Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


33 New York, NY Genderqueer, Man

Genderqueer, Man

Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24-34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 27
Queer, Straight
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Average build
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Sign Language (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a geek, an atheist, and a skeptic. I do read books and don't watch sports. I like math and weird, avant-garde music. I’m very tactile and kinesthetic. I’m an introvert, but not a loner - on the contrary, to me happiness stems not so much from what I do as who I do it with. Shared experiences are what give life meaning.

I practice ethical non-monogamy, which to me means building relationships on love, respect, and trust, but not on exclusivity. I suppose I'm generally considered straight-ish and male-ish, except probably by straight males. (I don't really know to describe my orientation - I guess I'm generally less attracted to anyone who's too cis-normative, especially on the male end of the spectrum.) I'm skeptical of anyone who has never felt the need to question the status quo.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After I burned out as a systems administrator, I went back to school for massage therapy. It’s much more satisfying. Now that I get to play with computers for fun instead of work, I enjoy them a lot more. (Working as a sysadmin is kind of like being the goalie on a soccer team... no matter how great you are you'll never get the credit for winning the game for your team, but if your team loses you know you'll take the blame!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like lots of different books, movies, music, and food. Also podcasts, comics, games, and plays. I don't really have favorites, because I like variety more than any one thing. I like indie flicks and summer blockbusters; "serious" literature and mass-market sci-fi. If the media I like have one thing in common, it’s that they surprise me, often by making me laugh and/or think.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let’s be honest - online dating sucks. I don’t like spending hours carefully composing intelligent-sounding messages to strangers who probably aren’t interested, and I bet you don’t like wading through an inbox of lazy, arrogant, entitled guys.

So, let's get offline as soon as possible. If we like each other's profiles, let’s meet in person and see if we hit it off. An easy, casual, low-pressure date to see if we want to get to know each other. If you’d like that, send me a message. “Hi” is sufficient - no need to be clever if you think your profile speaks for itself. I promise I'll check it out!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are kind, sincere, caring, honest, and intellectually inclined. Geeks and nerds turn me on. You like talking about big ideas like politics and philosophy, even with someone who disagrees with you. You like to be challenged and to step outside your comfort zone in search of exciting new ideas and experiences. You don't smoke (at least, not tobacco). You like to cook and would enjoy crafting wonderful meals together. (Or even better - you don't like to cook, and would rather just let me cook, and you'll clean up afterwards!)