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sweetnlowdown1

31 M Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:38am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism
Sign
Aries
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Speaks
English, Hungarian

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My self-summary
Hello everyone. My name is Alex and I'm an alcoholic. That's a joke. Honest!

As much as I didn't want it to, it actually happened. I turned 30. After that moment I realized I am at a point in my life where I would like to meet a woman who has time for a relationship to become long term and isn't afraid to commit.

Believe it or not this has been an issue for me. I have had a string of bad luck meeting women who didn't want a relationship either because they wanted to focus on their career or didn't have time for one. They didn't know who they are, what they want out of life, weren't over an ex, and/or were not emotionally available. And women think men are the difficult ones! In all fairness though, this seems to be more of a generational issue than anything else.

I want to find someone I can share all of my important moments with and I will share in yours. I am tired of the dating rat race. I don't want to "casually date" or "short term" date
(to be honest I don't know what either means). I am not looking for random hook-ups or being friends with benefits. I want the real deal. A stable, reliable person in my life. This site doesn't seem to be the place to find this, but, time will tell.

So who am I? Honestly, I'm not like most guys you will meet. First, my family comes from Hungary. My culture is a very important to me. My grandmother cooked traditional Hungarian meals. My father is a musician and plays Hungarian and Eastern European folk music. We spoke a different language in the home. It was a rude awakening for me when I started school to find out everyone isn't Hungarian! Who knew?!

I am the middle child, stuck between two sisters. Growing up I was surrounded by women. There were my sisters, my mother, grandmother and aunt all living together. My father and grandfather worked, so it was just me and the ladies. I was constantly told everything I did is wrong and I should keep quiet. According to my female friends this means I am well trained. They were joking, right?

In college I studied film and journalism. My two passions. I think the movies and books we read say something about us. Not everything mind you but they provide some insight. Me? I love comedies and classic Hollywood movies. This tells you I like to laugh and I'm old-fashion. As I said I grew up with my grandparents.

Those that know me best would say I am a goofball, so don't listen to them. I would say I am smart, creative, kind, funny and curious about what is going on around me. As a journalism major, politics and world events do interest me. I read the paper (the actual newspaper) every day. I like going to book stores (no kindle for me). I love seeing the new Woody Allen movie on opening day. I like comedy clubs and listening to live jazz either at the Green Mill or the Jazz Showcase and seeing foreign films at the Landmark Century theatre and the Music Box.

So what am I looking for? Well, I want to find someone who has an old-fashion sensibility to her. Tradition and family should be important to you. You are easy going and will laugh at my jokes (c'mon, someone has to). You aren't afraid to commit. You enjoy movies and music. You'll put up with me going to a comedy club and watching Woody Allen movies. You won't laugh at me for being color blind or not liking sports. You are religious and are curious about the world around you.

If any of this sounds interesting to you, I can't wait to hear from you. If not, well, it's your lost :)
What I’m doing with my life
I work in real estate (as a property manager not an agent) but I have been devoting more time to writing. I have been published. I write entertainment pieces and movie reviews. I also have a movie blog. I get hate mail and everything! If you are nice, I might let you read it :)

For the past few months I have trying to become vegan or at least vegetarian. I have greatly reduced the amount of meat I eat. Vegan restaurant suggestions are always welcomed. I need to learn more about this lifestyle.

