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41 San Leandro, CA Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 31-55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:49am
Hispanic / Latin, White
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Dropped out of University
Might want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
❤Polyamorous since 2002 I am not a newb❤

I wonder how many people on here feel like this?

I'm part nerd, part hippie dippie new ager, part hillbilly, with some punk added in. I can be super irreverent, hope that's okay. The personality section says I'm not polite at all. i would say I am informal and inappropriate, but I'm really not an asshole... really.

I have two relationships, one of which is long distance. I am oogly googly flat on my face in love with them.

It is absolutely mandatory that anyone that I am seeing meet my other partners and that I meet theirs. If you can't bring yourself to do this, I suggest avoiding polyamory altogether.

I do have a strong spiritual leaning, however I keep it to myself unless asked about it. Then I strain to use words to describe it.

There is this new term the kids are using a lot these days. GGG, I had to Google it. Yes, I'm that. However I draw the line at pain.

Once when I was a kid I snuck up on a feral cat while he was sleeping and started scratching him between the ears. The kitty was in utter bliss until he opened his eyes, then he ran away.

I can pet bees.

I am ENFP or INFP, the champion or the healer. I guess I can't make up my mind

Enneagram type 2, the helper.

My love language is touch.

When faced with a dilemma it is not unusual for me to analyse it from every conceivable angle, try to imagine every possible ramification, deem a certain course of action severely unwise, then do it anyway.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
💘 Finding more love than I ever thought any one person could ever have.

Caregiving is my preferred vocation with a special interest in hospice. I consider it an honor to be there to close someone's eyes for them when they cross over.

I particularly enjoy hiking, camping, Yoga, and archery. Oooh! and hot springs it's been too long.

🌳 My sweeties got me a new pair of hiking boots for Christmas. I need to break these in!

🔥 I miss campfires that throw sparks up into the night sky and mingle with the stars. I used to thrive on this magick.

⛵ Much of my life I live with the flow of things, like a ship at sea. You can't change the winds or the tides, but you can adjust your sails.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
💀 I'm your go-to guy in the case of a zombie apocalypse.

🌟 Cuddling.
🌟 Listening.
🌟 Litotes.
🌟 Admitting when I'm wrong.
🌟 Tempting fate.
🌟 Staying out of trouble.
🌟 Getting into trouble.
🌟 Slipping through the cracks.
🌟 Inciting rebellion.
🌟 Keeping the peace.
🌟 Seeing both sides.
🌟 Remaining calm while being yelled at in a fight.
🌟 Taking leaps of faith.
🌟 Falling on my face.
🌟 Getting up and taking that same leap again.
🌟 Random acts of kindness.
🌟 Teaching inappropriate things to toddlers.
🌟 Being wise for the sake of practicality.
🌟 Being foolish because it is so much more fun.
🌟 Putting holes in inanimate objects from far away. 🎯
🌟 Caring for the elderly.
🌟 Rotating my owl for science.
🌟 Throwing mezcal bottles while driving a car and flipping the bird with both hands.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People who meet me I person seen to often be surprised that I am actually like my profile presents me. I don't understand who would waste time creating a dishonest profile. The truth will come out so why bother pretending to be someone else.

Either that I am a human road flare of an extrovert or that I am so introverted that I am nearly invisible. Sometimes I can exert control over it and other times I totally lose it.

I look deeply into people, I try to see through their facades and find the good in everyone. It makes people uncomfortable sometimes but I am one of the least judgmental people you can meet. I remember first meeting someone who actually told me, "Hey, quit looking at my soul." 👀
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is always the longest part of a profile and also the part that no one really cares about so I'll keep this short.

📚 S.M. Stirling, Neal Gaiman, Charles De Lint

🎶 Black Flag, Beats Antique, Johnny Cash

🎥 Before Sunrise, Waking Life, Tolkien

📺 Game of Thrones, Firefly, Archer

🍕 Mexican, Indian, Pizza

If you are interested, you can read my yelp reviews, some of them are amusing.

I'm still waiting to get a message that says, "You like Game of Thrones! Me too! We should totally have sex"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Considering I once lived in a tent in a forest without much electricity as a caretaker, I realize that there is a lot I can do without. I would probably make an excellent monk if it were not for the celibacy involved. However life is more fun when you have a little more than the basic Maslow stuff.

🌟 Love, lots of it in many different guises.
🌟 Exciting plans or prospects.
🌟 A tranquil home to escape to.
🌟 Celebratory gunfire.
🌟 Really inappropriate humor.
🌟 Whimsy and general harmless mayhem.
🌟 Trees and other green growing things.
🌟 Cuddling.
🌟 Swype's new emoji
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
When I message someone here I actually take the time to read the entire profile. Of course I skip to the very bottom to make sure I'm not wasting my time. But if there are no deal breakers in the you should message me if section and I'm within the age parameters etc. I read the whole thing and look for things to write about to prove that I read it. I take a great deal of time and I am pretty choosy about who I do take this time for.

However after crafting a well thought out message, something happens. There are certain people out there, let's call them fuckwits. After my message hits the inbox of this seemingly amazing woman, all of a sudden several fuckwits bury it under a pile of hundreds of messages that say things like, "Hi", "Sup", or "Nice tits let's screw tonight".

I'm sure my message just gets deleted along with all the fuckwits. :-(

I tend to win women over when I cuddle them, however I'm also very conscious of boundaries and seldom get that close on the first date.

-Ugh I hate all the rubber neckers making the traffic even wor... Holy crap! Look! That SUV is like totally upside down!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
WooHoo! I'm finally off a 12 hour shift! Time to rock out with my 😴 Zzzzzzzz
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was once nearly killed in a wildfire being someplace no one should have been. I like to say I was there because my girlfriend's son was an idiot and I had to retrieve him. But the reality is that I probably would have been foolish enough to be there anyway. After all, it was pretty spectacular 🔥😲 🔥
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I prefer that you already have other partners who are also good at poly. However I will still consider the right polywog or newbie.

🌟 You are willing to take more than a couple hours to get to know me. I take a while to warm up, once I do you won't regret it.
🌟 You understand what is involved in ethical non-monogamy (poly for keyword searches)
🌟 You are interested in knowing more about me.
🌟 You have any questions about Polyamory
🌟 We keep running into each others profiles over and over.
🌟 If this is you

References available upon request