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swellfellow

54 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 38–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Friendly. Somewhat easy going with others, somewhat hard on myself. Not relentless about either. Somewhat relentless about goals, but not in a crazy obsessive way -- I sleep really well without chemical aids.

I like life. I like people who like life and celebrate it. Spending time with people who are always complaining is challenging. I don't mind identifying the problem but sure do appreciate getting to the solution if/whenever possible. Sometimes stuff just sucks and there is no fix ... beyond time. I think it's a useful skill to be able to sit through those sucky times without taking it out on others, and if that happens being able to own it pretty quickly and clean it up.

I don't have huge expectations of others, although I do kinda expect people to be somewhat polite and kind. or indifferent. Hostile and arrogant are right up there with complaining.

Humility is sexy. Kindness is sexy. Sexy is sexy. And I don't necessarily mean sexual. Just engaging and alluring and inviting.

I'm pretty committed to living big without being a grabby, greedy pig about it. Not large as in crazy consumption. But taking up all the space one person does when they tell the truth, live their passion and don't step on or take advantage of others.

I am serious, not overbearing, and good company.
What I’m doing with my life
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Helping people achieve their goals, both on large and small scales. Writing about my process and attempting to codify it into a workable system. Looking around in wonder and amazement, not always amused ... but mostly. Working consistently to be a part of the solution rather than more of the problem. Eradicating debilitating delusion whenever it crops up in me -- I'm not overly concerned with your delusions unless they directly affect me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking, writing, cooking, thinking, feeling, sleeping, gardening, massaging, walking, biking, hiking ...
The first things people usually notice about me
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No idea. I'm tall and my head is shaved. People sometimes seem compelled to rub the top of my head.

One of the first things I notice about them are their shoes. No foot fetish here, but good shoes catch my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh, so many.

Not a fan of organ meats or sea urchin. I hope that doesn't label me a Philistine. Otherwise, I'm pretty easy going, food-wise. Love hole-in-the-wall places with mind-blowing surprises and restaurants with multiple forks - if the food is good and merits the effort.

Indian is a favorite cuisine these days.

Peach/blackberry pie/cobbler/crumble/betty. Pretty perfect in any form.

Movies run from light romantic comedies (that are well-written and performed) to challenging cinema. Love action movies and things where people chase other people, again the better written the better.

I like smart writers who don't make a point of reminding you how smart they are.

I like music I can sing along to; the American songbook as sung by Sarah Vaughan, Dinah Washington, etc.; Bach Cello Suites; stuff that friends turn me onto to get me out of the middle of last century or earlier... not a big fan of screaming or yelling or name calling as a musical component.

Put myself through college playing drums -- good rhythm, tuneful. Silence is fine too sometimes. The sound of the tide coming in is pretty sweet.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Really? I've done without plenty.

I'd prefer to not be without:

Dental hygiene
Clean water (for drinking and/or bathing)
Loving and thoughtful people, especially ones I already know intimately
The ability to communicate
The opportunity to touch another person
A view of something green and living out of doors (if indoors)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future
People I love
People I haven't met yet
The concept of god/spirit/universal something within each living being
How I can do/be better
What I need to clean up
What I need to do before I can take a nap
How to quiet my mind from telling me things that aren't true but seem compelling
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with friends or alone. Both are fine. Cooking, eating, at the movies or doing something "cultural." Hiking, camping, rowing out on a lake under the moonlight. Getting ready for bed.

I don't have a standard 9-5 job so no day is typical, including the nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Is nothing I'd publish here.

I don't have a bunch of secrets -- I'll answer anything in person.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
any of the above piques your interest.
you think i'm cute and we could get along.
you think i'm cute and are not sure if we could get along but are curious.
you have opposable thumbs and know how to use them.
you have a sense of humor and know how to use it.