I also enjoy running.
I’m really good at
Writing, telling jokes, staying calm and always finding the wrong street to take to avoid traffic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall. I'm genuine. I have a sarcastic sense of humor. My good looks (okay, maybe no one has actually told me this but I still like to think it's true)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Count of Monte Cristo (Dumas), Notes From the Underground (Dostoevsky), 1984 (Orwell), Animal Farm (Orwell), Embers (Marai), First Love (Turgenev), Esther's Inheritance (Marai), The Stranger (Camus), The Importance of Being Earnest (Wilde), The Trial (Kafka), Keep the Aspidistra Flying (Orwell), The Pearl (Steinbeck), Loser Takes All (Greene), A Moveable Feast (Hemingway), This Side of Paradise (Fitzgerald) and Wuthering Heights (Bronte)
Movies: Dangerous question to ask a film student :)
If it was directed by Woody Allen, Stanley Kubrick, Alfred Hitchcock or Ingmar Bergman I have probably seen it and like it.
My favorite movie is called "The Bicycle Thieves". Other favorites are: "Wild Strawberries", "The Godfather", "Modern Times", "Rear Window", "Gone with the Wind", "Metropolis",
"Top Hat", "Sacrifice", "Germany Year Zero", "Casablanca",
"Citizen Kane", "Singin' in the Rain", "400 Blows", "Rashomon",
"Nights of Cabiria", "My Night At Maud's", "The Conformist",
"Ludwig", "Les Biches", "Barry Lyndon", "It's A Wonderful Life",
"Unfaithfully Yours", "Trouble in Paradise", "Horse Feathers",
"Annie Hall", "History of the World Pt. 1", "Sherlock Jr.",
"The Merchant of Four Seasons", "Port of Shadows",
"Psycho", "GoodFellas", "Casino", "Midnight in Paris",
"Silver Linings Playbook", "Finding Nemo", "Taxi Driver",
"The Artist", "Szerelmesfilm", "Way Out West", "Up!",
"Moulin Rouge!", "Mr. Smith Goes To Washington", "The Exorcist", "The Departed", "Inception", "Random Harvest",
"Rosemary's Baby", "Eyes Wide Shut", "American Beauty" and
"House of Flying Daggers"
Music: Frank Sinatra, Tony Bennett, Bartok, Hayden, Mozart, Gyorgy Cziffra, Beethoven, Cole Porter, David Guetta, Benny Benassi, Erroll Garner, Dave Brubeck, Duke Ellington, Chet Baker, Benny Goodman, Louis Armstrong and Madonna (my first celebrity crush! Yes I actually admitted I like Madonna. How honest can a guy be? lol)
TV: Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Good Wife and CNN. When I was younger I used to watch classic TV shows such as I Love Lucy, The Jack Benny Program, Ernie Kovacs (he was a favorite at our house), Car 54 Where Are You?, Mr. Ed
Food: Hungarian, Romanian, Polish, Czech, Bulgarian, Italian, Greek, Seafood and Cuban
The six things I could never do without
1. God
2. Friends/Family (particularily my nieces and nephews)
3. Love
4. Movies (and the arts in general)
5. Newspapers
6. Laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A variety of things; my career, politics, the best way to avoid traffic (I still need help with this one) and comedy. Comedy is actually very important to me. I consider myself a comedy buff. I also love improv. I used to act in college.
On a typical Friday night I am
I love to be out enjoying the weekend, whether it is going to a new restaurant (or an old favorite), listening to live music, seeing a movie or maybe even on a date with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Lets all be honest and act like adults. Women have all the power when it comes to dating. Guys, put aside your pride and admit it. Ladies, please don't deny it. It doesn't matter if you are at a bar or on a dating site, women have the control. A dating site perfectly epitomizes this. Women take a more passive, laid back approach on these sites. They want the guy to do all the work; make the first move by sending them a message. This allows a woman to go through twenty messages a day and "pick and chose" who'll she'll respond to and/or delete. This gives her all the power. Since women don't write to men, we don't get many messages a day. A woman is not being "proactive" merely by having a profile, she is just taking what comes her way. To be "proactive" would mean to create a profile, search for people and write to them. THAT is what I prefer a dating site be. Both parties actively engaging to connect. Sincerely searching for someone to communicate with and have a conversation. A 50/50 split. Instead it is a 90/10 split with men doing all the work and women that never reply. My feeling is (and there may be some who disagree) a dating website is just like a relationship, it won't work if both people aren't putting something in to it.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Women don't generally write to men but if you do chose to:
- please know who you are
- be content with your life
- you are over your ex
- you are ready for a long term relationship
- you live in the city (I live in Lincoln Square. The furthest I am willing to drive is Oak Park. I like the downtown area)
- we have similar morals / values
- you are drug free
- you have no tattoos
- you have no children

Hopefully you read my entire profile. I made a sincere effort to describe who I am and what I am looking for. I know the profile is long, but, at least there won't be any surprises later.

P.S. - Due to the lack of response frequency from the overwhelming majority of female users, I have decided I will no longer send the first message (I don't want to waste your time or mine). I understand this isn't the preferred method (read "most private" section) but I see no other option. If you believe we have something in common you are going to have to send the first message. There is a very good chance you will get a reply, so don't be afraid.

Thank you for reading my profile.