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45 M Madison, WI

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Last Online
Apr 15
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
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Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
So maybe I'll try an actual summary for once?

I'm a most-likely-rather-more-average-than-I'd-prefer-to-admit-to-myself skinny white dude.

I like gatherings of friends, I don't much like gatherings of strangers, and I have no problem with spending time by myself. I'm kind of an extroverted introvert: I'm energized by social contact, but I'm picky. Not just anyone will do. No one can be better than some one.

One of those little tests floating around the intarwebz once told me that my brain's hemispheric dominance is pretty evenly distributed between both sides, with a slight emphasis on the left. I like the trees for the trees and the forest for the forest. I like to put the trees in relation to the forest (and vice versa, of course). But I love right-side creativity more than left side.

I was raised a dog person but I have a cat. I love animals generally and they like me back almost always, but if they don't I don't push it, because that's rude.

Before I was the highly-sexed Pool Boy, I was the highly romantic Slow Dancer. I'm somewhere in the middle there I suppose.

I love to study but I am *super* glad I didn't get into an academic career.

I am a dreamer, a joker, and by nature an undisciplined thinker (as my philosophy professors conveyed to me in grad school); I got into databases and programming by accident, discovered I loved it, and came to learn the (in my view) indispensable lesson that theory doesn't count for beans if your code won't run.

I laugh easily, but I do not consider all jokes equal in the eyes of the Lord. I like Silly. I like Wrong. I like Dry; but also Wet. I have a soft spot for Wacky Character Names. Neologisms are Great Fun. I am not above The Pun. Will I make you laugh? No, but I will fool you into thinking I did. While stealing your wallet.

I will occasionally use emoticons. :o

I choose open windows and real air over a/c. To give you an idea what I mean: remember 2012's heat wave/drought? First time I ever bought an a/c unit. In my life. I used it at night only, so I could get some sleep. During the day I relied on being in my skivvies, a constant glass of ice water, and not moving much.

I'm a morning person. Not farmer-mornings, but still mornings. I usually go to bed early and often get up before 8, and mornings are when I'm freshest and seem to enjoy the world most. Now, I love me some night people, some of my best friends are night-people, but I'm not night-people, I'm yawning. I wish it were otherwise but that's mainly how it is. For someone I'm into, however, regular exceptions have been known to be made.

I hope that zen is the future of all religion. Though it probably isn't.

I am fascinated by comedians talking about their craft. I love music documentaries. I love comics, comic books and online comics.

I like to write. I consider myself an excellent writer. I take all my writing seriously (even this stuff, I moved paragraphs around to get the best flow, Jeebus Presley save me). But I am not interested in bringing whatever identity I have as an excellent writer into criticism of another person's writing. That's not to say I'm not critical. I am.

Most importantly, I say "gif" with a hard G.
What I’m doing with my life
For The Man, I'm a self-employed workin'-stiff programmer. I work from home. I have one client. I do web apps. I use ruby and perl, mostly ruby because that's where my client has gone, but perl is my first love. Perl and I think alike. I can think like ruby, but it takes a little more effort. (For the more geekily inclined among you, I consider it Bad that ruby has no "use strict" (what? coders don't love deliberately testing each and every if-clause to see if there's a typo in a variable name?), and Wrong that ruby's objects pass internal variables by reference and not by value. I know it's crazy, but they do.) I keep reading profiles on here where people say that they love their jobs. I don't Love my job, it's on the boring side, but I like it, it does a lot right.

What I really live for are my creative projects. These change (and are not always "projects", formally speaking, but maybe just sort of what I'm doing lately). A few years ago I was contributing poems to a friend's online writing project. I spent some time working on an adult choose-your-own-adventure story (web-based, involving writing both prose and code). Last year I think it was I wrote a small web application framework (which I use on my own website). Currently I'm working on what's turning out to be a somewhat sprawling historical research project (this one I expect to be working on for at least a few years). My research project has reminded me how much I love research and study. And librarians.

I must mention that I have osteoarthritis in my left hip and am less active than normal; so currently, the distance I can walk without discomfort/pain is quite restricted. This will change once I have surgery on the hip. However, my running days are over.
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