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30 Seattle, WA Non-binary, Genderqueer

Non-binary, Genderqueer

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27-55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 2:16pm
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids
English, Chinese
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello! I am new-ish to town and am looking for weirdo queer/QTPOC folks for hangouts/vent fests/meals/movies/hikes.

I identify as a radical queer Asian American. My pronouns are they/them. I have only really loved and connected with white people (thanks society), so I'm mostly only looking for other people of color to connect with and care for. The kind of people I invite in are:
- emotionally mature
- radically vulnerable
- passionate about something
- committed to personal growth

I'm also in this chapter of life where I feel limitless, intensely curious to learn from everyone I encounter, and wide open to new experiences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Moved to Seattle last October from sunny, warm Austin. Been busy attending QTPOC political and healing events, tackling my to reading list head on, dancing (gaga), writing poetry and sketching more regularly.

I work at a stable, successful tech company.

I am anti-capitalist & anti-marriage, and think a lot about alternative economies and alternative family structures.

Maybe I could find 4 other folks and have it setup so one person would not have to work for a year and devote that time to their creative growth.

Or the US could get its shit together and implement a Universal Basic Income for everyone, including those who are undocumented.

I love a balance of arts&crafts, radical politics, and being outside. Recently: taking a pottery class, taking a Pratt blacksmithing class, learning the baby harp, registered for the Allied Media Conference, met Dean Spade, after work trips to Denny Blaine to observe the lapping waves, got a popcorn maker, discovering high CBD weed, being completely overwhelmed by Mad Max Fury Road.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Leaving parties early.
Recommending good music.
Being attentive and really listening to the person I'm engaged with.
Keeping succulents teetering on the brink of death.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My gender identity is confusing to folks, so this is a common occurrence. I hate going to public bathrooms :/

I have a functional, minimal, particular tomboy style that represents my philosophy of owning, using and caring for high quality goods for a long time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Adventure Time, Bee and Puppycat, BLACK MIRROR, Broad CIty

Recent Music: Purity Ring, Beach House, Ryan Hemsworth, FKA Twigs, Baths, Braids, Caribou, The Antlers, Vashti Bunyan, Sharon Van Etten, Charli XCX, Ariana Grande, Alt-J, Kendrick Lamar, Childish Gambino, sexy melancholy dance/sex music

Anything by the great Hayao Miyazaki, The Skin I Live In, Blue Valentine, Fish Tank, Headhunters, Klown, Jeff Who Lives at Home, The Kids are Alright, Stoker, Frances Ha, Blue is the Warmest Color, Call Me Kuchu, Harold and Maude, Boyhood, Cutie and the Boxer, Kumu Hina

Recent Books: The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian, How to Be an Adult in Relationships, How to Be an Adult in Love, Your Illustrated Guide to Becoming One with the Universe, The Alchemist, Interpreter of Maladies

Comics/graphic novels:
Saga, Walking Dead, Fables, On Loving Women, haven't read any recently but please send me recs!

I'm gluten free, by choice. My diet mostly consists of high quality animal protein, dark leafy greens, nuts, dried fruit, dark chocolate, and cider. I'm loving the Broadway Farmers Market on Sundays.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bodies of water
Freedom, I am my own separate being
My Vitamix
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be less racist.
How to end rape culture.
White divestment.
1 on 1 hangs > Group hangs
Privilege, and recognizing my own.
What instrument I wanna play next.
How queer spaces marginalize trans women and feminine presenting folks.
How to get rid of internalized homophobia.
Battling fatphobia as a thin person.
My experiences in treatment when moving from a feminine presenting person to a more masculine presenting person.
How to truly love with complete vulnerability, gentle self-honesty, and shared commitment of personal freedom.
What's the best Seattle neighborhood to live in as a quiet queer.
The notions of peace and justice in America.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Skipping down to Blick and grabbing art supplies for a solo date craft night.
You should message me if
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You are:
comfortable with silence, or used to being around introverts/HSPs
have an analysis of oppression
emotionally intelligent
have an generous sense of humor
happy with yourself
a reader of books and a lifelong learner
like to embark on adventures!