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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
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Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Banking / Finance
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Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
English, Hungarian

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My self-summary
Hello everyone. My name is Alex and I'm an alcoholic. That's a joke. Honest!

As much as I didn't want it to, it actually happened. I turned 30 and with that I realized I am at a point in my life where I would like to meet a woman who has time for a relationship to become long term and isn't afraid to commit.

This has been an issue for me in the past. I have had a string of bad luck meeting women who don't know who they are, what they want out of life, realize they don't have time for a relationship, aren't over an ex, and/or are not emotionally available. And women think men are the difficult ones!

I want to find someone who I can share all of my important moments with and I will share in yours. I am tired of the dating rat race. I don't want to "casually date" (to be honest I don't know what that means). I am not looking for random hook-ups or being friends with benefits. I want the real deal. A stable, reliable person in my life. Perhaps this isn't the place to find this, but, time will tell

So who am I? Honestly, I'm not like most guys you will meet. First, my family comes from Hungary. My culture is a very important to me. My grandmother cooked traditional Hungarian meals, my father is a musician and plays Hungarian and Eastern European folk music. We spoke a different language in the home. It was a rude awakening for me when I started school to find out everyone isn't Hungarian! Who knew?!

I am the middle child, stuck between two sisters. Growing up I was surrounded by women. There were my sisters, my mother, grandmother and aunt all living together. My father and grandfather worked, so it was just me and the ladies. I was constantly told everything I did is wrong and I should keep quiet. According to my female friends this means I am well trained. They were joking, right?

In college I studied film and journalism. My two passions. I think the movies and books we read say something about us. Not everything mind you but they provide some insight. Me? I love comedies and classic Hollywood movies. This tells you I like to laugh and I'm old-fashion. As I said I grew up with my grandparents.

Those that know me best would say I am a goofball, so don't listen to them. I would say I am smart, creative, kind, funny and curious about what is going on around me. I did study journalism so politics and world events do interest me. I read the paper (the actual newspaper) every day. I like going to book stores (no kindle for me). I love seeing the new Woody Allen movie on opening day. I like comedy clubs and listening to jazz at the Green Mill or the Jazz Showcase and seeing foreign films at the Landmark Century theatre and the Music Box.

So what am I looking for? Well, I want to find someone who has an old-fashion sensibility to her. Tradition and family should be important to you. You are easy going and will laugh at my jokes (c'mon, someone has to). You aren't afraid to commit. You enjoy movies and music. You'll put up with me going to a comedy club and watching Woody Allen movies. You won't laugh at me for being color blind or not liking sports. You are religious and are curious about the world around you.

If that sounds like you or if I sound interesting to you, I can't wait to hear from you. If not, well, it's your lost :)
What I’m doing with my life
Working towards making it perfect!
Something about turning 30 motivated me. I joined a gym a year ago, changed my diet. I'm 80% vegetarian (we won't discuss the other 20%). Run 6 miles a day. In the end, it all paid off. I lost 45 pounds.

I work in real estate (as a property manager) but I've focused more on my writing lately. Recently I became a movie critic for a website.

