Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an active person. My day job is intellectually and emotionally
challenging; it provides continual surprises; the work is difficult
but gratifying. When not working I can be very active: I hike,
ocean kayak, bicycle, and work-out regularly. And I am equally
capable of quiescent things, reading is big, I love watching films,
cooking a meal with a friend is great. Finally, I derive great
satisfaction from serious conversation, especially if I am talking
with someone who likes a little passion, even contentiousness, in
the mix. I have always learned a lot from spirited discourse.
I have done many home renovations over the years (here and in
Cambridge where I lived and worked for a long time) and while all
but one big home project is behind me, I expect I'll always be
doing something of that nature.
Fitness is very, very important to me and I seek a similar
orientation in any potential match.
I have an inordinate dread of entropy balanced by a healthy respect
for chaos. On that continuum I lean toward chaos because in the
abstract it is more fun and interesting. That written, I confess to
being financially solvent, having a long term commitment/investment
in my work, owning a lake house, respecting history, and showing
up--in all senses of that phrase.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
More than ever trying to balance metaphysical pursuit (asking the
big questions: how, why, what next, etc.) with the quoditian, and
in both cases trying to incorporate fun, profundity, sensuality,
humor (super important), variety, a little attitude, and pace.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people laugh (it's a gift and a commitment), asking
questions, never slaking my curiosity, carpentry, word-smithing,
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I dress well, having decided awhile ago that appearance is a kind
of self-portrait. At various points in time I settle into a "look,"
but today's is different than yesterday's, and they recycle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read all the time and usually have two things going at once, one
serious (technical, scientific, non-fiction), the other short or
long fiction and some poetry---a lot of TC Boyle recently (I highly
recommend his Drop City), Jonathan Franzen, a Sylvia Plath jag last
month, Cormac McCarthy, and Scandinavian noire.
There have been times in my life I've retreated into film (for
weeks at a time it has become my primary focus/recreational
activity). My viewing is informed by broad ranging taste, from the
silly to the sublime, from documentary to scifi.
My grandparents taught me the joy of every kind of food.
The music I like is varied, although I often come late to a good
thing, it having passed me by in its prime. I'm very open to
"tutoring" in this realm.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Hope and wonder
Literature: books and more books; the NYT, The New Yorker; the
The night sky
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking. But I find intellectual and
psychological space for timeless moments as well. I've always been
able to go away, either in response to something tangible or just
some distant call.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It really depends, somewhat on the season, somewhat on my
relationship status, somewhat on what's happening "out
I admit to being partial to having dinner with a friend in a
"Friday night kind of place," casual, local folks, good food,
At certain periods of my life Friday was wind down time with
family: cooking something simple or getting take-out, a film, a
drink, and planning the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Most of the chapters in my book are open.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like what you've read, embrace life, view this as an
opportunity (of what nature to be determined), recognize that
fate/karma frequently needs a helping hand, and like men
(inevitable reservations aside and accepted).
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