Here’s what one of my women friends wrote to me this morning while encouraging me to do this online thing: “You are so wonderful and such a catch, with such a lively sense of humor generous big, warm hearted- you have nothing to prove and so much to offer without even trying.” Embarrassing, but true if not a bit over the top.
My relationship history can best be characterized as; serial monogamous long term relationships (6, 13, 20, 5 years are the major ones……first three were marriages, the last one might just as well have been).
I’ve spent vast majority of my adult life in long term relationships. It’s the way of being that I’m most comfortable with, and naturally gravitate to. Over the years I’ve become comfortable in my own skin which makes life in relationship an even more wonderful place to be. Over the past year or two, my notion of what a partnership/relationship might look like has loosened a bit. A 7 day a week live in the same domicile is no longer a requirement. What that relationship might look like would most likely be driven by the interplay of the two personalities involved and how the relationship might naturally evolve.
My ideal companion would be smart, wise, compassionate, kind, quick to laugh, a traveler, and voraciously curious, progressive in her politics, and most likely not part of an industrial/organized religion. She’d be physically active not out of desperation to look good, but because it just feels amazing to be active and well. She might even be a meditator. An interest in the arts is a good thing but not a deal breaker.
You may have noticed that I’ve just described Super Woman, a fictitious being that may not exist in nature. So I must emphasize that this is an “ideal”.
My professional life has been spent doing large art projects in public spaces. Some projects are in the area, many scattered about the country. It’s ongoing. I have no plans to “retire” from sculpting.
You know that saying; "Lonely? Get a dog."? I thought that was a joke. It turns out that there's a lot of wisdom in that quip. The dog you see in the photos is new to me (February 2013) . An Oakland Humane Society rescue, she's been a real life saver (figuratively) for me. You know those "long walks by the beach, quiet evenings at home enjoying a good meal"? It turns out that those things can be done quite well with a dog. My turtles and fish have no opinions about the dog that they’ve shared with me.
I love traveling, having been to Europe (France, Italy, and Greece), Japan, China, Kenya, and Mexico. I'd love to see south east Asia, South America, and more of Europe. Locally, my antique open top Alpha Romeo is great for day trips up and down the coast, out the Delta Highway, or any number of beautiful back roads that abound nearby.
My high school Spanish can get me by. I'm learning French.
Lately I’ve augmented a long time meditation practice with work shops and have joined a local meditation center which has helped move me off dead center…so to speak.
I love to garden; I have a generous back yard with many fruit trees, frog and turtle ponds, and I love my huge banana trees and bird of paradise plants.
For 67, I'm in great physical shape from running, biking, gyming, stretching, dancing, dog walking. People are usually surprised when they find out my age assuming I’m younger than my years would suggest. I like feeling and looking fit. I am attracted to physicality and athleticism in my partner as well. For my partner, age is not as critical an issue for me as conditioning (maybe at our age it’s state of preservation!).
I have two great daughters; one 40 who lives in Berkeley, and teaches yoga and yoga teacher certification courses as well as myriad body work disciplines. My older daughter, 43, is a landscape architect living and working in Oregon. I also have three grand children, two in high school, in middle school.
So there you have it.