmonogamy. I was never really comfortable with the notion of exclusivity, and I've found that poly helps me to better appreciate everyone in my life.
* Privacy and secrets. I'll gladly bend your ear about it sometime, but not unless you ask.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Psychology and language. If you have some sort of psych background I have some questions for you. Linguistics, machine learning, and translation would also be good topics for discussion.

Privacy, security, liberty as both abstract concepts and operational contexts. Code is my activism - less complaining, more fixing.

I hack appliances and recipes, the end result of which is genetically modified, polysaturated, high-glycemic, non-vegan, highly un-kosher awesomesauce. With extra peanut, dairy and gluten. And oh so much flavor!

Kittens and otters. Yes, I saw the article asserting that all the cute animals are actually pretty mean.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing something with telescopes. Sometimes you'll likely find me at Chabot grinding a big-ish mirror by hand, because I'm stubborn and tactile.

I'd prefer my Saturday mornings to be filled with lolcats and Roadrunner vs. Coyote cartoons.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There is a lump of uranium on my desk, which I use to find (and fix) design flaws in radiation detectors. That probably makes me an atomic playboy.

There are photos of me flying in a yacht club shirt, sailing in a dive shirt, diving with no shirt, hiking exotic locales in my swimsuit, laying on a beach not doing yoga, flying, and all that other stuff...just ask.
You should message me if
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... if you can get me a NRO or NSA branded polo (or oxford) shirt. Of course it's for irony.

Aside from that, if you found my profile somehow intriguing but don't know what to say, here are a few ideas:

* Tell me a corny joke or a pun; it doesn't even have to be original.
* mocking movies is your preferred way to appreciate them.
* if you want to go driving on twisty roads with loud music and the sunroof open.
* If you want to help reclaim Polyfuckery because it sounds like fun.
* if you're looking for a project hacking buddy. Example topics: aerospace, machine learning, psychometrics, security, embedded systems. Or if you can teach me about things - a crash course in FPGA design would be fantastic.
* if you'd prefer to grab a coffee sometime rather than wasting time with online chat. I'm always up for a shot of espresso, not looking for a pen pal.

And you should really, really contact me if you like being tied up.