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41 M Venice, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:14am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Poorly), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Oh- ladies, please.
Statistical research shows that, even as a reasonably intelligent, fairly attractive guy here on OKC, chances are still that you'll probably miss out on all the fun and never say hi or not reply, because there are just *way* too many ass*oles out there busy making useless noise by sending you dick photos, and offers for meaningless, empty sex.
So what exactly does that leave for all the nice guys??
...Psychopaths, ancient grandmothers, heavyset profile liars (that's not your photo!!)- or worse, fake profiles, and ladies with a match % of less than 70%...
But- hey, if that's not you, and you are still reading this-- why not read on!!

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Are you a little bit of a sexynerdy smartypants, with an insatiably dark, perhaps wry sense of humor, and an incredibly creative yet somewhat dirty mind?
...Maybe you like NPR, you like surfing, yoga, tantra, or snowboarding??
Do you own own a pair of kitty ears, fangs, or fairy wings?
If not, would you like to??

Perhaps the thought of being completely lost together in the desert at night would be appealing to you- especially if that's where you end up finally finding freedom- and truly finding yourself?

Yeah? That's you??
Well, then you should definitely stop reading this and say hi.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My life?? Hmmm. Well, so far- its been kind of colorful (I could probably tell you some really interesting stories), and wild and weird at times- and it hasn't always been easy, but I like a good challenge, and despite it all- I still firmly believe I am the architect of my own destiny (or, if you are lucky, maybe a little bit of yours!), and so, here we are.

And, since destiny has brought us here in this fleeting moment of Internet togetherness, may I point out that- I *have* to dress like this, because I have a regular day job.
And, while that may not have always let me-hippie-me be hippie-me, and has my mouth still firmly planted on the teat of Corporate America, I will nonetheless admit that I do get a certain satisfaction around being able to bring Enterprise Class Information Technology to the People!

...Though, at some point in the not too incredibly distant future, I do plan on switching gears a bit, and making it so that I don't have to work the conventional day job- which hopefully will allow me to do more surfing, pay for a nice house outright, and slowly turn the SLO land I own into a great winery.

...I would probably also argue that I'm pretty fun, if perhaps somewhat mysterious at times, and also a bit of a consummate rule-breaker, and tester-of-limits; for why is it that we should have *anything*, if it makes no sense to have it- and how will we ever know where to stop if we never examine where something is going to break??
Now this doesn't mean everything should devolve into adversity and chaos-- it is possible to examine most things within reason, and without having them completely unravel.
...Its just-- if a person should really be judged on the content of their character, and if Liberty is so important to human existence, and life so worthy of examination-- what other method will bring us to free speech, free thought, free action, and to find out who we *truly* are, and what we are really made of??
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Ask me *any* question about the Oracle database- *ANY* question!
...Why is it that binary collation and cardinality estimates directly affect the physical speed of data retrieval? Why is it that some SQL predicate clauses are fast, and others- while essentially equivalent, completely slow??
...True- probably not a very exciting conversation for most people (unless you are a geek!), but, oh my- it *does* pay the bills.

...Also, I think I'm pretty good at a few other important things, but you can discover all that later, if you like; some great surprises in store...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
An old girlfriend of mine once surprised me with an aloe plant and a very nice note that said:

7 Things I Like About Stephen:

1). You have good taste in music
2). You go your OWN way
3). You let me be me
4). You don't eat fast food
5). You make me laugh
6). You are good in bed (glad to hear that!!)
7). You like to play in the snow

And, while I was somewhat disappointed when she ran off to Chile to go skiing and open a bakery with hunky Pablo, I still think it is a very fair assessment of the situation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Anything spicy or unusual. ...I will admit to have eaten insects once, but I'm not so sure I'd do it again.
...The Fruit Of Knowledge though-- especially if handed down off a ladder by a short-skirted, bespectacled Librarian... Oh *yeah*-- I would *definitely* eat that again... ;-)

Also, I also seem to have a weird addiction to shoegazy drown-in-something-sonic dream-pop lately. ...And Van Morrison.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Left thumb, Left index finger, Right thumb, Right index finger, Left eye, Right eye.
...Say what?? I CANT HEAR YOU! Somebody took my ears away because it was MORE THAN SIX!! ;-)

Christ Kid- you're going to poke somebody's eye out with that kind of talk!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The way the world works.
...Maybe I'm a little introverted or reserved at first, but you can easily rev my engine by making me insanely curious about something.
...And once I actually get to know you-- I'm absolutely certain: never a more loyal friend, never a more dedicated lover.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No Friday night is typical, but OH!, those Saturday mornings...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably that I have a sort-of bad habit of getting *insatiably curious* about something, sometimes to the point of involving myself headlong as the guinea pig in some weird self-devised experiment, simply because I *MUST* know.
...This has had both incredibly fantastic and sometimes disastrous (though likely hilarious) results.
Yes indeed-- see above.

That, or the fact that I may end up loving your canine dog friend just a little bit more than you. I dunno, I'm sorry- I just can't help it!! I loves me the dogglinzz.

...But other than that, the REAL private stuff wouldnt be private then, would it?? Ask me later, when we're alone. ;-)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are maybe a little artsy or weird- but more like: "Sweetie, what is a platypus doing in our garage??" fun-weird, as opposed to "Deep down I'm insecure and hate myself" weird, or you are like, far2kool4skool weird.
Oh, and I guess it wouldn't hurt if you thought I was kinda' cute!

(Also-- yes, in fact- that is my real actual lovely mug there; unlike some other OKC users who shall remain nameless, that *is*, in fact, what I look like.)