Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
❤ Polyamorous since 2002 (Emphasis on the AMOROUS)
I am not a newb ❤
I'm learning that I am an extremely rare and likely unique species.
I fear I may never find another of my kind. Please prove me wrong
if you can.
I don't know what remains of the person described below. I'm in a
period of transition, a sad pile of shards trying to rest.
I'm part nerd, part hippie dippie new ager, part hillbilly, with
some punk added in. I can be super irreverent, hope that's
I've been playing with the new and different gender and orientation
options. I'm on the fence about being demisexual. It seems to imply
being somewhere towards asexual. However I'm VERY sexual, and I
suppose I've learned something new about "normal" people if not
wanting to put my dick in someone who I have no feelings for makes
me some sort of asexual. I'm a little disappointed that this is
considered normal and I'm the freak. It just has to be with the
right people. I really don't perform well unless I'm feeling
I have a long distance relationship with someone who doesn't have a
profile here because she was horrified by all the terrible messages
she received. (This is why we can't have nice things!) I am oogly
googly flat on my face in love her and would not have it any other
I pretty much fail at hierarchical polyamory, I can't imagine
anyone that I love being secondary.
It is absolutely mandatory that anyone that I am seeing meet my
other partners and that I meet theirs. If you can't bring yourself
to do this, I suggest avoiding polyamory altogether.
I do have a strong spiritual leaning, however I keep it to myself
unless asked about it. Then I strain to use words to describe
There is this new term the kids are using a lot these days. GGG, I
had to Google it. Yes, I'm that. However I draw the line at
The other interesting key term that's been surfacing is
Relationship Anarchy. I'm not entirely sure what that means but it
sounds like a good thing to me as long as it's not just a euphemism
for Relationship Nihilism.
Once when I was a kid I snuck up on a feral cat while he was
sleeping and started scratching him between the ears. The kitty was
in utter bliss until he opened his eyes, then he ran away.
I can pet bees.
I am ENFP or INFP, the champion or the healer. I guess I can't make
up my mind
Enneagram type 2, the helper.
My love language is touch.
I like to say that I am a reckless gambler with my heart. I believe
that anyone who avoids love to prevent getting hurt probably just
hasn't been hurt enough.
When faced with a dilemma it is not unusual for me to analyse it
from every conceivable angle, try to imagine every possible
ramification, deem a certain course of action severely unwise, then
do it anyway.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
💘 Finding more love than I ever thought any one person could ever
my preferred vocation with a special interest in hospice
. I consider it an honor to
be there to close someone's eyes for them when they cross
I particularly enjoy hiking
, and archery
. Oooh! and hot springs
it's been too
🌳 My sweeties got me a new pair of hiking boots for Christmas. I
need to break these in!
🔥 I miss campfires that throw sparks up into the night sky and
mingle with the stars. I used to thrive on this magick.
⛵ Much of my life I live with the flow of things, like a ship at
sea. You can't change the winds or the tides, but you can adjust
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
💀 I'm your go-to guy in the case of a zombie apocalypse.
🌟 Admitting when I'm wrong.
🌟 Tempting fate.
🌟 Staying out of trouble.
🌟 Getting into trouble.
🌟 Slipping through the cracks.
🌟 Inciting rebellion.
🌟 Keeping the peace.
🌟 Seeing both sides.
🌟 Remaining calm while being yelled at in a fight.
🌟 Taking leaps of faith.
🌟 Falling on my face.
🌟 Getting up and taking that same leap again.
🌟 Random acts of kindness.
🌟 Teaching inappropriate things to toddlers.
🌟 Being wise for the sake of practicality.
🌟 Being foolish because it is so much more fun.
🌟 Putting holes in inanimate objects from far away.
🌟 Caring for the elderly.
🌟 Rotating my owl for science.
🌟 Throwing mezcal bottles while driving a car and flipping the bird
with both hands.
