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My self-summary
Bits and pieces:

Small things make me incredibly happy. I don't take much for granted.

I'd rather spend my time in the not-virtual world with actual people. (If you like that idea, keep reading.)

I'm a professor who focuses on American culture, so I'm curious about nearly everything. Popular culture. Politics. Arts. Life. My friends mostly seem to do or make something they care deeply about. Maybe you do—and maybe you can relate to someone else who does. What I
do for a living matters to me because I work with people in meaningful ways. Life changing, sometimes.

But play is as important to me. I really, really like to play. I could use a playmate.

It doesn't matter to me if you have a flashy car, if you cliff dive in your spare time, or if you catch big fish. What catches my attention is more intrinsic than those things: Kindness. Self- knowledge. Humor and playfulness. Honesty. Someone engaged in this world. A compassionate man with a strong sense of self. A maker, artist, thinker. And, most importantly, a spark and a flame. (Chemistry matters. When it's right, I can be stopped in my tracks by a look, a word, a touch, a kiss. I love to kiss.)

I'm at this beautiful place, mid-life. I'm a work in progress but I like where this is going.

How about you? Chances are, you know and like your yourself. You're content in life. You're a self-possessed, smarty-pants, imaginative guy with a good heart and a naughty streak. You're your own man but you like collaboration and connection. You have a sense of irony, strong mind, trim body, and joyful spirit. You've figured out some stuff about yourself. And you like the idea of evolving into the next part of life. Or something like that.
What I’m doing with my life
Living: Writing, researching, teaching, running, playing, and exploring. I'd add parenting but it involves a son who is now in college across the country, so really that's a diminished gig. But being his mom has made me a better person. It's an evolving role that I love.

Wondering: It's a crazy existence on this planet.
Laughing: It's a crazy existence in the human race.
I’m really good at
Stuff. I bet you are, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
A lotta sass, sizzle, and a quick laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Live music is my favorite and I can't get enough. Dancing seems to be an archaic ritual in the PNW, but I'm gonna bring it back to live shows. Or embarrass everyone trying.

From my eternal play lists: Clash Beck OKGo Bowie Flaming Lips Sparklehorse SuperFurry Animals Elliott Smith Elastica Queen Wilco Tindersticks Boogie Down Productions T Rex Johnny Cash Manu Chao Joe Henry Cornershop Radiohead old school punk Luscious Jackson Replacements and some groove...classic Motown. Is there anything that the Staple Singers cannot make better with "I'll Take You There"? Oh, and old school rawk. Of course.

Literature that lingers: Ondaatje, Faulkner, Didion, early Doctorow, Mitchell, Hong Kingston, Melville, Kushner -- writers whose words you can roll around in your mouth. Great sci-fi. I love love love being read to in bed late at night, falling asleep to the sound of your voice, my head on your chest.

Movies: the classy kind, the crazy kind, the silly or absurd kind. From classic 1940's noir to The Godfather or Space Odyssey 2001 to Winter's Bone or The Dark Knight, I'm a fan. (Special love for documentaries.) Sometimes TV series, though I don't have cable. Mr. Robot, House of Cards, Battlestar Galactica, True Detective. I'm all in for the the philosophical crazy of Rust Chole: “Most of the time I was convinced that I’d lost it. There were other times I thought I was mainlining the secret truth of the universe.”
The six things I could never do without
knowing my son is good in this world
growing things / my garden
air (big lungfuls on a trail run)
olfactory bulb
tea, black
bubbles - the drinkable kind and the soapy kind
the ability to exceed limits (such as 6)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How we're floating in space.
Peanut butter.
(not together. those are different thoughts)
A sinewy body running ahead of me on the trail...
How I can't remember the wet winter in the sun-soaked summer...and then i can hardly remember the dry hot summer in the long dark winter.
Attraction. Chemistry. Conflagration.
On a typical Friday night I am
Could be lots of things, depending on the season: making dinner with friends. Sitting by the fire with a book. Going to see a flick or a live band (dead bands are so...quiet.). Goofing in the studio. Biking to Point Defiance. Playing air hockey or pinball....speaking cartoon noises to the locals.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Pick one. All are true:

I secretly want to be a Formula One driver. (Not so secret if you're ridden shotgun with me...)

When it comes to attraction, being in shape matters. (Extra points if you run trails or play volleyball and can throw down a mean game of pepper.) I'd like to hang out with someone for whom being active is part of a lifestyle.

I'm one of those people who wakes up happy. And it seems that attracts depressives. I try to empathize, but it's hard given my disposition. Having really tried to be close to someone(s) who suffers from depression, I have learned that it's a challenge that I may fail.
You should message me if
You like words and thoughts and are willing to write some.
You got this far, are in range (Puget Sound-ish), and you feel like it.
You know how to converse.
You're curious.

(It seems there are a lot of you here who are invisible. If you "like" my profile, I still can't see you. I have no idea who you are...)