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54 • New York, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 38–58
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 6:16pm
- 6′ 1″ (1.85m)
- Body type
- Not at all
- Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
- Graduated from university
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)
I'm industrious, thoughtful, talented and skilled at many things.
I am passionate about my own growth and development but not high strung or too tightly wound. Napping is never a challenge.
I'm pretty committed to living out loud, as they say. I enjoy my public job and I also know the difference between being in the public eye and my private life at home.
I'm a writer so I could go on but I'd rather discuss any of this over coffee or a walk.
Helping people achieve their goals, both on large and small scales.
Eradicating debilitating delusion whenever it crops up in me -- I'm not overly concerned with your delusions unless they directly affect me.
One of the first things I notice about them are their shoes. No foot fetish here, but good shoes catch my eye.
I love Indian food -- I live near "Curry Hill" so I'm often there.
Peach/blackberry pie/cobbler/crumble/betty. Pretty perfect in any form.
Movies run from light romantic comedies (that are well-written and performed) to challenging cinema. Love action movies and things where people chase other people, again the better written the better.
I like smart writers who don't make a point of reminding you how smart they are.
I put myself through college playing drums so I have a good sense of time and rhythm. I like songs I can sing along with.
Silence is fine too sometimes. The sound of the tide coming in is pretty sweet.
Clean water (for drinking and/or bathing)
Loving and thoughtful people, especially ones I already know intimately
The ability to communicate
The opportunity to touch another person
A view of something green and living out of doors (if indoors)
People I love
People I haven't met yet
The concept of god/spirit/universal something within each living being
How I can do/be better
What I need to clean up
What I need to do before I can take a nap
How to quiet my mind from telling me things that aren't true but seem compelling
I don't have a standard 9-5 job so no day is typical, including the nights.
I don't have a bunch of secrets -- I'll answer anything in person.
You should have a sense of humor and be passionate about something. I'm pretty driven and if you're just hanging out, it won't bother me but it might bother you.
I love to laugh -- I'm serious about my work but I also appreciate the big and small absurdities that make up life every day.
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