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40 M San Leandro, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:26pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
*******completely totally and utterly polysaturated*******

Polyamorous since 2002
I'm not a newb
If you are poly check out my mandatory match questions and answer them. Should help your matches.

If you aren't poly answer them anyway and maybe fewer poly people will bother you.

Also check out the new non-monogamy social site. Still in beta but has potential.

I'm Polyamorous, and I want to be perfectly clear and honest about that from the beginning. If you are monogamous I am not for you, there is no changing me, and I have no interest in changing others. I hate having to put up this sort of attitude at the very beginning, but I don't feel like wasting anyone's time either.

I have four relationships. BettyBaker, Suzsteppingup, Tazlyne, and another long distance relationship with someone who doesn't have a profile here. I am oogly googly flat on my face in love with all of them and would not have it any other way.

I am not one of those poly people who avoid getting attached. I am only interested in deep, soul expanding love. Otherwise a relationship with me won't last no matter how hot you are.

My view on relationships is very fluid and easy going. I have no aspirations of permanent monogamy sealed up tight in a legally binding contract with the intent of producing offspring and accumulating material wealth. I believe that all things happen for a reason, relationships begin and end and change to further the evolution and growth of the people involved.

I am primarily a tactile communicator, I express myself through touch more than I can even fathom with words.

I have a sense of humor that is pure evil. I sometimes have the uncanny ability to say the worst possible thing at the worst possible moment. I find it most amusing when my girlfriend goes pale with horror before she laughs.

I am a Pagan, I don't broadcast this but sometimes you might notice me read the writing in the sky and act accordingly.

I am also a coyote, which means that I am the sort of person who when faced with a dilemma will analyze the options carefully, look at the situation from different points of view, contemplate the ramifications for some time, deem a certain course of action unwise, and then do it anyway.

I have never been to burning man.

"Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness."
-Bertrand Russell

I am Wise, Foolish, and Mostly Harmless
What I’m doing with my life
Caregiving is my preferred vocation with a special interest in hospice. I consider it an honor to be there to close someone's eyes for them when they cross over.

I particularly enjoy hiking, camping, and archery. Oooh! and hot springs it's been too long.

Much of my life I live with the flow of things, like a ship at sea. You can't change the winds or the tides, but you can adjust your sails.
I’m really good at
Tempting fate.
Staying out of trouble.
Getting into trouble.
Slipping through the cracks.
Inciting rebellion.
Keeping the peace.
Seeing both sides.
Taking leaps of faith.
Falling on my face.
Getting up and taking that same leap again.
Random acts of kindness.
Being wise for the sake of practicality.
Being foolish because it is so much more fun.
Flinging arrows at targets.
Caring for the elderly.
The first things people usually notice about me
Either that I am a human road flare of an extrovert or that I am so introverted that I am nearly invisible. Sometimes I can exert control over it and other times I totally lose it.

I look deeply into people, I try to see through their facades and find the good in everyone. It makes people uncomfortable sometimes but I am one of the least judgmental people you can meet. I remember first meeting someone who actually told me, "Hey, quit looking at my soul."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like S.M. Stirling's Emberverse series, I have also read a fair share of Neil Gaiman. I find alternate realities interesting things to think about.

Movies I love are Amelie, Waking Life, Bubble Boy, the Lord of The Rings Trilogy, Six String Samurai, Borat, Miyazaki's Spirited Away, Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind, and a plenty of other stuff.

I try to avoid television but I have to mention Firefly, best show ever!

Currently I am trying a primal / paleo diet. However my tastes are pretty eclectic, I like all types of ethnic foods, especially the really spicy ones. Like insanely spicy. I have been growing my own chili peppers.

Music is variable too, Rev. Horton Heat comes to mind, Also Einsturzende Neubauten, (An acquired taste, sounds like a guy banging of a shopping cart while screaming in German) Nirvana, Sonic Youth, Jonathan Coulton, and Primus. I grew up in Hayward and have learned to dislike hip hop. and country. (With the exception of Johnny Cash)

A lot of my entertainment comes from the internet stuff I like include XKCD, Dr. Tran, Low Carb Comedy, Neurotically Yours, The Guild, PostSecret, OMG E-mails from an Asshole is hilarious, and last but not least OkCupid, I really do enjoy amusing myself reading profiles and looking at the photos.

I have a profound interest in the Day of The Dead and it's similarities with Samhain. Last year I made a large batch of sugar skulls however I have only managed to decorate a couple.

I dislike plastic and things that are synthetic. I prefer to invest a large sum of money in something that will last and last than to get something cheap and of low quality. I prefer things to be vintage because of this as well, vintage things are usually better made and increase in value as they age.
The six things I could never do without
Considering I once lived in a tent in a forest without much electricity as a caretaker, I realize that there is a lot I can do without. I would probably make an excellent monk if it were not for the celibacy involved. However life is more fun when you have a little more than the basic Maslow stuff.

- Love, lots of it in many different guises.
- Exciting plans or prospects.
- A tranquil home to escape to.
- Whimsy and general harmless mayhem.
- Trees and other green growing things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life and Love.
Fun things to do.
My sweeties.
Growing super hot chili peppers and heirloom tomatoes.
On a typical Friday night I am
When I am not out with one of my awesome girlfriends I am probably poking around on the internet or playing a game. A great deal of my day is downtime, so I am often reading something either online or in a book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!

I tend to be a surprise to people who see me here and meet me in person. I'm not the tattooed badass that some people see in my photos. I am a mellow type B who goes with the flow.

If you are looking for an alpha male neanderthal to treat you badly look elsewhere.

Occasionally I can be a force to be reckoned with, but only out of absolute necessity. For the most part I am all about love and connection.

I am neither dominant nor submissive
I am not a white knight
I'm an inconspicuous rogue
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
While love is an unlimited resource, time on the other hand is not :-(

- You understand what is involved in ethical non-monogamy
(poly for keyword searches)
- You are interested in knowing more about me.
- You have any questions about Polyamory or Paganism.
- We keep running into each others profiles over and over.