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stotheg

31 Chicago, IL Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 22
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aquarius
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I like my coffee complex and whimsical.

I decided a long time ago that the best three words anyone could say are not "I love you," but rather "come with me." I think that this preference is substantially informative. I enjoy surrealism in art, randomness in experience, and idiosyncrasy in acquaintance. But I can also make the sandwich and wield the wrench. I do a lot of making my own fun.
What I’m doing with my life
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Petting the cat. Drinking tea. Over-thinking things.

I'm involved in various permutations of performing arts crumduggery (that is a made up word) in Chicago. I have been known to audio engineer for puppets, role play with thespians, perform feats of office work for dancers, drink beer with my folk music classmates, and stage manage for mimes.

I enjoy indulging my introverted impulses with reading binges or making complicated food, like pie.

This year I would like to learn to ride my unicycle and play clawhammer banjo. (Maybe I should start organizing my activities by shape, the being The Year of the Circle With Line Attached).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
These are the best compliments I have been given:

"You're the most absurdly genuine person I know."

"You see how things need to be and quietly find a way to make it happen."

"I never thought of you as shy."

I have also been (relatively) frequently complimented on my flute-playing/musicality, hair texture, writing, dental hygiene (seriously!), care with others, and bum.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know that I stand out at a distance. I think I tend to improve with proximity.

But:

When I return shopping carts to their parking spots at the grocery store, I ride them like a scooter and sometimes go "wheeee!"

Once, a drunk friend told me: "you're nice, Sarah," and began to walk away. Then he reconsidered, turned back, and added, "but you're not THAT nice."

I have this one t-shirt that says, "Just shy (not antisocial). You can talk to me!" I think people notice that. The proclivities, that is, not the shirt.

Also, I have the gnawing suspicion that no matter what, I will always be a shade off from fashionable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Here are some things I regularly consume:
Radiolab
Smaller-scale Chicago theatre
Sad bastard music
XKCD
Coffee, from keurig to pour over
The comedy of Louis CK
Minimalist blogs
Intense long-form drama tv (Boardwalk Empire, etc.)
Four & twenty blackbirds baked in a pie, minus birds and pie
Avocados
A variety of electronica
Kindle-ready non-fiction
Things from the fridge that are probably fine
Savage Love
Apples, starting at the top
Old shows on DVD
Fantasy fiction
The Art of Non-Conformity
Old time music and modern spin-offs thereof
Scotch and other man-drinks
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-A destination
-The means to get there
-Physical contact
-Time alone
-Cats
-Serendipity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What's going on "behind the scenes" of the world.

Things that have a definite - but undiscoverable - answer, like "how many people have made out in this exact spot?"

In general, I like real-life games (but strangely not most conventional ones like board/card/video games). For instance, I like to play a mental game of "Awesome or Lame" often. Living in a cave: awesome or lame? Driving the Weinermobile as a primary vehicle: awesome or lame? Having a real-life encounter with the obnoxious blue interview puppet from Wonder Showzen: awesome or lame?

Other games include:
Most Attractive/Least Attractive (to be played on the El)
Trying Too Hard? (to be played on the sidewalk)
Spot the Mullet (works just about anywhere)
Tally Me Banana (an ongoing annual game where I just count how many bananas my roommate and I eat over a year)

Most of these games exist to facilitate conversation during bouts of people-watching. From a distance, it seems I'm a pretty harsh critic of strangers, but mostly I'm just interested in what's going on in other people's worlds. As a techie, I feel like I have a special perspective into the "backstage" of others' lives. I don't really; it's just fun to speculate.

Also, did you know that there are 1244 potentially hazardous asteroids known?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Actually here are some spinoffs of that question.

Ideal Friday Night: patronizing an unlikely but delightful instance of Chicago performing art, like a puppet slam, Klingon Christmas Carol, or some-new-format of improv. Tea and nachos somewhere like Kopi. Oh, who am I kidding - at Kopi. Wandering aimlessly around town, discovering things. Running into a friend, passingly. One cigarette.

On A Friday At Home: turning things from the fridge into food WITH PHYSICS. Dorky things on Netflix, like Doctor Who. Bonding with the cat, to whom I sometimes refer as "my shitty butler." Reading in bed far into the night.

Friday Nights In The Summer: finding any excuse to go get ice cream from Culvers, then bedding down for the night in a little tent amid 50 others that are holding acrobats, thespians, pirates, musicians, and fools.

Weeknights That Are Not Friday: all of those things too. But not tents usually.

Fridays In The Future: flying through the air in a car.

Fridays Way In The Future: flying through space in a submarine.

These are getting silly now.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Non-theist
Non-monogamous
Childfree
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You should message me if
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Lately, my real-life social network tends to grow via working at the Renaissance Faire, doing theatre gigs, meeting friends and partners of folks I date, and dating folks. I actually really enjoy the it's-a-small-world experience that results, where everyone seems already to know everyone else. Do you want to join this wacky theatrical poly party? Then come on in!