I think I am really different. I think that's a good thing, but for
most of you, probably not, yet I'm only looking for one person, who
will like what he sees and reads and when we meet that will be the
beginning of something special.
Ideas, beliefs, interests, engagement, being fully there in the moment, emotionally, intellectually and physically are what life is about and what I try to be and crave in others. It hardly matters what you do, it's really how you do it. Passion, laughing from the gut, giving 110%, especially when you think you've hardly got 100% left in you, pushing that extra bit--it's what changes the ordinary into the extraordinary. Kindness that comes from seeing people and accepting them, loving that comes without judgement (judgement is different that criticism), compassion that comes from gratitude for all that we have and others may not are qualities that draw me to people as friends and as lovers.
If anything above resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Something I learned as an adult that made me sad and a little wistful is that there were boys/men in my life who were interested in me, "had crushes" on me and who I was similarly interested in too, yet neither of us expressed or acted upon it. While you can't have regrets, I hope I have learned to act without too much fear and hope you will too. What have we got to lose?
In the interest of fair play, here are some things I really like to do. Art museums--mostly modern and conceptual. But also folk art and handmade things. I collect paintings and sculpture of things that fly. I like many kinds of music--from the American songbook up to and including rap and hip-hop but not oldies or doo-wop so much, readings, lectures, talking about ideas, playing games--scrabble, poker, etc...7-day a week NYTimes crosswords. In addition to intellectual and artistic pursuits, I am a highly physical person but not really an athletic person; like outdoor activities especially sailing, kayaking, anything in or on the water. Not a skier, but excellent at apres-ski. Sensuous and sensual, touching and talking are my main forms of meaningful communication. Seriously good home cook, I know how to throw a great party, but often I'm throwing everything loose into the spare room and shutting the door. People love to come to my place and I love to entertain.
Humor is an aphrodisiac. If you think so too, then make me laugh. I will return the favor.
What works for me? Lots of different things. But kind, smart, funny is a good place to start. While I am often attracted to boyishness, I like a man who's a man. If you combine a bit of the boy in the man, I'm yours. Patient, loving, courteous to those interact with are good qualities too. Beyond that, it’s chemistry and that takes a note, a call, a date. So write...ya never know.
Ideas, beliefs, interests, engagement, being fully there in the moment, emotionally, intellectually and physically are what life is about and what I try to be and crave in others. It hardly matters what you do, it's really how you do it. Passion, laughing from the gut, giving 110%, especially when you think you've hardly got 100% left in you, pushing that extra bit--it's what changes the ordinary into the extraordinary. Kindness that comes from seeing people and accepting them, loving that comes without judgement (judgement is different that criticism), compassion that comes from gratitude for all that we have and others may not are qualities that draw me to people as friends and as lovers.
If anything above resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Something I learned as an adult that made me sad and a little wistful is that there were boys/men in my life who were interested in me, "had crushes" on me and who I was similarly interested in too, yet neither of us expressed or acted upon it. While you can't have regrets, I hope I have learned to act without too much fear and hope you will too. What have we got to lose?
In the interest of fair play, here are some things I really like to do. Art museums--mostly modern and conceptual. But also folk art and handmade things. I collect paintings and sculpture of things that fly. I like many kinds of music--from the American songbook up to and including rap and hip-hop but not oldies or doo-wop so much, readings, lectures, talking about ideas, playing games--scrabble, poker, etc...7-day a week NYTimes crosswords. In addition to intellectual and artistic pursuits, I am a highly physical person but not really an athletic person; like outdoor activities especially sailing, kayaking, anything in or on the water. Not a skier, but excellent at apres-ski. Sensuous and sensual, touching and talking are my main forms of meaningful communication. Seriously good home cook, I know how to throw a great party, but often I'm throwing everything loose into the spare room and shutting the door. People love to come to my place and I love to entertain.
Humor is an aphrodisiac. If you think so too, then make me laugh. I will return the favor.
What works for me? Lots of different things. But kind, smart, funny is a good place to start. While I am often attracted to boyishness, I like a man who's a man. If you combine a bit of the boy in the man, I'm yours. Patient, loving, courteous to those interact with are good qualities too. Beyond that, it’s chemistry and that takes a note, a call, a date. So write...ya never know.
