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39 Belchertown, MA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29-40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 27
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Rather not say
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Holy crap, this profile is old. Please pardon our appearance during renovations. Now where did I put that red pen...?

I am personally disorganized. I have a thing for bicycles. I also have a thing for hand and power tools. I occasionally disappear into a workspace with some raw materials, printouts from some internet site, scribblings on paper towels and excerpts from the collected works of R. Buckminster Fuller then to spend a few hours hammering, gluing, cutting, splicing and whatnot only to emerge later with an object or something that invariably makes passersby go "Okay, WOW, but why couldn't you just change the lightbulb?"

I've spent most of my life in Massachusetts, though I lived in New Orleans for a couple years to see what that was like. I moved there post-K and moved back August 2008. My love of NOLA and my yet greater love of the Northeast were at odds, thus the entire trip served (if nothing else) to remind me where my home will always be. One of my favorite conversations in New Orleans was explaining to a friend what a "Fluffernutter" is and why it is important. She said "Peanut butter and WHAT? EWW." ...while sucking on a crawfish head.

I believe in full disclosure. Being disingenuous makes me sad. I think OKCupid profiles are inherently skewed towards the positive, which is fine if you're only interested in someone for their positive qualities. Me, I'm interested in the more subtle qualities of the human experience, and humans have bumps and bruises; I'd be happy to listen to yours. See, EVERYONE has some degree of "drama", and that's fine. If you don't believe that, you are probably either exceedingly lucky or incredibly boring, or perhaps both.

Other stuff: Even when I was in excellent shape, I've always had a bit of a gut. I have a quirky, sideways smile. I don't like onions. I'm reasonably certain I don't want kids for several good and important reasons. Due to shifting priorities, circumstances and life happening, I never actually graduated from college, did the 2.3 kids/wife/house-in-the-suburbs thing. And I'm fine with that. I have a few regrets, but I'm also pretty okay with them. I've tried many things and succeeded, and I've tried many things and failed. I'm real and genuine and introspective and patient and compassionate.

Obligatory: Of COURSE I like meeting new people. Say hello. In fact, say more than that. What makes you a real person?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've been an Information Technologist, an educator, a farm mechanic and a whole host of other things barely worth mentioning. As of this writing, I'm back in Information Technology. I like solving problems, helping humans, and enjoying how ones and zeroes can collaborate to make colors and shades of gray.

I like ecological architecture. I'd like to do that professionally sooner rather than later. I mean, hell, I've designed houses in my spare time for fun. I don't know if that will ever come to fruition as a career at this point, however. Though who knows? I can help raise a mean barn.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Pattern recognition. Listening. I have an oddly good sense of balance. I can fix most things mechanical. I'm a good teacher; I can find plain English ways of explaining complicated concepts. I'm exceedingly good at being goofy and irreverent, and yet I can also dispense with all bullshit and be incredibly genuine when the need arises.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I look like Tim Robbins. I have really huge hands.

Then there's the gills on my neck, the third eye, the platypus fur, the webbed feet and the antennae.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Ten authors sampled from my bookshelf: Arthur C. Clarke, Orson Scott Card (I know, I know...), Leon Lederman, Noel Perrin, Henry David Thoreau, Douglas Adams, Stephen Gould, Al Franken, Dave Barry, George Carlin.

Movies: I've re-fallen in love with the works of Hayao Miyazaki and Studio Ghibli. And for stark contrast, the Guy Ritchie film Snatch made me fall on the floor laughing.

Music: Here's a list of the artists that appear on a mix CD I made a month ago (I don't own a mp3Podthing): Great Big Sea, Cat Stevens, Guster, Dave Matthews Band, Jamiroquai, Midnight Oil, Nick Drake, Fine Young Cannibals, Van Morrison, Ulrich Schnauss, Kansas, KMFDM, Foo Fighters, System of a Down, Barenaked Ladies, Indigo girls, Bjork.

Food: Here's a smattering of what's in my fridge, freezer and cupboard: Mini grape tomatoes, extra virgin olive oil, Trader Joe's frozen chicken potstickers, frozen Mahi Mahi filet, fresh baby spinach, genuine Japanese ramen (I know, I know), frozen flat iron steak from a local farm in Belchertown, two quarts of local Side Hill Farm yogurt, and a four-pack of Allagash Black for the protein.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
oxygen, water, food, clothing, shelter, health.

Everything else I've been able to let go of at one point or another. If you love something, set it free, right? It becomes all the more precious to you later.

ok, ok. I had a hard time letting go of ice cream when I tried that for a while.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sustainability. Leading a richer life while consuming fewer resources.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With my friends at our ritual Friday outing, supporting a local brewpub. I've a weakness for porters and stouts.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I listen to the 80s station sometimes while driving into work. "AND I RAAAAAN.... I RAN SO FAR AWAAAAAY..."
You should message me if
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Perhaps it's just me, but isn't this question a bit ridiculous on a matchmaking site? You should message me if you think (or even hope) we'd hit it off.

There, was that so hard?