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sun_soaked

51 Tacoma, WA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:59pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Status
Single
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a wordsmith and a teacher. My students and I love learning. It's possible that my gift is to create the right circumstances to pique curiosity and send them off on a journey of their own making. I love hearing about it when they return.

My tribe seem to be those who have a commitment to why they're on this planet. (Hello, is that you?) Work isn't exactly work, for me--it's more of a way of life. Maybe you do or make something you care deeply about, too. Maybe you can relate to someone who does.

But I'm not all work—I play well with others. I'm something of a pollinator and enjoy connecting with people. So I'm here seeking someone who shares a lust for life (hi Iggy) and would like to cross orbits. But the IM-ing, chatty veneer of OKC is not my joy. (Time is a commodity and I'd rather spend it in the not-virtual world with actual people.)

Here's the wind up and the pitch: I'd like to have a sometimes-companion. He's in a good place in his life: content, knows and likes himself. He's probably a self-possessed, smarty-pants, imaginative guy with a good heart and an occasional naughty streak, a sense of irony, strong mind, trim body, and joyful spirit. I can offer the same. ...and I'd like to make a real connection with that guy. Maybe it might become more than "sometimes." Maybe not. Either way would be okay.

I act like an adult about 93% of the time. I've been known to start a minimalist food fight at a company holiday dinner by throwing the first marshmallow. They had so much fun that I was invited back every year after even though I was no longer seeing the guy whose date I was. (Sometimes an architecture firm just needs to have it out.)

Like everyone, I've got some miles on the odometer and I know where I went, why, and I have a few guesses about where I'm going. I get how those nicks and dents have shaped me. That's never a closed question, but it's one I've spent time on and it's a work in progress.

What attracts me? Kindness. Self-knowledge. Humor and playfulness. Honesty. Someone engaged in this world. A compassionate man with a strong sense of self. And, most importantly, a spark and a flame. (Chemistry matters. When it's right, I can be stopped in my tracks by a look, a word, a touch, a kiss.)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living: Writing, researching, teaching, running, and parenting. That last involves a teenager who's so self-sufficient I almost can't list the role here. He's nearly out into the world on his own and I feel lucky that I had this time with him. Being his mom has made me a better person.

Wondering: It's a crazy existence on this planet.

Surprising: Maybe I've been known to greet people at the airport by doing cartwheels down the line of luggage conveyors. Maybe.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Stuff. I bet you are, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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A lotta sass, sizzle, and a quick laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Thinking about the impact of music, film, literature, comix, graffiti, art, fashion--this is how I make my living.

Live music is my favorite and I can't get enough. Dancing seems to be an archaic ritual in the PNW, but I'm gonna bring it back to live shows. Or embarrass everyone trying.

From my eternal play lists: Clash Beck OKGo Bowie Flaming Lips Sparklehorse SuperFurry Animals Elliott Smith Elastica Queen Wilco Tindersticks Boogie Down Productions T Rex Johnny Cash Manu Chao Joe Henry Radiohead old school punk Luscious Jackson and some groove...classic Motown. Is there anything that the Staple Singers cannot make better with "I'll Take You There"? Oh, and old school rawk. Of course.

Literature, shooting from the hip: Ondaatje, Faulkner, Didion, early Doctorow, Mitchell, Hong Kingston, Melville, Kushner -- writers whose words you can roll around in your mouth. And also great sci-fi (Gibson, and books like Wool, Ready Player One). I love love love being read to in bed late at night, falling asleep to the sound of your voice, my head on your chest.

Movies: the classy kind, the crazy kind, the silly or absurd kind. From classic 1940's noir to The Godfather or Space Odyssey 2001 to Winter's Bone or The Dark Knight, I'm a fan. (Special love for documentaries.) Sometimes TV series, though I don't have cable: Sopranos, Thrones, House of Cards, Battlestar Galactica, True Detective. I'm all in for the the philosophical crazy of Rust Chole: “Most of the time I was convinced that I’d lost it. There were other times I thought I was mainlining the secret truth of the universe.”
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
growing things / my garden
music
words
air (big lungfuls on a trail run)
laughter
touch
smell
synaesthesia
tea, black
bubbles - the drinkable kind and the soapy kind
the ability to exceed limits (such as 6)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How we're floating in space.
Peanut butter.
(not together. those are different thoughts)
A sinewy body running ahead of me on the trail...
How I can't remember the wet winter in the sun-soaked summer...and then i can hardly remember the dry hot summer in the long dark winter.

... how online dating is the inverse of how we notice and meet each other in person. It lacks animus. Energy. Sparkle and motion. And we find things out that aren't really the first-order indicators we use in person. It all seems backwards to me. That, and how people take years off their age or use photos 10 years out of date. What's the point??

[Random query: how in the hell does OKC come up with its 3 descriptors? I was told I read "experience, conservative, indie." Many things have been said about me, but not conservative. My 20 year old punk rock self is laughing her ass off.]
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Could be lots of things, depending on the season: making dinner with friends and my lad. Sitting by the fire with a book. Going to see a flick or a live band (dead bands are so...quiet.). Goofing in the studio. Biking to Point Defiance. Playing air hockey or pinball at Dorky's....speaking cartoon noises to the locals.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Pick one. All are true:

I secretly want to be a Formula One driver. (Not so secret if you're ridden shotgun with me...)

When it comes to attraction, being in trim shape matters. (Extra points if you run trails or play volleyball and can throw down a mean game of pepper.) I'd like to hang out with someone for whom being in great shape is part of a lifestyle.

I'm one of those people who wakes up happy. And it seems that attracts depressives. I try to empathize, but it's hard given my disposition. Having really tried to be close to someone(s) who suffers from depression, I have learned that it's a challenge that I may fail.
You should message me if
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You like words and thoughts and are willing to write some.
You got this far, are in range (Puget Sound-ish), and you feel like it.