33 New York, NY
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My self-summary
I'm a geek, an atheist, and a skeptic. I do read books and don't watch sports. I like math and weird, avant-garde music. I’m very tactile and kinesthetic. I’m an introvert, but not a loner - on the contrary, to me happiness stems not so much from what I do as who I do it with. Shared experiences are what give my life meaning.

I practice ethical non-monogamy, which to me means building relationships on love, respect, and trust, but not on exclusivity. I have a primary partner, who I live with, and I'm not looking for serious commitment elsewhere, but I'm not looking just for casual sex either.

I suppose I'm generally considered straight-ish and male-ish, except probably by straight males. (I don't really know to describe my orientation - I guess I'm generally less attracted to anyone who's too cis-normative, especially on the male end of the spectrum.) I'm skeptical of anyone who has never felt the need to question the status quo.
What I’m doing with my life
After I burned out as a systems administrator, I went back to school for massage therapy. It’s much more satisfying. Now that I get to play with computers for fun instead of work, I enjoy them a lot more.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like a wide variety of these things. Also podcasts, comics, games, and plays. I'd often prefer something new over any existing "favorite." I like things that surprise me, often by making me laugh and/or think.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Let’s be honest - online dating sucks. I don’t like spending hours carefully composing intelligent-sounding messages to strangers who probably aren’t interested, and I bet you don’t like wading through an inbox of lazy, arrogant, entitled guys.

So, let's get offline as soon as possible. If we like each other's profiles, let’s meet in person and see if we hit it off. An easy, casual, low-pressure date to see if we want to get to know each other. If you’d like that, send me a message. “Hi” is sufficient - no need to be clever if you think your profile speaks for itself. I promise I'll check it out!
You should message me if
You are kind, sincere, caring, honest, and intellectually inclined. Geeks and nerds turn me on. You like talking about big ideas like politics and philosophy, even with someone who disagrees with you. You like to be challenged and to step outside your comfort zone in search of exciting new ideas and experiences. You like to cook and would enjoy crafting wonderful meals together. (Or even better - you don't like to cook, and would rather just let me cook, and you'll clean up afterwards!) This appeals to you: