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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 11
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Other and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a transplant that moved to Seattle in 1999, figured it was a good enough place to stay, and fell in love with it over the past 14 years I've been here.

I consider myself an ex-geek, because although I like science fiction & fantasy, and tabletop roleplaying, these things have become less of a main course and more of a tasty side dish in my life.

In my spare time I write, mostly blog posts and fiction. I also enjoy knitting. While looking for yet another hobby, I took up juggling.

I'm a fairly open person when talking, and I don't mind answering most questions people ask.

I'm looking for cool people to hang out with as well as potential long-term dating partners. I am in a non-traditional non-monogamous relationship and I have one partner that I have on a regular basis.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For the first time in my life, I've been given the means and time to actually figure out what to do with myself.

I'm trying to juggle everything around to try and have writing become more significant in my life. (And if it can pay the bills, bonus.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can procrastinate like no one's business. Seriously. I'm procrastinating on my procrastination time by updating this profile.

I can also bake like a mofo.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: In recent years, I've trended towards non-fiction, but I'm slowly starting to round it out with a bit of fiction here and there. A partial list of authors: Ray Bradbury, Issac Asimov, Neal Stephenson, Ben Bova, Neil Gaiman, Simon Singh, and Jeff Noon.

If you have a good book recommendation (any genre) go ahead and send it to me in a message.

Movies: I used to be a huge movie fan, my movie watching fell off in recent years. I've been slowly getting back into watching movies. Favorite movies: 9 Songs (sad love story), Monsters (another sad love story; no really), Ronin, Sneakers, Liquid Television (old 90's TV series, but shut up I like it LEAVE ME ALONE), Waltz With Bashir, Splendor, Babylon 5 (another TV series I'm sneaking in), and others I can't remember.

Music: I am a musical sponge. I absorb whatever music that I come across, which has given me an eclectic taste. Whatever I'm listening to at any given point in time depends on my mood. Sometimes, I really want older, traditional blues. Sometimes, I need a bit of folk. And other times, I just need a bit of electronic music to hit my ears. Right now, I'm on a Zoe Keating/Jon Hopkins/Maxence Cyrin kick. Tomorrow, it'll probably be grunge straight from the 90's. The day after that, blues (Robert Johnson, Mississippi John Hurt... older blues), or possibly Boards of Canada or Orbital. It changes.

Foods: My favorite food is a bacon cheeseburger. My hardcore comfort food, when Hell has been unleashed in my life and the Devil is whipping my back, is beef yakisoba. I also enjoy pizza.

Sushi is also a favorite food of mine, but I have to be in the mood for it.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Games: Once upon a time, I was going to go into anthropology. Although my focus was going to be specifically on folklore and mythology, I couldn't help but think about the role of games in cultural anthropology. The games we play with each other, the ones we choose, and how we play can tell us much about ourselves and how we relate to each other.

I digress. I could never do without games, because playing a game with friends, strangers, or people in general creates a transient, temporary connection between the participants.

2) Smartphone: I wouldn't get anything done without a calendar and a bunch of lists, and the fact is with as much as I'm doing I need something digital to keep track of it all. I still don't know what I'm doing most of the time, but at least now I have a record of me not doing what I should be doing.

3) My private journal: I like having a place where I can jot down my memories and thoughts, so I can reflect on them later.

4) Coffee: Oh god, coffee. My bitter, best friend.

5) I could never do without the number 5.

6) Or the number 6. Couldn't make do without the number 6.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm usually thinking about finding the perfect sentence, or the next topic for my blog. I think about the various story and novel ideas floating about in my head.

I think about where I'm going in life.

I think about travelling and exploring more.

I think about my next tattoo.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending it with my partner. Fridays are our day together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I titter and giggle like a tiny schoolgirl when I'm tickled.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have a book that you think everyone should read that you can recommend, or if it sounds like we would enjoy each other's company.

I'm looking for anything between friends and long-term partners, and I have no expectation of OMG WE'RE SOULMATES from a simple message or cup of coffee. Message me if I sound interesting enough to chat with.