🌟 Bracing myself, closing my eyes, and telling myself "This is
going to hurt" then jumping in with both feet.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People who meet me I person seen to often be surprised that I am
actually like my profile presents me. I don't understand who would
waste time creating a dishonest profile. The truth will come out so
why bother pretending to be someone else.
Either that I am a human road flare of an extrovert or that I am so
introverted that I am nearly invisible. Sometimes I can exert
control over it and other times I totally lose it.
I look deeply into people, I try to see through their facades and
find the good in everyone. It makes people uncomfortable sometimes
but I am one of the least judgmental people you can meet. I
remember first meeting someone who actually told me, "Hey, quit
looking at my soul." 👀
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is always the longest part of a profile and also the part that
no one really cares about so I'll keep this short.
📚 S.M. Stirling, Neal Gaiman, Charles De Lint
🎶 Black Flag, Beats Antique, Johnny Cash
🎥 Before Sunrise, Waking Life, Tolkien
📺 Game of Thrones, Firefly, Archer
🍕 Mexican, Indian, Pizza
If you are interested, you can read my yelp reviews, some of them
I'm still waiting to get a message that says, "You like Game of
Thrones! Me too! We should totally have sex"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Considering I once lived in a tent in a forest without much
electricity as a caretaker, I realize that there is a lot I can do
without. I would probably make an excellent monk if it were not for
the celibacy involved. However life is more fun when you have a
little more than the basic Maslow stuff.
🌟 Love, lots of it in many different guises.
🌟 Exciting plans or prospects.
🌟 A tranquil home to escape to.
🌟 Celebratory gunfire.
🌟 Really inappropriate humor.
🌟 Whimsy and general harmless mayhem.
🌟 Trees and other green growing things.
🌟 Swype's new emoji
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
When I message someone here I actually take the time to read the
entire profile. Of course I skip to the very bottom to make sure
I'm not wasting my time. But if there are no deal breakers in the
you should message me if section and I'm within the age parameters
etc. I read the whole thing and look for things to write about to
prove that I read it. I take a great deal of time and I am pretty
choosy about who I do take this time for.
However after crafting a well thought out message, something
happens. There are certain people out there, let's call them
fuckwits. After my message hits the inbox of this seemingly amazing
woman, all of a sudden several fuckwits bury it under a pile of
hundreds of messages that say things like, "Hi", "Sup", or "Nice
tits let's screw tonight".
I'm sure my message just gets deleted along with all the fuckwits.
Also, I find it interesting how many women are looking for someone
who is single but only for friends.
I tend to win women over when I cuddle them, however I'm also very
conscious of boundaries and seldom get that close on the first
-Ugh I hate all the rubber neckers making the traffic even wor...
Holy crap! That SUV is like totally upside down look!
-Arrgh! Move your ass I'm going to be late for yoga!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
WooHoo! I'm finally off a 12 hour shift! Time to rock out with my 😴
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My heart is broken open.
Heartbreak shut it down decades ago.
Years later I tried to let people in again.
And was hurt over and over at every turn.
I kept closing myself and hiding in a dark place.
I almost didn't survive it.
Then I met someone who I was sure would be forever.
Once again my heart was broken
This time was different.
I didn't close down.
I didn't hide.
My heart remains open
The pain of heartbreak is still very real.
But I no longer fear it.
My heart is open, broken open, and open it shall always
"The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you
can contain." -Kahil Gibran The Prophet
Doubt that the stars are fire;
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt that I love.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'm hoping for something that develops deep and long term. I'm
looking for chosen family.
I prefer that you already have other partners who are also good at
poly. However I will still consider the right polywog or
🌟 You are willing to take more than a couple hours to get to know
me. I take a while to warm up, once I do you won't regret it.
🌟 You understand what is involved in ethical non-monogamy
🌟 You are interested in knowing more about me.
🌟 You have any questions about Polyamory
🌟 We keep running into each others profiles over and over.
🌟 If this is you http://youtu.be/mg0s3CDkbvQ
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