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28 F Austin, TX

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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English, Chinese

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My self-summary
Looking for select queer lady friends to go do things with. I adore my hetero friends, but there are so many things I would like to discuss that are completely lost on them...

I love being alive! Cats. Pocket knives. Bold socks. Temporary tattoos. Brimmed hats. Surrounding myself with passionate folks. Paring down my possessions.

2 things:
1. I came out last year, so I'm still bumbling about giving myself time to figure stuff out. I identify as queer and lesbian.
2, I recently ended a serious long term relationship. And I discovered that self-care and living alone is divine.
What I’m doing with my life
Working at a stable, successful tech company. Trying to gain some technical skills. Being a kickass worker while feeling troubled by income inequality in corporate America.

Now that I'm not longer in the death grips of monogamy, investing in friendships with quality, likeminded people.

Been in Austin for a decade now. It's a truly amazing city. My goal for 2014-2015 is to move out of Texas! To the PNW (moderately likely) or to Sweden (highly improbable at this chapter in my life).

I like to make things with my hands and want to get better at this. I like wrangling vegetable tanned leather and wood.
I’m really good at
Leaving parties early.
Recommending good music.
Really listening and paying attention to the people I'm with.
Keeping succulents teetering on the brink of death.
Being allergic to things I want to put in my face, like cats and ice cream.
Being the person with enough gear to comfortably go camping with.
The first things people usually notice about me
The abundance of stripes, patterns, colors, and natural fibers in my uniform. I have tomboy style, and it's cool and all that it's celebrated in high fashion at the moment, but I've always dressed this way, always will. My Pinterest for pieces of inspiration.

I've sworn off dresses and girly flats with the exception of wedding attire - you won't catch me dead in a suit/looking dapper. I am bowled over when guys still occasionally ask for my number, so I guess there is room for me to "look more gay"? After spending countless hours on the internet reading about and looking at all the queer lady things, part of me was like erm maybe I'm not masculine presenting enough for the kind of women I'm drawn towards? But eff that. I'm gonna do me.

Side note: I have recently become kind of obsessed with harnesses and seeing folks incorporate them into everyday wear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Adventure Time, Louie, Bee and Puppycat, BLACK MIRROR, Orange is the New Black

Music: I get all my feels here.
Baths, Balmorhea, Sharon van Etten, the National, Bill Callahan, Beach House, Jens Lekman, Ólöf Arnalds, Stars, Mount Eerie, Grimes, Lorde, Warpaint, London Grammar, Kurt Vile, Haim, Charli XCX !!!
Right now listening to new: Com Truise, Beck, Son Lux, Sisyphus, Angel Olsen, Sun Kil Moon, St. Vincent, Speedy Ortiz, Mac Demarco, Avey Tare's Slasher Flicks

I feel meh about many movies. It has become increasingly difficult for me to let go and enjoy mainstream films because I find myself bothered afterwards: "wow there were only white people in that" or "geez they made women really look like pieces of shit." Anything by Hayao Miyazaki, The Skin I Live In, Blue Valentine, Fish Tank, Headhunters, Klown, Jeff Who Lives at Home, The Kids are Alright, Stoker, Frances Ha, Blue is the Warmest Color, Call Me Kuchu

I don't read regularly anymore, and I'm trying to get better about that. I mainly read long form articles and essays online on a daily basis. I just started two books this month on topics I really care about: Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha (questioning the naturalness of monogamy) and Excluded by Julia Serano (exclusion in queer spaces).

Comics/graphic novels:
I just consumed Saga and Hawkeye and Scott Pilgrim and I don't know how people wait for the trade paperbacks but I will because I refuse to buy singles! Also, Chester 5000 XYV has got to be the best, most tender porn in graphic format.
Currently holed away working through this list of recommended queer webcomics and savoring On Loving Women by Diane Obomsawin

I'm gluten free, by choice. No beer for me thanks. My diet mostly consists of high quality animal protein, dark leafy greens, nuts, dried fruit, and whatever is on the work lunch menu that day. I'll tolerate vegetarians/vegans as long as they tolerate my meat-lovin'.
The six things I could never do without
Striped shirts
Swedish Happy Socks
My chef's knife
My Vitamix
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to not think about sex all the time.
How to stay fit with the least amount of effort.
How to meet derby girls.
How to not be racist.
Privilege, recognizing my own, and how to battle oppression.
How queer spaces marginalize trans women, bisexual, and feminine presenting folks.
How to get rid of internalized homophobia.
Why so much porn is so shitty.
The relationship escalator, and how much of it do I accept/reject.
How much I hate Internet Exploder.
The perfect pants length.
Patterned button ups.
Where I find myself in the butch/femme presentation spectrum (I know, this isn't of huge import)
Visiting the Pacific NW or Sweden in the summer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Grabbing dinner with my favorite coworkers, getting tipsy on one whiskey cocktail, and if i'm still out, fantasizing about my comfy bed. When I make it back home, half-watching some shitty gay movie on Netflix, catching up on instapapered Autostraddle and The Toast articles, playlisting new albums on Spotify per recommendations from Pitchfork, getting drowsy on dry cider.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I enjoy very dark humor.

"Do one thing every day that scares you, like drowning, or watching one of your beloved children die before his time." -
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 27–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are:
a cutie
a feminist
emotionally intelligent
have an generous sense of humor
happy with yourself
educating yourself about issues
used to being around introverts.

I'm not currently looking to be in a structured relationship/be tethered to anyone(s). If you're pretty busy, I tend to find this appealing. I prefer women who are more traditionally feminine and have a "well proportioned figure" (aka not skinnier than me?), but I will not write off awesome people, regardless of their presentation/body type.

The other thing: I only really hit it off with 1-2 new persons a year on average. Could be you. I am learning to accept my high level of introversion and reserve my energy and affection for people I really like. I approach every first meeting with a "can we be friends" attitude, so it's not a date, k?