I am a high IQ, beach volleyball playing, dog loving, over educated kind of guy. There are three of us like that and the other two are gay. Fortunately, I am as curtain shopping averse as the next guy and my Ipod is free of show tunes.

I get bored easily, so I like to vary my activities or take on new challenges. That is where the beach volleyball comes into play - the combination of technique, strategy, athleticism and group psychology always provide something new to keep my brain or body occupied.

Plus, I get to hang out with hot, young chicks. Yep, the fantasy is real, except for the part where I remind them of their fathers and they express admiration that someone my age can get out there and play.

I am a very self sufficient person and I do not require an audience to feel good about myself. I am often disappointed by the duplicity and gamesmanship involved in the dating world and my last relationship left me completely confused and emotionally exhausted to the point where I decided to just hang out with my dog for a while, read books and watch obscure black and white foreign movies. I like documentaries that make me think and debate my positions too.

I miss being affectionate and intimate though and I suppose that slight feeling of loneliness on Saturday nights has gotten to the point of motivating me to start thinking about what I really want out of a relationship and what sort of person I want to invite into my life and what to do with her once she is there.

I work as a programmer/analyst for a financial services company. What I mostly do is fix processes that are broken, expensive or dysfunctional. I am very good at that - detaching myself emotionally from a hostile situation, getting everyone's take on it and essentially just doing the right thing. I have learned that letting people vent their frustrations and making sure that their position is given the proper respect, regardless of their job title, is a much more effective solution than doing whatever some ignorant dumbass (including myself) thinks should be done.

The down side of all that is my life is like a mechanic's car - fast engine, handles the curves, but the windshield is cracked and the arm rest is covered in duct tape. And we think it is fine the way it is........

Finding the humor in any situation and doing really goofy, stupid things that make you wonder if I took too many shots to the head or drank one beer too many during my days of decadence. I can also consume huge amounts of food and wiggle my ears.

I give a decent neck or back rub too and I like doing it. I am a very physical, sensual person. Chasing down an errant shot at full speed, laying out with my arms outstretched and crash landing into the sand is a great feeling. So is kissing, taking a shower together and gently opening up one's psyche to another person.

I honestly don't know. People often tell me that I am completely different than what I look like or act like at first. I think I appear to be quiet, conservative and serious, but I think that is just my best attempt at pretending to be a grownup around people that are really invested in whatever it is that Rush Limbaugh or a beer commercial tells them what to do.

My favorite author is Kurt Vonnegut. No one does irony like he does. Chuck Klosterman writes great articles on music and society. Beyond that, I bounce around between fiction and non-fiction and like to keep current on the latest thoughts about what we are and how the universe works. Harry Potter was a great book, but it is not Faulkner.

I like foreign and independent movies. Most popular films seem like remakes of Spiderman 7. On the other hand, I can watch Silence of the Lambs over and over and never get tired of it. I also loved Knocked Up and Super Bad - my tolerance for profanity and twisted humor knows no bounds.

I like mostly classic rock, Radiohead and some techno, as long as they don't replay the same musical phrase over and over for 20 minutes.

I will eat anything and like to try out different foods. I go through Sushi phases and then don't eat it again for a year.

Besides my Ipod?

What is really happening, how to define and understand it given my limited senses and inability to read minds or travel through time. I have doubts about the existence of God, but even so, I believe that one can be moral and true to themselves without fear of punishment or accceptance into heaven being their primary motivating factor.

Out playing volleyball or tennis and hopefully, getting my laundry done so I am free to relax the rest of the weekend.

I get into new things every few months and tend to jump in with both feet first. If you don't think we have much in common, just wait six months and check back with me then.

You are sincere, have the ability to project how your actions affect the feelings of others and actually, like, you know, care.

You do not think Sarah Palin would make a great president and don't think Michael Moore would either.

You are cute and smart and can handle some well intentioned quirkiness.