"would you tell me, please,
which way i ought to go from here?"

"that depends a good deal
on where you want to get to," said the cat.

"i don't much care where---"

"then it doesn't matter
which way you go."

"---so long as I get somewhere,"

"oh you're sure to do that,
if you only walk long enough."

(lewis carroll, alice's adventures in wonderland)

combine stimpy with the cheshire cat, and you pretty much have the encapsulation of what's in my head on any given day.

(before you send me a message, especially if you are a straight male, please scroll all the way to the end of my profile and read the footnote.)

some adjectives for your consideration: odd. short. silly. unfiltered. fat. emotional. helpful. organized. adventurous. awkward. creative. socialist. ubuntu. sapiosexual. nibbler. cuddler. fruitbat. muppety. adorkable.

i want to help others through meaningful talk and touch. i write like i think, which is generally scattered. i'm seeking sincere, meaningful connections with people whom i find interesting. i can be fluffy and wu, but i'll kick your ass in a cagematch of wits: i'm not a doormat. i can go from calm water to a can of brawndo in no time.

REBOOT.
i left boston and a 20-year relationship behind that has left me asking a lot of questions about damn near everything. i'm an optimistic skeptic, slightly apoplectic, and seeking life un-hectic. in general i'm happy with who i am, but...

i want to melt into someone much like a cat drinks in a warm sunbeam. nothing --and no one-- remains static (just like that sunbeam), so i'm looking for someone who can learn and grow and cope with the stuff that invariably ends up on your emotional doorstep. part of my journey is finding the complementary brain and banter to mine.

i seek a more intentional life. i want to do ALL THE THINGS.

in the work realm, i am a creative: i'm a graphic designer who specializes in brand and social media, and my skills include project management, layout, typography, writing, editing, and print production. i'm also a photographer.

-brand
-design
-writing
-journalistic photography
-herding cats
-hugging
-consuming chai lattes without
getting a glop of foam on my lip
-conversing
-being ridiculously helpful
-delusions of grandeur
-cooking tasty food
-organizing
-making others feel whole

my unkempt but strangely well-intentioned outfit.

my manic, scattered, circuitous approach to conversation. you may call it a tangent; i call it the scenic route.

perhaps my hair.
(it used to be crimson, but now it's almost black)

watership down was my first favourite book. i don't read much fiction these days, but i do enjoy stories of the fantastical, the macabre, the weird. the same goes for movies. i love underdogs.

shows come and go. a long-term favourite is the daily show. i'm currently watching past seasons of true blood with my roommate. cheesy acting notwithstanding, i am enjoying vampire drama.

i'm not really an avid television watcher. i was recently introduced to slings & arrows and wonderfalls, two rather odd canadian shows featuring tormented yet affable protagonists faced with rather surreal situations. i'm smitten with both. i would like to watch more dr. who. in the past, i've watched the following with regularity: how i met your mother, late late show with colin ferguson, glee, the walking dead, dollhouse, heroes, firefly, and nikita.

music is all over the map. i like tribal drums; i love cello and strings played in minor chords. i like goth/industrial music. i like fiddles and ethereal music. my playlist is entitled "weirdo eclectic." interpret as you wish.

food makes me happy. i always try to eat something i've never had before if given the chance. i love brazilian rodizio barbeque, especially when they have chicken hearts. (i'm sorry, chickens.) i know how to cook fairly well, and i enjoy cooking for others. i love ethiopian food, but only with others. i love communal food in general. and eating with my hands. tea and cheese make me happy. and i do believe that the first time i saw PAUL bakery upon emerging from the archives metro stop in DC, i may have heard a faint choir of angels.

i'm not vegetarian. but i don't consider meat central to my diet. i'm not going to eat a slab of cow in front of vegetarians; that just feels gauche. if you have serious food-fu, you can turn me into pudding when you say things like "let me show you my cheese cave."

this list would change dramatically in the event of a zombie apocalypse. i would love to see a dating site based on finding partners with whom to survive the zombie apocalypse...

a happy helmet, for times when i am sad.

art in all its forms, for it's what keeps us human. or feline.

new experiences. travel has expanded my perception of the world, and trying new things has always been a panacea for stagnation.

touch, whether it's a friendly hug or a sensual touch with the intention for more.

interesting people who inspire me. i have a few choice individuals in my life, and there's always room for more...

should you message me, please suggest the last one:
_________________________________________
because i always love new adventures.

how i can be a better version of myself.

what socks to wear.

my general disdain for autocorrect, and the lack of personal responsibility for correct and conscientious communication. and the careless bludgeoning of homophones.

the virtual nature of our lives, and how talk, touch, and tactile, tangible interaction has become too few and far between.

things that i gave up long ago that i would like to attempt again. piano, archery, horseback riding, rowing, painting. and hiking: i used to hike somewhat, but while hiking Killington (VT) in 1994, I ripped my ankle ligament and injured my achilles. even after reconstructive foot surgery in 2002, i haven't been able to handle uneven terrain.

i want to be healthier. and yes, more height-weight proportional.

not really differentiating friday from any other night of the week, save for the ability to be up later than usual without feeling tired the following morning.

but the purpose of this question is to get me to divulge my social tendencies. so: board games, movies, hanging out or cooking dinner for friends, catching up on design projects, snorgling a dog, a cat, or a willing cuddle-buddy.

grey. right.

(and if you didn't answer this question because you're trying to be all mysterioso, read it again; it's the most private thing you're WILLING to admit. geez.)

my disregard for capitalization intrigues you.

you like quirky fat chicks and don't mind a silly girl who wears her heart on her sleeve.

you have the ability to write intelligent messages with some element of wit and grammatical prowess involved. i do not reply to messages with banal, poorly written content.

you adore meandering conversations and maudlin days spent with a curious, cuddly companion who bestows adoration and nibbles.

or your text-fu is concise and a bit slutty.

NOTE.
(especially for all you straight males out there...)

if you do not have a profile photo, or a profile for that matter, or are a conservative republican, or have less than an 70% match/friend percentage with me, or have negative answers for the "overweight" questions on your profile (oh yes. i check), or are looking for a hookup here because craigslist isn't working out for you, or you can't seem to form a message without spelling at least 90% of your words correctly, or answered the question "the most private thing you're willing to admit" with an asinine response of "it wouldn't be private" (and thus not answering the question, you doofus) .... don't expect to hear back from me. and please stop writing to me. i'm not sure what women like these types of advances, but i'm certainly not one of them.

/rant.
as you were.