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swimjay

68 Berkeley, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 52–67
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 25
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, French, Spanish

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a reader, a walker, a midnight talker--interested in thinking, in the perceptions of others, prefer the genuine to the comfortable, well crafted language to small talk. If you want to discuss the latest Republican self-embarrassments, I'm sure I'll agree, but not want to spend much time on them. If you want to dance into the small hours, I can do that too, though that's not where I'm centered. But if you want someone to talk with about a poem you love, or even a sentence that's caught your eye, go for a long hike, listen closely to a piece of music, or visit some obscure part of the planet, I'm your man.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now I'm playing out a pretty good hand, interested to see how it turns out, with no illusions I'm the dealer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
thinking, empathy, fixing things, understanding how things work, hiking & backpacking, understanding science and literature.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sense of humor, intelligence, the keenness of my interests, openness. That I'm the strong, talkative type.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The films "Let the Right One in," "Il Orfanato," "Pelle the Conqueror," "Persona," "The Seven Samurai." I used to think I really liked Truffaut, but now am surprised to find some of his films a little annoying.
Wine, particularly syrah, pinot, German or Alsatian rieslings.
Single malt scotch--as with wine, it's fascinating how many different flavors are out there, though the effects of alcohol are not that fascinating.
Recently I've become fascinated by coffee, and am learning how to roast it, how to brew and espresso it. (Is that a verb?)
Joyce ("Dubliners" and the Dedelus chapters of "Ulysses"), Dickens (particularly "Bleak House" and "Our Mutual Friend"), some of Proust, Updike (the short stories), W.G. Sebald (particularly "Austerlitz"), Shakespeare's Sonnets, Kay Ryan, Tony Hoagland, some of Yeats.
Salmon, nuts, vegetables, particularly roasted, salads, some meat.
Mozart's sonatas for piano and violin, Red Molly, Dixie Chicks, Johnny Hodges, Cat Power (just the Covers CD, the rest is too depressive for me), The Eagles, Gretchen Peters, early Dylan, much of Bach, Chopin, Dvorak, Schubert, Beethoven, particularly the piano sonatas, Coltrane's ballads, some of Dire Straits, the amazing trumpet player Niklas Eklund, Viktoria Mullova.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
friends, music, poetry, walking, natural beauty, humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
evolutionary socio-biology--how we've come to be the way we are. The intricacies of language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to a movie, out to dinner with a friend, staying in and watching something from Netflix, going out to music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My interests are fairly intense, and usually take me surprising distances down the tunnels, or over the ridges, that they suggest.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You might be:
Someone generous, not withholding,
Kind, and rarely scolding,
Not too boring, not too crazy,
A decent worker, but sometimes lazy.
One who holds me in her heart,
Someone smart.