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sun_soaked

51 Tacoma, WA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:06pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I love it here. I love what I do. And I love living in a vibrant "maker" community in the South Sound. Mostly, I love that it's the best kept secret in Washington.

I'm spending my time on this earth engaged with people in all sorts of ways -- it's what makes me tick. My "people" seem to be those who have a commitment to why they're on this planet. (Hello, is that you?) Work isn't exactly work, for me--it's more of a vocation. I live the ideas I write about and teach. Maybe you do or make something you care deeply about, too. Maybe you can relate to someone who does. I tend not to connect well with those who are waiting to clock out.

I'm seeking someone who shares a lust for life (hi Iggy) and would like to cross orbits. But the IM-ing, chatty veneer of OKC is not my joy. No. Really. (Time is a commodity and I'd rather spend it in the not-virtual world with actual people.) Here's the wind up and the pitch: I'd like to have a sometimes-companion. He's probably a self-possessed, smarty-pants, imaginative guy with a good heart and naughty streak, a sense of irony, strong mind, trim body, and joyful spirit. I can offer the same.

This is getting kind of serious so I should just say that I act like an adult about 91% of the time. 9% of the time I'm irreverent, silly, and have been known to start a minimalist food fight at your company holiday dinner by throwing the first marshmallow. At your boss. And nobody ever suspected it was me.

Like everyone, I've got some miles on the odometer and I know where I went, why, and I have a few guesses about where I'm going. I get how those nicks and dents have shaped me. That's never a closed question, but it's one I've spent time on. I'm a committed partner, but I don't feel like I "need" someone so much as I'd want someone. I think that's a good development from the 25 year old me. It's a better place to partner from, right?

What attracts me? Kindness. Self-knowledge. Humor and playfulness. A content man with a good sense of self and a desire to connect. A spark and a flame. (Chemistry matters. When it's right, I can be stopped in my tracks by a look, a word, a touch, a kiss.)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living: Writing, researching, teaching, running, and parenting. That last involves a teenager who's so self-sufficient I almost can't list the role here. He's nearly out into the world on his own and I feel lucky that I had this time with him. Being his mom has made me a better person.

Wondering: It's a crazy existence on this plaent.

Scheming: All work and no play...well, that's just not living. Come help me finish the bottle of champagne. Run up a muddy trail. Or maybe just goof off. I like to play as hard as I work.

Surprising: Maybe I've been known to greet people at the airport by doing cartwheels down the line of luggage conveyors. Maybe.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Stuff. I bet you are, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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A lotta sass, sizzle, and a quick laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Thinking about the impact of music, film, literature, comix, graffiti, art, fashion--this is how I make my living.

Live music is my favorite and I can't get enough. Dancing seems to be an archaic ritual in the PNW, but I'm gonna bring it back to live shows. Or embarrass everyone trying.

From my eternal play lists: Clash Beck OKGo Bowie Flaming Lips Sparklehorse SuperFurry Animals Elliott Smith Elastica Queen Wilco Tindersticks Boogie Down Productions T Rex Johnny Cash Manu Chao Joe Henry Radiohead old school punk Luscious Jackson and some groove...classic Motown. Is there anything that the Staple Singers cannot make better with "I'll Take You There"? Oh, and old school rawk. Of course.

Literature, shooting from the hip: Ondaatje, Faulkner, Didion, early Doctorow, Mitchell, Hong Kingston, Melville, Kushner -- writers whose words you can roll around in your mouth. And also great sci-fi (Gibson, and books like Wool, Ready Player One). I love love love being read to in bed late at night, falling asleep to the sound of your voice, my head on your chest.

Movies: the classy kind, the crazy kind, the silly or absurd kind. From classic 1940's noir to The Godfather or Space Odyssey 2001 to Winter's Bone or The Dark Knight, I'm a fan. (Special love for documentaries.) Sometimes TV series, though I don't have cable: Sopranos, Thrones, House of Cards, Battlestar Galactica, True Detective. I'm all in for the the philosophical crazy of Rust Chole: “Most of the time I was convinced that I’d lost it. There were other times I thought I was mainlining the secret truth of the universe.”
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
growing things / my garden
music
words
air (big lungfuls on a trail run)
laughter
touch
smell
synaesthesia
tea, black
bubbles - the drinkable kind and the soapy kind
the ability to exceed limits (such as 6)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How we're floating in space.
Peanut butter.
(not together. those are different thoughts)
A sinewy body running ahead of me on the trail...
How I can't remember the wet winter in the sun-soaked summer...and then i can hardly remember the dry hot summer in the long dark winter.

... how online dating is the inverse of how we notice and meet each other in person. It lacks animus. Energy. Sparkle and motion. And we find things out that aren't really the first-order indicators we use in person. It all seems backwards to me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Could be lots of things, depending on the season: making dinner with friends and my lad. Sitting by the fire with a book. Going to see a flick or a live band (dead bands are so...quiet.). Goofing in the studio. Biking to Point Defiance. Playing air hockey or pinball at Dorky's....speaking cartoon noises to the locals.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Pick one. All are true:

I secretly want to be a Formula One driver. (Not so secret if you're ridden shotgun with me...)

When it comes to attraction, being in trim shape matters. (Extra points if you run trails or play volleyball and can throw down a mean game of pepper.) I'd like to hang out with someone for whom being in great shape is part of a lifestyle.

I'm one of those people who wakes up happy. And it seems that attracts depressives. I try to empathize, but it's hard given my disposition. Having really tried to be close to someone(s) who suffers from depression, I have learned that it's a challenge that I may fail.
You should message me if
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You like words and thoughts and are willing to write some.
You got this far, are in range (Puget Sound-ish), and you feel like it.