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36 Northampton, MA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 28–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:02am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Exquisite mote of sentient star-stuff seeks same for joyful connections: vibrant, vulnerable, honest and self-aware.

I'm poly, a pagan, a poet. I'm into writing (particularly fantasy fiction and poetry), reading, gardening, and cooking.

My heart sparks and sings at these, and other things.

I like my showers hot, my fragrances subtle, and my communication direct.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying really hard to live, love, learn, grow, and eat my vegetables. With varying levels of success, depending on the day.

Stay-at-home mom-ing, writing a fantasy novel, and physical therapy exercises take up a lot of my time. The rest I fill with vibrant connections, walks in the autumn woods, and cup after cup of delightful teas.

Questing my way through my day with, and encouraging others to live a full and engaged life whatever their challenges with my monthly Living Vividly challenges there.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Romantic gestures on a budget. Organizing, discovering efficient ways to do things, and calm. Words are my wheelhouse. My superpower is remembering where I last saw something.

I'm really bad at wrapping presents. My presents come out looking like they were wrapped by a drunken monkey!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm enthusiastic and upbeat in small groups, quiet in large ones. I'm cheerfully irreverent and I love a good pun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite authors include Barbara Kingsolver, Starhawk, Jaqueline Carey, Anne Bishop, Garth Nix, Elizabeth Bear, Monica Furlong, Charles deLint, Patricia McKillip, Robin McKinley, Rosemary Kirstein, Lois McMaster Bujold, Ursula K LeGuin (for poetry), Patrick Rothfuss, Wendell Berry, Michael Pollan, and Diane Duane. Recently wowed by The Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan and More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickart.

My taste (and collection) of music runs the gamut from chick folk rock to goth-industrial, trip-hop, classic rock, and synthpop. Recently I've been listening to Two Door Cinema Club, BORNS, and Phutureprimitive. Really enjoying the podcasts from Press Start to Continue (a local, video-game music radio show on Valley Free Radio).

I love food. There are few foods I do not love. There are a few I should not eat, as I have some allergies. But in January I love blood oranges. In February, Sidehill farms yogurt. In March, fresh greens, especially wild ones growing in my yard. In April, eggs. In May, asparagus! In June, strawberries. In July, blueberries. In August, tomatoes!! In September, applesauce. In October, Delicata squash. In November, meats from Hettie Belle Farm. And in December, homemade bread. Also, I often combine herbs and brew original tea blends. Mmmmm. And yes, not only do I love seasonal food, I did just make a joke involving The Very Hungry Caterpillar. :D
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The people who love me. My cat. The outdoors. Books. Music. And fresh produce. Whether it's a pint of strawberries from the farmer's market or a sun-warmed tomato out of my garden, I am *such* a fan.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Managing my household, my novel, turning my lawn into a garden of herbs and perennial vegetables, what to cook next, whatever book I'm in the middle of, plans and projects for the future, my posture (thanks to my physical therapist), and getting things on my to-do list done.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home. The right person could easily coax me out to dinner, or to their home for snuggles, but when left to myself, I read, watch Netflix, and go to bed early.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I aspire to be the one you notice because of my unusually good posture. I am striving to develop the grace of a tiger, the poise of a queen.
You should message me if
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You are a writer, or a poet. You are pagan, or excited about nature. You're poly, and want to talk to someone else who's making it work. You like to cook or garden and want to talk about it- or cook together! I'm willing to talk to anyone who can use grammar and spelling and has a sense of humor.

My ongoing enthusiasms include Health at Every Size, local food, and polyamory - if we have one (or more!) of these in common, please get in touch!

I believe strongly that one of the things that fuels a successful poly lifestyle is making sure everyone gets what they need, so let me be clear that much of my time is spoken for. If you're looking for your one and only, it's probably not me, unless your life is already very full. I don't go in for hierarchical relationships, and I am not interested in dating a couple. (Similarly, though I am married, I do not expect my dates to do more than eventually meet my husband!)

What I *am* interested in is building an intimate connection with a special someone (or someones!) based on mutual delight in each others' company. I am really good at healthy, stable relationships and I want more of them! I am especially interested in hearing from women.

I always enjoy finding new friends. Are you the next one? :)