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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28-55
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Jul 31
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Buddhism and laughing about it
Has kid(s)
My self-summary
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I am happy; genuinely seriously happy. I love life, and I enjoy time I get to spend with people who are in inquiry about themselves and the world around them. It's not like I don't notice bad stuff happening to me or around me, it's just on a vast scale of negativity in the world my problems don't even register as important. I've been dead once so it changes your perspective on what's trivial.

I am in an open relationship and my son was born August 2012, so if you cannot hang with that, or do not deal well with jealousy, or have issues with attachment or ownership, or are generally confused by what I am talking about, then we would be problematic. Translation: no drama, just fun intelligent conversation with the possibility of sex and connection.

I'm looking for fun intelligent women with panache and a sense of adventure who want to take the occasional trip up the coast for a picnic, or to Harbin, or Esalen, or just a fun night exploring each other.

If you have a solid grounded sense of who you are, or if you practice Yoga regularly, or meditate, you'll understand this next part. This is about potentially exploring each other deeply, in the "now" without complications.

Don't be what you think others want you to be. Be who YOU are. You are an absolutely amazing person. You just have to connect with that part of you that believes it. There is someone amazing for you, it may just not be me.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in advertising and marketing, write for several publications, run the Science of Friendship project at and also started a sexuality and intimacy blog. I love and attack life, but can still laugh at it... and myself.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making words. Pushing buttons to see what happens, and Orgasmic Meditation. (Uh yeah, that last one probably needs some explanation)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am WAY better looking in person. Like if Matt Damon had sex with Val Kilmer and they had a baby, which would be impossible I know... but just visualize it.... Wait! No! don't visualize Val giving birth... Dammit, now they're totally freaked out, fuck.

Ug, ok, so I just kinda look like my pictures, oh well.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Awakening the Buddha Within, Saison, Rosamunde Sausage Grill, House, The Host, Tampopo, V for Vendetta, Branded to Kill, Dexter, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, Stranger in a Strange Land, Snow Crash
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
That little piece of lint in my belly button
The Playa
Dreams... they keep me sane.
Foie Gras... oh wait, crap, they banned it in California... argh!
My sense of wonder
My body
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether compassion means action, or inaction. As I move passed much of my ego (still a long way to go I think) I notice that the world around me tends to fade into something where external wants and needs become distant. As such, people around me blur into almost intelligible talk boxes.

The occasional bright light pierces it with someone who is paying attention and conscious. These moments are fleeting, I can just catch a glimpse of them, but there is this pull to go there; to find them. I search a lot, but when I consciously search those moments happen less, as if by searching I am squeezing them too hard.

There is this desire I have to "figure it out." My mind wants to "solve it"" and be able to access it at will. But the moment those thoughts pop into my head I am squeezing something into a box, and inside that box the light goes out.

I spend a lot of time thinking that if I could only stop thinking I could live in this moment, in this now time, and that would be enough.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably writing, working, laughing, enjoying.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am hesitant here. Since I often lack a filter or ability to determine how much to reveal, I can often cross into that boundary that would be uncomfortable for most people. Although there is an ego part of me that wants to poke at that, make you uncomfortable, that is only serving a part of me that wants to deflect or evade true intimacy. If you are willing to listen, truly listen, then I am willing to be intimate. For intimacy is not a one way action, it is a two way connection. So connect with me and learn to see yourself.
You should message me if
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You are still smiling and curious after reading my profile.