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swellfellow

54 New York, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 38–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:45pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an introvert with a public job -- I guess that means I'm a walking contradiction. I can work a room but need downtime to recover afterwards.

I'm industrious, thoughtful, talented and skilled at many things.

I am passionate about my own growth and development but not high strung or too tightly wound. Napping is never a challenge.

I'm pretty committed to living out loud, as they say. I enjoy my public job and I also know the difference between being in the public eye and my private life at home.

I'm a writer so I could go on but I'd rather discuss any of this over coffee or a walk.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Writing, teaching and speaking about simplifying and sustainability.

Helping people achieve their goals, both on large and small scales.

Eradicating debilitating delusion whenever it crops up in me -- I'm not overly concerned with your delusions unless they directly affect me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking, writing, cooking, thinking, feeling, sleeping, gardening, massaging, walking, biking, hiking ...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No idea. I'm tall and my head is shaved. People sometimes seem compelled to rub the top of my head.

One of the first things I notice about them are their shoes. No foot fetish here, but good shoes catch my eye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I spend a lot of time in non-fiction land so I really enjoy mysteries -- the Swedes and Norwegians especially. It's a great escape from work.

I love Indian food -- I live near "Curry Hill" so I'm often there.

Peach/blackberry pie/cobbler/crumble/betty. Pretty perfect in any form.

Movies run from light romantic comedies (that are well-written and performed) to challenging cinema. Love action movies and things where people chase other people, again the better written the better.

I like smart writers who don't make a point of reminding you how smart they are.

I put myself through college playing drums so I have a good sense of time and rhythm. I like songs I can sing along with.

Silence is fine too sometimes. The sound of the tide coming in is pretty sweet.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I've done without plenty. I'd prefer to not be without:

Dental hygiene
Clean water (for drinking and/or bathing)
Loving and thoughtful people, especially ones I already know intimately
The ability to communicate
The opportunity to touch another person
A view of something green and living out of doors (if indoors)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future
People I love
People I haven't met yet
The concept of god/spirit/universal something within each living being
How I can do/be better
What I need to clean up
What I need to do before I can take a nap
How to quiet my mind from telling me things that aren't true but seem compelling
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with friends or alone. Both are fine. Cooking, eating, at the movies or doing something "cultural." Hiking, camping, rowing out on a lake under the moonlight. Getting ready for bed.

I don't have a standard 9-5 job so no day is typical, including the nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Is nothing I'd publish here.

I don't have a bunch of secrets -- I'll answer anything in person.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
any of the above piques your interest.

You should have a sense of humor and be passionate about something. I'm pretty driven and if you're just hanging out, it won't bother me but it might bother you.

I love to laugh -- I'm serious about my work but I also appreciate the big and small absurdities that make up life every day.