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29 F Austin, TX

I’m looking for

  • Women who like women
  • Ages 27–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jul 4
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English, Chinese

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Going with this one: "I'm an awesome piece of shit"

Looking for select queer lady friends to go do things with. I adore my hetero friends, but there are so many things I would like to discuss that are completely lost on them...

I love being alive! Cats. Pocket knives. Bold socks. Temporary tattoos. Brimmed hats. Surrounding myself with passionate folks. Paring down my possessions. Observing and being silent.

2 things:
1. I came out last year, so I'm still bumbling about giving myself time to figure stuff out. I identify as queer and lesbian.
2, I recently ended a serious long term relationship (my first). And I discovered that self-care and living alone is divine.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working at a stable, successful tech company. Trying to gain some technical skills. Being a kickass worker while feeling troubled by income inequality in corporate America.

Now that I'm not longer in the death grips of monogamy with the absolutely wrong person, investing in friendships with worthwhile, likeminded people.

Been in Austin for a decade now. It's a truly amazing city. I'm 95% certain I'm moving to Seattle later this summer, just waiting patiently for the job transfer to go through.

I like to make things with my hands and want to get better at this. I like wrangling vegetable tanned leather and wood. When I can't commit to a physical craft, I'm making video diaries with my trusty pocket GF2. Related to hands, I've recently uncovered a deep appreciation for shibari (japanese rope bondage).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Leaving parties early.
Recommending good music.
Really listening and paying attention to the people I'm with.
Being open and direct, often to my own coolness detriment. #supremefluster
Keeping succulents teetering on the brink of death.
Being allergic to things I want to put in my face, like cats and ice cream.
Being the person with enough gear to comfortably go camping with.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The abundance of stripes, colors, and natural fibers in my uniform. I have tomboy style, and it's cool and all that it's celebrated in high fashion at the moment, but I've always dressed this way, always will.

I'm very serious and particular about presenting as minimalist and playful. My Pinterest for pieces of inspiration.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Adventure Time, Louie, Bee and Puppycat, BLACK MIRROR, Orange is the New Black

Music is my jam. Right now: Le1f, Com Truise, Tourist, Lykke Li, Marika Hackman, Wye Oak, Beck, Susanne Sundfør, Son Lux, Sisyphus, Angel Olsen, Sun Kil Moon, Mac Demarco, Owen Pallett, Sharon Van Etten, Charli XCX, Kelela

Anything by the great Hayao Miyazaki, The Skin I Live In, Blue Valentine, Fish Tank, Headhunters, Klown, Jeff Who Lives at Home, The Kids are Alright, Stoker, Frances Ha, Blue is the Warmest Color, Call Me Kuchu

I mainly read long form articles and essays online on a daily basis. I recently started two books on topics I really care about: Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha (questioning the naturalness of monogamy) and Excluded by Julia Serano (exclusion in queer spaces).

Comics/graphic novels:
Saga, Hawkeye, On Loving Women, Webcomics: Chester 5000 XYV, Yu+Me: Dream, Oh Joy Sex Toy

I'm gluten free, by choice. No beer for me thanks. Watch me geek out over cider - I convinced the IPA-obsessed spirit committee at work to put a keg of Crispin Dry in the weekly rotation.
My diet mostly consists of high quality animal protein, dark leafy greens, nuts, dried fruit, and whatever is on the work lunch menu that day.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My people
Swedish Happy Socks
My Vitamix
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to not be racist.
How to end rape culture.
Privilege, recognizing my own, and how to battle oppression.
How queer spaces marginalize trans women, bisexual, and feminine presenting folks.
How to get rid of internalized homophobia.
Fat phobia.
The relationship escalator, and how much of it do I accept/reject.
How to have a more creative job.
How to have more romantic/affectionate friendships.
The perfect pants length.
My next patterned button up.
Labels, and not fitting into them.
Visiting the Pacific NW or Sweden in the summer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
likely just coming home from work and catching up on new albums and instapapered articles.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I enjoy very dark humor.

"Do one thing every day that scares you, like drowning, or watching one of your beloved children die before his time." -
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are:
a feminist
care deeply about consent
OK with silence
emotionally intelligent
have an generous sense of humor
happy with yourself
educating yourself about issues
**used to being around introverts/HSPs** - like, you don't get alarmed when I'm driven into a temporary I-hate-all-humans-and-their-existence-enrages-me mood.

I'm currently in a non-restrictive relationship, and I'm open to connecting with more people. The thing to note: I only really hit it off with 1-2 new persons a year on average. Could be you. I am learning to accept my high level of introversion and reserve my energy and affection for people I admire/adore. I approach every first meeting with a "can we be friends" attitude, so it's not a date, yea?

I prefer women who are more traditionally feminine and have a "well proportioned figure", but I will not write off awesome people, regardless of their presentation/body type.