This very single African-American male is seeking an unattached female who has a kind, pleasant, and very affectionate personality, with whom to establish, partner, and maintain a steady long-term romantic relationship. I am 5ft. 8.5 inches, about 160 lbs., with dark brown eyes, dark brown hair (now turning "salt & pepper" in color), and a dark brown complexion. I am a Philadelphia, PA native and lifelong resident and have a Bachelor of Arts (BA) degree in philosophy from Temple University, and an advanced degree from the University of Pennsylvania in legal philosophy. I am very loyal, honest, sincere, monogamous, have a very good and irrepressibly buoyant sense of humor which I love sharing with my relationship partner, am gentle, kind, pleasant, fun loving, well-mannered, attentive, very, very affectionate, and somewhat cerebral but at the same time eminently down-to-earth.
By the way, there are at least ten photos in the "Photos" section of this profile. But you have to click on the blue letters that say "Profile Photos" in the "Photos" section in order to view them and to read the accompanying captions under some of the photos.
What I’m doing with my life
I am seeking that special woman who will complement my life, and I
hers. For me a woman's personality or what she's like on the
inside, i.e., her internal characteristics and composition, always
clearly take precedence over and trump her physical appearance or
looks, including what type of build, physique, or figure she may
happen to have (or whether she would ever have been considered
fetching according to popular or conventional standards --- and
also age is not an issue --- I go up to 74). My partner's body can
be just about any shape or size (full or very full-figured
included), and her facial features, hair, and complexion (including
having wrinkles), can also be quite homely or plain. After all, the
point is, I'm not looking for a "trophy" girlfriend or a perhaps
"trophy" future or prospective wife, but instead someone very
genuine and sincere who seriously wants to, and with whom to, share
love, companionship, and a steady long term monogamous relationship
together. So she need not ever have been eligible to be any type of
beauty contestant or runway model to be the premier and permanent
love of my life. As I said, to me, it is her having a kind,
pleasant, and affectionate personality that is most important, and
not whether or not she could ever have appeared in or on the cover
of any glamour or fashion magazine, or ever was a Barbie. Also, I'm
open to women of any race or ethnic background. In fact, I strongly
appreciate and enjoy the broadening of my horizons and
perspectives, and the added enlightenment regarding cultural
nuances I receive when the cultural or ethnic descent or lineage of
my relationship partner is not the same as mine (in other words, I
learn a great deal that I did not or could not have otherwise known
I'm also internationally well traveled having been to at least 6 to
10 different countries, including Paris, Morocco, London, two
countries in South America, Aruba, Madrid, Saskatoon--Saskatchewan,
among others, and truly enjoy experiencing other cultures.
I’m really good at
1) Analysis and discussion of any subject or topic; from the
mundane and routine to the highly conceptual, abstract, and
2) Being monogamous and totally loyal, faithful, and committed to
my relationship partner.
3) Holding hands with, kissing, and showing affection and love to
my romantic relationship partner.
4) Making a mean tuna fish salad (based on a very ancient, secret
recipe) and cooking natural brown rice (I used to be a macrobiotic
vegetarian or vegan but now eat everything except pork and
non-kosher style fish, i.e., fish that didn't have scales).
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not exactly sure about this. It could depend on the person
doing the noticing or observing, and I suppose also even on the
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For the past over 40 years, I have played electric bass and
electric upright bass in Salsa (Latin), Jazz, Reggae, Samba (from
Brazil), R&B, and Blues music groups. I have also developed
quite an appreciation and love of Bluegrass music and hope to one
day also play in a Bluegrass band (at least for awhile).
I also have a longstanding love of the Tragedies, Histories, and
Comedies of William Shakespeare, but particularly the Tragedies,
such as Macbeth and Hamlet. (I do not have much taste for violent,
often euphemistically called "action" films. That is, unless under
very rare circumstances, that aspect is essential to the realistic
portrayal or presentation of an otherwise great film [for example,
Scorsese's "Goodfellas"]. Another example is Roman Polanski's
version of "Macbeth". Which despite some very violent parts, is
nonetheless a groundbreaking masterpiece exemplifying the vast
visual freedom available when interpreting Shakespeare, while still
remaining completely true and faithful to the exact words and
format of the play.)
I'm also a devout aficionado of foreign and independent cinema ---
Brazilian and Eastern European films being among my favorites for
their exceptional realism, thematic and visual candor, and total
lack of pretentiousness.
The six things I could never do without
The six things I could never do without, hmmm:
1) air, food, water, shelter (in law called "the
2) love and affectionateness.
3) Music (for me both playing and listening to it).
4) Knowledge and the relentless pursuit thereof, including an
attempt at metaphysical or spiritual knowledge.
5) A very recent edition of Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary.
(For me, Random House or any other substitution, including other
Webster's, simply don't make the grade.)
6) A fine classic or vintage premium grade mechanical watch (either
automatic aka self-winding, or manual aka wind-up).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why humankind seems to be incapable of extirpating engaging in war,
violence, cruelty, and unkindness against each other. I simply
don't understand it and try to do my little bit each day to
counteract it. Accordingly, I try to make someone laugh or smile or
show someone some kindness each day. In like manner, I also enjoy
volunteering by visiting inner-city seniors who have no family.
It's ineffably rewarding and thwarts their feeling isolated and
disconnected from the world, which is very important to their
On a typical Friday night I am
Most probably wishing I have found and were with my steady long
term romantic relationship partner. And in the meanwhile watching
an independent or foreign film on my dvd player (so I can control
reading the subtitles while visually absorbing the scene)
necessarily thinking how much more enjoyable it would be to be
watching it with my steady long term partner. Could she be you?
Let's explore that possibility and find out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a completely open book for the asking. No question or subject
is ever, nor ever will be "off-limits" to ask me about myself. ---
I also have no issue with being in touch with and displaying my
emotional side. For example, a very well done sad, touching, or
romantic movie can cause me to become emotional and send the tears
cascading down my cheeks such as you might never believe, which
happened to me just the other day while watching a Korean serial
drama that I have been following for several months. This was
always true but seems to have gotten particularly more pronounced
the older I get, I mean in my later years (say for example, after
You should message me if
------- I would appreciate sincere and serious replies only, since
I have a strong proclivity to be a part of a monogamous couple
because I miss the joy, companionship and fulfillment that derive
from being in a relationship. I am wholly averse to ephemeral
hook-ups, one night stands, serial daters, casual encounters, and
the like. At this stage in life, I cannot help but to disdain such
relationships as a rather unproductive use of time. So please
contact or respond to me if you've read and like my profile, and
are seriously inclined toward exploring the prospect or possibility
of forging a steady long term relationship together. After all,
life is undeniably much more interesting and exciting when it is