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36 Northampton, MA Cis Woman

Cis Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 28–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 6
Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Has kids and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Exquisite mote of sentient star-stuff seeks same for joyful connections: vibrant, vulnerable, honest and self-aware.

I'm poly, nominally pagan, a stay-at-home mom who is happy in, but not limited to--or defined by--that role. Into writing (particularly fantasy fiction and poetry), reading, gardening, and cooking.

My heart sparks and sings at these, and other things.

I like my showers hot, my fragrances subtle, and my communication direct.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Managing our household, writing, and self care of various kinds (including a bunch of physical therapy exercises) take up a lot of my time. The rest I fill with vibrant connections, walks, puttering about in the garden, and cup after cup of delightful teas.

Questing my way through my day on Habitica and encouraging others to live a full and engaged life whatever their challenges with my Living Vividly guild there.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Romantic gestures on a budget. Organizing, discovering efficient ways to do things, and calm. Words are my wheelhouse. My superpower is remembering where I last saw something.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm enthusiastic and upbeat in small groups, quiet in large ones. I'm cheerfully irreverent and I love a good pun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorite authors include Barbara Kingsolver, Starhawk, Jaqueline Carey, Anne Bishop, Garth Nix, Elizabeth Bear, Monica Furlong, Charles deLint, Patricia McKillip, Robin McKinley, Rosemary Kirstein, Lois McMaster Bujold, Ursula K LeGuin (especially her poetry), Patrick Rothfuss, Wendell Berry, Michael Pollan, and Diane Duane. Recently wowed by More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickart and Uprooted by Naomi Novik.

My taste (and collection) of music runs the gamut from chick folk rock to goth-industrial, trip-hop, classic rock, and synthpop. Recently I've been listening to Zero 7, NONONO, and Emancipator. Really enjoying the podcasts from Press Start to Continue (a local, video-game music radio show on Valley Free Radio).

I love food. There are few foods I do not love. There are a few I should not eat, as I have some allergies. That said, I would love to be introduced to some of your favorites! Also, I often combine herbs and brew original tea blends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My novel, turning my lawn into a garden of herbs and perennial vegetables, what to cook next, whatever book I'm in the middle of, plans and projects for the future, my posture (thanks to my physical therapist), and getting things on my to-do list done.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home. The right person could easily coax me out to dinner, or to their home for snuggles and more, but when left to myself, I read, watch Netflix, or go to bed early. (I am a morning person! Are you?)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I aspire to be the one you notice because of my unusually good posture. I am striving to develop the grace of a tiger, the poise of a queen.
You should message me if
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You are a writer, or a poet. You are pagan, or excited about nature. You're poly, and want to talk to someone else who's making it work. You like to cook or garden and want to talk about it- or cook together! I'm willing to talk to anyone who can use grammar and spelling and has a sense of humor.

My ongoing enthusiasms include Health at Every Size, local food, and polyamory - if we have one (or more!) of these in common, please get in touch!

I believe strongly that one of the things that fuels a successful poly lifestyle is making sure everyone gets what they need, so let me be clear that much of my time is spoken for. If you're looking for your one and only, it's probably not me, unless your life is already very full. I am not particularly looking to date a couple. (Similarly, though I am married, I do not expect my dates to do more than eventually meet my husband!)

What I *am* interested in is building an intimate connection with a special someone (or someones!) based on mutual delight in each others' company. I am really good at healthy, stable relationships and I want more of them! I am particularly interested in hearing from women. What's your idea of a perfect date? I'd love to spoil you.

I always enjoy finding new friends. Are you the next one? :)