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42 Seattle, WA Genderqueer, Man, Bigender, Non-binary

Genderqueer, Man, Bigender, Non-binary

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 33-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 25
Heteroflexible, Queer, Questioning, Bisexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Average build
Other and laughing about it
Two-year college
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Somewhat), Other (Somewhat), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
my wife and i have been on this site for years, we have met some really wonderful people here and made good friends. we have grown together and want to continue to do so, tearing down walls and doing what feels right. i know i'm queer, but i'm still trying to find out what that exactly means, so it is time to update my profile...

i want to increase my social life... working and having a rich home life, i tend to get too comfortable and I require external stimulation to keep the juices flowing. i need more reasons to get out of my little world, reasons to see how little my world is, and what else there is out there for me.

i like to make things.

i have tried my hands at various media and would like to consider myself an artist, though i have yet to get my act together and try to do a show. i think i need to gather more artists around me for encouragement and collaboration (anything from photography and painting, to lapidary, stained glass and blacksmithing). i seem to have a hard time doing any of it solo.

in the past my we have used this site to start a crafting group that met on sundays to work on whatever projects we had individually, together. this group has grown and expanded and is no longer what it started out to be. good for us. but i'm missing the thing that brought us together in the first place, being creative together and pushing our boundaries... i would like to have that again.

pushing boundaries seems to be a theme in my life currently, and i long for being surrounded by people who encourage that in others (ie. myself)

integrity, confidence, sense of humor, openness, creativity, positivity... these are things i feel strongly about. these are things i want in my life. these are things i aspire to be... or possess, or something like that.

i have an interesting social dynamic... i am shy, but i know i'm a very social being... i enjoy interaction, but i think i respond more than i initiate, and that's part of why i'm here. i need to reach out for what i want and not ride the wave so much... or find the right wave and go for a ride... part of why i'm here is to become more of me than i currently am... part of why i'm here is to discover who i am... part of the reason i'm here is for you to help me find me and for me to help you find you.

so, that's a brief summary...

i'm sure i have more to say, but like i already stated, i'm shy.
guess you gotta ask...send me a message?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
working more than i should...

trying to live with passion and integrity, wanting to share that passion... for me mostly, but also for those i love and who love me... trying to spend my time and energy on my art... getting away, when i can (not often enough). hoping i can still find whatever i am looking for exactly.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
i believe coyote is my spirit animal.
i'm really good at making that almost inappropriate joke at just the right time to make one think about the situation in a different way. tricking one into a higher state that they didn't know was available to them. if only i could do that for myself...
i think i'm good at a lot of things...
i like to use my hands a lot,
and from what i'm told i have good hands...
you could be in them...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i guess my hat first.
or my suspenders...
then, aside from the fact that i'm not the tallest of the bunch, i'm often told about my eyes... or my hands/arms, apparently they are quite sexy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

devil in the white city - i love chicago history
the wild trees - amazing how recent the science is
american gods - briliant mythology... can't wait for the series
guns, germs and steel - almost all of the info i knew before, just never put it together that way

flaming lips, andrew bird, beatles, parov stelar, beats antique...
the list goes on...

sushi - need i say more?
calamari - when done right
peanutbutter bacon burgers - again, need i say more?
stuffed portabella - sigh
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
not necessarily in order...

the opportunity to express myself
the ability to create
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
i guess that goes without saying (i am on a dating site)...

what the world would be like if there were no hypothetical questions...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
currently, Friday is my Thursday, and since my mornings are earlier than most, i'm usually in bed early... but there's usually time for cuddles, i try to make that a priority, and there's always room for more cuddling (hint, hint, nudge, nudge).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
at 42 i'm still trying to figure it out, and i know i need others around me to do it right.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you've read this far...
creating is something you do...
you want company...
you need a collaborator...
you (for whatever reason) like me...
what i said makes any sense to you...