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44 F Washington, DC

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 32–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Jul 15
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
JUNE 2014:
no longer single. OKC works! :D


"would you tell me, please,
which way i ought to go from here?"

"that depends a good deal
on where you want to get to," said the cat.

"i don't much care where---"

"then it doesn't matter
which way you go."

"---so long as I get somewhere,"

"oh you're sure to do that,
if you only walk long enough."

(lewis carroll, alice's adventures in wonderland)

combine stimpy with the cheshire cat, and you pretty much have the encapsulation of what's in my head on any given day.

some adjectives for your consideration (tl;dr):
odd. short. silly. unfiltered. fat. emotional. freak. helpful. organized. queer-ish. adventurous. awkward. compassionate. creative. kinky. browncoat. socialist. ubuntu (the philosophy, not the OS). primal. empathic. sapiosexual. cuddly. fruitbat. muppety. adorkable.

i've been told i'm too femme to be queer, and too queer to be femme. thankfully, i'm entirely too cheshire-stimpy to take any of this labeling seriously. and amazeballs people like witchbabyblue make me feel that i'm doing just fine being my diverse little self.

(and for what it's worth, i rock both. fantastically.)

i want to help others through meaningful talk and touch. i write like i think, which is generally scattered. i enjoy sincere, serendipitous connections with interesting, intelligent people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i'm an optimistic skeptic, slightly apoplectic, with a love of dialectic. i'm happy to be a smart and adorkable deviant with a penchant for knee socks, altruism, and witty repartee.

i found complementary brain and banter to mine. after almost exactly one year in the DC area, and when i had pretty much given up hope, malik_s showed me that there is, indeed, a yang to my yin. i am enjoying adventures and cuddling and witty repartee and ... and....

i am highly attentive. i'm both easygoing and intense. my humour is dark; i like to observe the ridiculous in human life and draw from it. i've spent more than enough energy in trying to be what i thought i SHOULD be, so now i'm simply enjoying who i am.

i want to do all the things.
(there is a light that never goes out.)

i am a creative--a graphic designer specializing in brand and social media. i'm also a photographer. i'm working part-time and seeking a better job. i have wanderlust and don't quite know where i am meant to be (geographically). i feel very much like a blank canvas at times.

“the torch of doubt and chaos, this is what the sage steers by”
– chuang tzu
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
herding cats
being helpful and supportive
recruiting minions for deeds of debauchery
feeding people
helping others feel whole and loved
adventure logistics
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"she's not quite right, that one."
(….what? is it my devious grin? my hair on fire?)

"she's an amazing writer."

"how do you DO that?"
(referring to my ability to engage strangers in 45-minute conversations complete with laughter and audience participation)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
watership down was my first favourite book. i need to read more. i'm not happy with my inability to read more regularly. i enjoy stories of the fantastical, the macabre, the weird. the same goes for movies. i love underdogs.

shows come and go. a long-term favourite is the daily show. i'm not really an avid television watcher. i like shows featuring tormented yet affable protagonists faced with rather surreal situations. i would like to watch more dr. who. in the past, i've watched how i met your mother, late late show with colin ferguson, dollhouse, and firefly. currently enjoying agents of s.h.i.e.l.d..

music is all over the map. i like tribal drums; i love cello and strings played in minor chords. i like goth/industrial music. i like fiddles and ethereal music. i like gypsy cirque steampunk melodic melees. my playlist is entitled "weirdo eclectic." random list of artists in my collection: lacuna coil, collide, sisters of mercy, balkan beat box, humanwine, elsiane, front line assembly, delerium, queen, gotan project, conjure one, this morn' omina, decemberists, beats antique, florence+the machine, kmfdm, destroid, das ich, blue stone. and as of january 2014, i'm finding a love of reverend horton heat and similar artists. and puppini sisters. of course, it always helps to have a boy to dance with. :)

food makes me happy. i always try to eat something i've never had before if given the chance. i love brazilian rodizio barbeque, especially when they have chicken hearts. (i'm sorry, chickens.) i know how to cook fairly well, and i enjoy cooking for others. i love ethiopian food, but only with others. i love communal food in general. and eating with my hands. tea and cheese make me happy. and the first time i saw PAUL bakery upon emerging from the archives metro stop in DC, i may have heard a faint choir of angels. it's not real baguette, but it will do.

i'm not vegetarian. but i don't consider meat central to my diet. i'm not going to eat a slab of cow in front of vegetarians; that just feels gauche. i'm easily turned into pudding by a person who can seduce me with food and funtimes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
this list would change dramatically in the event of a zombie apocalypse. i would love to see a dating site based on finding partners with whom to survive the zombie apocalypse...

a happy helmet, for times when i am sad.
(see also: thunder buddy)

id. that space underneath our higher reasoning that allows us to appreciate fire and frolic.

new experiences. travel has expanded my perception of the world, and trying new things has always been a panacea for stagnation.

touch, which actually spans quite a gamut depending on who i'm touching.

inspiration. i am always trying to find things that will get my body or mind up and running.

that growl in my ear when he says, "mine."
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how i can be a better version of myself.

becoming a counselor and officially helping all my fellow awesome freaks and weirdos of the world.

what socks to wear.

my disdain for autocorrect, and the lack of concise conscientious communication. rampant bludgeoning of homophones.

dunbar's number and its relationship to social media.

the virtual nature of our lives, and how talk, touch, and tactile, tangible interaction has become too few and far between.

really conservative republicans.

things that i gave up long ago that i would like to attempt again.

finding that person who is my trifecta of intelligent, kind, and imaginative. (achievement unlocked! thanks to malik_s)

"'romantic' doesn't mean 'sugary.' it's dark and tormented — the furor of passion, the despair of an idealism that you can't attain"
- catherine breillat
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not really differentiating friday from any other night of the week. friday is not special. there is nothing magical about a friday evening that makes it different than, say, a tuesday. any night can be friday night!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
the bandanas go in my right pocket.

(and if you didn't answer this question because you're trying to be all mysterioso, read it again; it's the most private thing you're WILLING to admit. geez.)
You should message me if
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my disregard for capitalization intrigues you.

you like quirky chicks for comforting, casual, curious conversations.

you write intelligent messages with wit and grammatical prowess.

you like tea. and its accoutrements.

i'm completely, maddeningly besotted with malik_s, so i'm not responding to messages asking for shenanigans. so those of you trying to be coy about being poly/open, whatever? i'm good, thanks.