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31 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Today – 3:50pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
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Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English, Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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So, I've decided to try this site again, mainly because being sober and meeting people in Portland is ridiculous. The decision to quit was brought on by choosing between school and getting fucked up all the time. I've been in Portland for 12 years now, and I've been to all of the raging house parties, the dumbshit hip bars, the dive bars, had numerous walks of shame, dragged my hungover ass through endless work days, and struggled to keep up a 4.0 GPA while drinking like a sailor. I'm over it. I take care of myself these days. I eat well. I have a normal sleep schedule. Life is just less complicated because of it.

Which is fine because Portland is a lot of fun when you're in your twenties, but I've grown up. I want to experience what this city has to offer without warming a bar stool for hours on end. I want to cultivate a relationship that will mean something. Am I hoping to find that on here? Probably not, but it's worth a shot.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm currently working on a B.A. in Japanese language at Portland State University. I can honestly say that the germination of my interest in learning Japanese began with the first time that I watched Floating Weeds by Ozu Yasujiro, which still strikes me as odd, but also makes a lot of sense when I think about it. I'm a big culture nerd, and I'm interested in all facets of Japanese culture, with an admittedly minor interest in anime and manga. My post-graduation goal is to apply for the JET program. It's my La Mancha at this point. I care very much about strengthening ties between other countries through an understanding of culture and language. I am interested in teaching overseas, but I'm also fascinated with foreign diplomacy, so the latter is another field that I would like to find myself in down the line.

I previously worked at Powell's for five years, and decided to cut ties with my bookclerk career, as it was going absolutely nowhere (I mean, big fucking surprise, right?). I was able to do a few interesting things for them outside of sections work such as working in the publicity department (I interviewed William T. Vollmann one time!), but it was becoming a dead-end and I wasn't learning any new skills there.

So now I work part-time as a groundsman for a certified arborist. We mostly do tree pruning and removals when necessary; when the tree is dead and a hazard to nearby structures. I love working outdoors, in a demanding job that requires me to be alert at all times. It's a nice break from the rest of my life, which is mostly buried in books.
I’m really good at
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Drumming, writing, being a spectacular conversationalist, but I need a drumset again.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My green eyes set in a cold prison stare.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Traditional country music and jazz is mostly my musical bag. I listen to some pop stuff and old school hip hop, but not as much as the other two styles. Beach House, Grimes, the Antlers, Melody's Echo Chamber and Wye Oak are my guilty contemporary pop music pleasures at the moment. I've never stopped being a die-hard Radiohead fan. You try growing up in the Midwest in the 90's and not love that band. I listen to a lot of experimental music as well, but it's sort of a random mix. Also, tons of classical music.

I've been obsessed with Swans lately, and their live performance was basically revelatory. They're an amazing rare breed of band.

Hitchcock, Bunuel, Carol Reed, the Archers, Howard Hawks, Jacques Tati, Ozu Yasujiro, John Huston, Lynch, Bunuel, Resnais, Claire Denis, Bergman, Altman, Demme, etc, you get the idea. I'm a huge Japanese cinephile. It's my specialty. One of my loftier career ambitions is to translate Japanese films into English subtitles.

Books ... I don't even know where to begin. Lately, I've been reading Steve Milhauser, Frederick Exley, and Ann Beattie. I'm loving all three of them. Yeah, that's just a conversation that we'd need to have, but I'm not a snob about it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee, a gym membership, the New Yorker, a library card, sex, showers.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why grown men still wear skinny jeans. Seriously, you look like fucking idiots.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably catching up on homework, playing pool, or at the cinema. Yeah, I just referred to the act of going to see a movie alone as "at the cinema". What are you going to do about it?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I still watch episodes of Daria in earnest.
You should message me if
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If you're interested in meeting new people, and you're really laid back. I'm not a shy person at all, so I tend to get a little bored around that personality type. I often think that most extremely shy people are shy because they take themselves too seriously and are too concerned with the way they appear in the eyes of others, which, you know, isn't appealing at all.

Also, if you're a fun mix between the sort of person who likes listening to shit-kicking country music one second, watching sports the next, and being a nerd after all of that; Neko Case would be the ideal example of the sort of woman that I'd enjoy hanging out with.