And lastly, I've been trying to stay positive. I believe in bad vibes. What you put out into the world is what you'll get back.
I’m really good at
Reading people. I will know instantly if we will hit it off or not. Writing, telling jokes, staying calm and always finding the wrong street to take to avoid traffic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall. I'm genuine. I have a sarcastic sense of humor. Some people say I speak with an accent. My good looks (Maybe I added that part. But it's still true)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Count of Monte Cristo (Dumas), Notes From the Underground (Dostoevsky), 1984 (Orwell), Animal Farm (Orwell), Embers (Marai), First Love (Turgenev), Esther's Inheritance (Marai), The Stranger (Camus), The Importance of Being Earnest (Wilde), The Trial (Kafka), Keep the Aspidistra Flying (Orwell), The Pearl (Steinbeck), Loser Takes All (Greene), A Moveable Feast (Hemingway), This Side of Paradise (Fitzgerald) and Wuthering Heights (Bronte)
Movies: Dangerous question to ask a film student :)
My favorite movie is "The Bicycle Thieves". Other favorite movies are "Wild Strawberries", "The Godfather", "Modern Times", "Rear Window", "Gone with the Wind", "Metropolis", "Top Hat", "The Sacrifice", "Germany Year Zero", "Nights of Cabiria", "Rashomon", "The Conformist", "Ludwig", "My Night at Maud's", "The Merchant of Four Seasons","400 Blows", "Grand Hotel", "Random Harvest", "Mrs. Miniver","Port of Shadows", "Casablanca", "Singin' in the Rain", "Citizen Kane", "It Happened One Night", "It's A Wonderful Life", "Unfaithfully Yours", "Trouble in Paradise", "The Crowd", "The Philadelphia Story", "Szerelmesfilm", "Fanny & Alexander", "Persona", City Lights", "Sherlock Jr.", "Barry Lyndon", "History of the World Pt.1" and "Pyscho".
And now I'll name movies you may have actually heard of: "GoodFellas", "Casino", "Finding Nemo", "Gladiator", "Silver Linings Playbook", "Chicago", "Moulin Rouge!", "Inception", "Gangs of New York", "Midnight in Paris", "The Departed", "House of Flying Daggers", "Life is Beautiful", "The Artist", "Inequality For All","Up" (that montage of their marriage gets me every time!) and "Howl's Moving Castle"
Music: My favorite genres are jazz, classical, techno, trance, electronic, house, international and pop.
Frank Sinatra, Tony Bennett, Jack Jones, Mel Torme, Bobby Caldwell, Dave Brubeck, Erroll Garner, Stan Getz, David Guetta, Benny Benassi, Tiesto, Paul Oakenfold, Michael Jackson, Britney Spears, Mandy Moore, Madonna, Coldplay, Starsailor, Ella Fitzgerald, Bartok, Hayden, Mozart, Gyorgy Cziffra, Beethoven, Zoltan Kodaly, Liszt, Brahams, Cole Porter, Michel LeGrand, Noel Coward and Lady Gaga.
TV: I don't watch too much TV. I just don't have the time. Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiam, The Good Wife, Homeland and CNN
Food: Hungarian, Romanian, Polish, Czech, Bulgarian, Italian, Greek, Seafood and Cuban
The six things I could never do without
1. God
2. Friends/Family (particularily my nieces and nephews)
3. Love
4. Movies (and the arts in general)
5. Newspapers
6. Laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A variety of things ranging from the serious (my career, politics, world events) to the trival (what's the best street to avoid traffic after work. I actually think about this one a lot).
On a typical Friday night I am
I love to be out enjoying the weekend, whether it is going to a new restaurant (or an old favorite), listening to live music, seeing a movie or maybe even at comedy club on a date with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I honestly don't like dating sites. I dislike the structure of them. Lets all be honest and act like adults. Women have all the power when it comes to dating. Guys, put aside your pride and admit it. Ladies, please don't deny it. It doesn't matter if you are at a bar or on a dating site, women have the control. A dating site perfectly epitomizes this. Women take a more passive, laid back approach on these sites. They want the guy to do all the work; make the first move and send them a message. This allows a woman to go through twenty messages a day and "pick and chose" who'll she'll respond to. This gives her all the power. Men don't get twenty messages a day. The woman is not being "pro-active" merely by having a profile. She is just taking what comes her way. To be "pro-active" would mean to create a profile, search for people and write to twenty guys a day. THAT is what I prefer a dating site be. Both parties actively engaging to connect. Sincerely searching for someone to communicate with and have a conversation. A 50/50 split. Instead it is a 90/10 split with men doing all the work and women that never reply. This website, just like a relationship, can't work if both people aren't putting something in to it.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Women don't generally write to men but if you do chose to: please know who you are, be content with your life, you are over an ex and you have the time for a relationship to become long term. I prefer it if you live in the city. Also, while I do love spending time with my nieces and nephews, at this point I am not looking to get involved with someone who already has children. Sorry. And you are drug free.
Hopefully you read my entire profile. I made a sincere effort to describe who I am and what I am looking for. I know the profile is long, but, at least there won't be any surprises later.
I hope you are equally honest. Again, I am looking for a relationship. YOU should be too.