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38 Wilmington, DE Cis Woman

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  • Ages 29-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
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5' 5" (1.66m)
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Dropped out of Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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In the process of moving to Wilmington and looking for new friends and partners in crime! Now, onto the part I dislike, where I try to tell you about me.

I used to be a grad student in English... dropped out because of depression and don't want to go back now. These days, I care more about social justice than analysing literature. I still love to read, but I read different things now (not so much 18th century literature and literary/cultural theory) -- right now, I am into reading good "Young Adult" novels, great novels, stories about runners and running or cycling, zines, nonfiction...

I think I probably believe too much in the goodness of people, but don't think it's a bad thing, even if I'm wrong sometimes.

The most important thing in life to me is to give to other people. I know it sounds rubbish, but it's true. There is way too much cruelty in this world. What the hell can I do to combine my empathy and "skills"?

In theory, I'm what many would call a political 'radical' -- I don't believe in capitalism, and I think it's oppressive. But no, I won't beat the shit out of you with my politics. Unless your politics are awful. Then I might have to bop you on the head before saying good day.

I'm working on meditating every day, especially when I feel like crap.

Oh, I'm not a fan of having lots of money or owning lots of things, though if I won the lottery (and sometimes I do buy a ticket) I would get everyone I know out of debt.

I love riding my bike. I love just hanging out with friends (need to make some in Wilmington!). I'm not a chicken, but sometimes I need some encouragement to do things that are a wee bit scary. And yes, I do want to have adventures.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to change things for the better in this fucked up world of ours. Right now, trying to find a place to put my effort everyday. New start in Wilmington. Trying to trust people more easily. I know that sounds absurd after I said I believe people are good, but they're both fucking true. Looking forward to exploring the city on my bike and on my feet!

Feeling a little lost, but doing my best not to let that make me feel like a failure. Trying to fail better (yes, reference to Samuel Beckett).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing. Researching.
Giving a damn about the world and its inhabitants (not just humans).
Trying to take good care of my cats, Emma and the "terrorist" kittens Edmund and Hillary. The terrorists are both boys -- if you don't understand their names, read about Mount Everest.
Taking baths.
Riding my bicycle, though not always good at paying attention while riding my bicycle...
Becoming a better cook.
Wondering when I'll get to take a trip somewhere outside the tri-state area and hoping it will be soon.
The first things people usually notice about me
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No idea. I've never asked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Prison Memoirs of an Anarchist, anything by Alex Berkman
Third Factory; Zoo, or Letters Not About Love, anything by Viktor Shklovsky
W, or the Memory of Childhood, anything by Georges Perec
Impossible Object, almost anything by Nicholas Mosley (yes, the son of Nazi sympathizer Oswald Mosley, but nothing like his father)
1982, Janine, anything by Alasdair Gray
Soccer vs. the State, by Gabriel Kuhn
Red Emma Speaks, anything by Emma Goldman
We Need to Talk About Kevin, by Lionel Shriver
The Third Policeman, anything by Flann Obrien
Scoop, anything by Evelyn Waugh
The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander
Too many others to list.

Withnail and I, The Pink Panther (originals), The Thin Man series, Gangs in Blue (documentary), docs in general, David Lynch, Jim Jarmusch, Charlie Chaplin, Truffaut, Mel Brooks, Japanese samurai, good sci-fi, Bill Murray, in general classic and foreign films. If I have the money I love seeing movies in the theater (by the way, Bad Grandpa was hilarious).

Twin Peaks, Golden Girls, Veronica Mars, Alias (I know it kind of sucked, but I loved it anyway), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, sci-fi generally -- Battlestar in particular--, futbol, It's Always Sunny, Arrested Development, Chris Hayes' show on MSNBC (an old friend and my ONLY famous friend...) -- to be honest, I rarely watch (please don't tell him). Mostly, I watch these on Netflix... and I'm watching less and less TV as it eats my brain. Yum yum...

Things that do not suck --
John Hiatt, John Prine, Mark Knopfler, Blondie, Bob Dylan, The Clash, Husker Du, Bessie Smith, Billie Holiday, Billy Bragg, Crass, Stars, Neil Young, Atlas Sound, Elbow, Dropkick Murphys, Gang of Four, Langhorne Slim, Hank Williams Sr., Lena Horne, Ramones, Deer Tick, Johnny Cash, Bear in Heaven, Nina Simone, Bon Iver, Blitzen Trapper, The Coup, Professor Murder, Dirty Projectors, Bonnie 'Prince' Billy, Warren Zevon, Elvis Perkins, Bruce Springsteen, Dead Prez, Tha Truth, Joan Baez, Justin Timberlake, Immortal Technique, Jackson Five, Mischief Brew, Michael Jackson, Marvin Gaye, Frank Ocean, Edith Piaf, David Rovics, Andrew Bird, The Antlers, Aretha Franklin, The Louvin Brothers, Dead Milkmen, Jeff Buckley, Leonard Cohen, Lost in the Trees, M Ward, Mavis Staples, Merle Haggard, Patti Smith, The Pogues, Prince, Ray LaMontagne & the Pariah Dogs, The Replacements, The Rolling Stones, Sharon Jones, She and Me, T. Rex, White Lung, Pissed Jeans, Frightened Rabbits, The xx, The X, The Zombies, Lyle Lovett, James McMurtry, The Smiths, The Ink Stains (RIP)...

I also liked seeing bands live in Philly that I have never heard of, as long as I can afford to get in.

Classical music -- I am learning, but so far I'm into Bach, Beethoven, Chopin, Glass, Handel, Haydn, Mozart, Satie, Schubert, Sibelius

At the moment, I think my favorite food is Brussels sprouts. I am a vegan, but only since December. I was a vegetarian before that. No, I don't want to argue about it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
All that shit we all need to live.
Samuel Beckett's words.
Friendly smiles.
A bike to ride.
Animals who are not human.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How fucking evil mental illness is. How evil prisons are, and how I should go about REALLY doing something about it. At the moment, to be perfectly honest, I spend a lot of time thinking about my terrorist kittens.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Um. Reading? Having a drink? Wondering what day of the week it is?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am recovering from a very severe depression. I can't explain it or tell you why it took over my life. Getting better, but if I feel like shit, I often watch HGTV, even though I doubt I'll ever own a house.
You should message me if
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If you didn't flinch too badly at this profile; and are not put off by my love of Golden Girls. If rather than flinching, you were interested or amused. You are NOT just looking for a hookup.