Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Some bits and pieces from the bottom of the box:
Who's going to see Wilco next month? Or Bernie Sanders next
I'm a teacher and a writer who focuses on American culture, so I'm
curious about everything.
Most of the time I pack a lot into every day. Sometimes I spend an
entire day doing one thing (hiking, writing, running, gardening)
and that singular focus is such a joy.
My tribe all seem to have a commitment to why they're on this
planet. (Hello, is that you?) Maybe you do or make something you
care deeply about, too. Maybe you can relate to someone who
Small things make me incredibly happy. I don't take much for
I play well with others. Sometimes hanging out doing nothing play.
Sometimes outdoorsy play. Sometimes collaboration and fun work and
I have a big, loving community of family, and friends across the
globe who really matter to me. So I'm here seeking someone not out
of "need" but someone who is interested in something in addition to
the really good life he has. Someone who shares a lust for life (hi
Iggy). Someone who loves his life and wants to cross orbits and see
I'd rather spend my time in the not-virtual world with actual
people. (If you like that idea, keep reading.)
Like everyone, I've got some miles on the odometer and I know where
I went, why, and I have a few guesses about where I'm going. I see
how those nicks and dents have shaped me. That's never a closed
question, but it's one I've spent time on and it's a work in
My big, messy heart has been broken and I think I get how I
contributed to that. I've broken hearts. Once you've gone there
with someone you really care about, you are changed in a way that
can only bring self-understanding and compassion.
What attracts me? Kindness. Self-knowledge. Humor and playfulness.
Honesty. Someone engaged in this world. A compassionate man with a
strong sense of self. And, most importantly, a spark and a flame.
(Chemistry matters. When it's right, I can be stopped in my tracks
by a look, a word, a touch, a kiss.)
And...now the wind up and the pitch:
Have you seen this guy?
He's in a good place in his life: content, knows and likes himself.
He's a self-possessed, smarty-pants, imaginative guy with a good
heart and an occasional naughty streak, a sense of irony, strong
mind, trim body, and joyful spirit. He’s figured out some stuff
about himself. He likes the idea of evolving into the next part of
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living: Writing, researching, teaching, running, and exploring. I'd
add parenting but it involves a teenager who's self-sufficient and
on his way to college across the country, so I'll be doing less of
that in the day to day. But I feel lucky that I had this time with
him. Being his mom has made me a better person.
Wondering: It's a crazy existence on this planet.
Laughing: It's a crazy existence in the human race.
Surprising: Maybe I've been known to greet people at the airport by
doing cartwheels down the line of luggage conveyors. Maybe.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Stuff. I bet you are, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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A lotta sass, sizzle, and a quick laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Thinking about the impact of music, film, literature, comix,
graffiti, art, fashion--this is how I make my living.
Live music is my favorite and I can't get enough. Dancing seems to
be an archaic ritual in the PNW, but I'm gonna bring it back to
live shows. Or embarrass everyone trying.
From my eternal play lists: Clash Beck OKGo Bowie Flaming Lips
Sparklehorse SuperFurry Animals Elliott Smith Elastica Queen Wilco
Tindersticks Boogie Down Productions T Rex Johnny Cash Manu Chao
Joe Henry Radiohead old school punk Luscious Jackson and some
groove...classic Motown. Is there anything that the Staple Singers
cannot make better with "I'll Take You There"? Oh, and old school
rawk. Of course.
Literature, shooting from the hip: Ondaatje, Faulkner, Didion,
early Doctorow, Mitchell, Hong Kingston, Melville, Kushner --
writers whose words you can roll around in your mouth. And also
great sci-fi (Gibson, and books like Wool, Ready Player One). I
love love love being read to in bed late at night, falling asleep
to the sound of your voice, my head on your chest.
Movies: the classy kind, the crazy kind, the silly or absurd kind.
From classic 1940's noir to The Godfather or Space Odyssey 2001 to
Winter's Bone or The Dark Knight, I'm a fan. (Special love for
documentaries.) Sometimes TV series, though I don't have cable:
Sopranos, Thrones, House of Cards, Battlestar Galactica, True
Detective. I'm all in for the the philosophical crazy of Rust
Chole: “Most of the time I was convinced that I’d lost it. There
were other times I thought I was mainlining the secret truth of the
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
growing things / my garden
air (big lungfuls on a trail run)
bubbles - the drinkable kind and the soapy kind
the ability to exceed limits (such as 6)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How we're floating in space.
(not together. those are different thoughts)
A sinewy body running ahead of me on the trail...
How I can't remember the wet winter in the sun-soaked summer...and
then i can hardly remember the dry hot summer in the long dark
... how online dating is the inverse of how we notice and meet each
other in person. It lacks animus. Energy. Sparkle and motion. And
we find things out that aren't really the first-order indicators we
use in person. It all seems backwards to me. That, and how people
take years off their age or use photos 10 years out of date. What's
[Random query: how in the hell does OKC come up with its 3
descriptors? I was told I read "experience, conservative, indie."
Many things have been said about me, but not conservative. My 20
year old punk rock self is laughing her ass off.]
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Could be lots of things, depending on the season: making dinner
with friends and my lad. Sitting by the fire with a book. Going to
see a flick or a live band (dead bands are so...quiet.). Goofing in
the studio. Biking to Point Defiance. Playing air hockey or pinball
at Dorky's....speaking cartoon noises to the locals.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Pick one. All are true:
I secretly want to be a Formula One driver. (Not so secret if
you're ridden shotgun with me...)
When it comes to attraction, being in shape matters. (Extra points
if you run trails or play volleyball and can throw down a mean game
of pepper.) I'd like to hang out with someone for whom being active
is part of a lifestyle.
I'm one of those people who wakes up happy. And it seems that
attracts depressives. I try to empathize, but it's hard given my
disposition. Having really tried to be close to someone(s) who
suffers from depression, I have learned that it's a challenge that
I may fail.
You should message me if
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