Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Friendly. Somewhat easy going with others, somewhat hard on myself.
Not relentless about either. Somewhat relentless about goals, but
not in a crazy obsessive way -- I sleep really well without
I like life. I like people who like life and celebrate it. Spending
time with people who are always complaining is challenging. I don't
mind identifying the problem but sure do appreciate getting to the
solution if/whenever possible. Sometimes stuff just sucks and there
is no fix ... beyond time. I think it's a useful skill to be able
to sit through those sucky times without taking it out on others,
and if that happens being able to own it pretty quickly and clean
I don't have huge expectations of others, although I do kinda
expect people to be somewhat polite and kind. or indifferent.
Hostile and arrogant are right up there with complaining.
Humility is sexy. Kindness is sexy. Sexy is sexy. And I don't
necessarily mean sexual. Just engaging and alluring and
I'm pretty committed to living big without being a grabby, greedy
pig about it. Not large as in crazy consumption. But taking up all
the space one person does when they tell the truth, live their
passion and don't step on or take advantage of others.
I am serious, not overbearing, and good company.
What I’m doing with my life
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Helping people achieve their goals, both on large and small scales.
Writing about my process and attempting to codify it into a
workable system. Looking around in wonder and amazement, not always
amused ... but mostly. Working consistently to be a part of the
solution rather than more of the problem. Eradicating debilitating
delusion whenever it crops up in me -- I'm not overly concerned
with your delusions unless they directly affect me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking, writing, cooking, thinking, feeling, sleeping, gardening,
massaging, walking, biking, hiking ...
The first things people usually notice about me
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No idea. I'm tall and my head is shaved. People sometimes seem
compelled to rub the top of my head.
One of the first things I notice about them are their shoes. No
foot fetish here, but good shoes catch my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh, so many.
Not a fan of organ meats or sea urchin. I hope that doesn't label
me a Philistine. Otherwise, I'm pretty easy going, food-wise. Love
hole-in-the-wall places with mind-blowing surprises and restaurants
with multiple forks - if the food is good and merits the
Indian is a favorite cuisine these days.
Peach/blackberry pie/cobbler/crumble/betty. Pretty perfect in any
Movies run from light romantic comedies (that are well-written and
performed) to challenging cinema. Love action movies and things
where people chase other people, again the better written the
I like smart writers who don't make a point of reminding you how
smart they are.
I like music I can sing along to; the American songbook as sung by
Sarah Vaughan, Dinah Washington, etc.; Bach Cello Suites; stuff
that friends turn me onto to get me out of the middle of last
century or earlier... not a big fan of screaming or yelling or name
calling as a musical component.
Put myself through college playing drums -- good rhythm, tuneful.
Silence is fine too sometimes. The sound of the tide coming in is
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Really? I've done without plenty.
I'd prefer to not be without:
Clean water (for drinking and/or bathing)
Loving and thoughtful people, especially ones I already know
The ability to communicate
The opportunity to touch another person
A view of something green and living out of doors (if indoors)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People I love
People I haven't met yet
The concept of god/spirit/universal something within each living
How I can do/be better
What I need to clean up
What I need to do before I can take a nap
How to quiet my mind from telling me things that aren't true but
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with friends or alone. Both are fine. Cooking, eating, at the
movies or doing something "cultural." Hiking, camping, rowing out
on a lake under the moonlight. Getting ready for bed.
I don't have a standard 9-5 job so no day is typical, including the
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Is nothing I'd publish here.
I don't have a bunch of secrets -- I'll answer anything in person.
You should message me if
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any of the above piques your interest.
you think i'm cute and we could get along.
you think i'm cute and are not sure if we could get along but are
you have opposable thumbs and know how to use them.
you have a sense of humor and know how to use it.
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