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30 Oakland, CA Androgynous, Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary

Androgynous, Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–42
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

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Queer, Pansexual, Gay, Lesbian
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Not at all
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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***If you are reading this... and messaged me but did not hear back it is because for some reason - I press delete whenever I am scrolling on the OkCupid App. Seriously - if I glance at the delete button *poof* it's gone. Just know that I do frantically try to recover the message and am sincerely disappointed when I discover (every single time) that it has been sucked into a black hole of despair. So, I apologize in advance and please give it a second chance if you don't hear back.****

I am planning a big move from DC to Oakland at some point this year - facing some delays but will make it! Hoping to make some new friends who can show me around. I am leaving a big, beautiful, vibrant queer community in DC and have heard nothing but awesomeness about Oakland.

Likes: Smashing capitalism. Having brainsex with people who are also into radical politics. People with something interesting to say. James Baldwin. Continued learning. Comedies and scary movies. Indian food. Other militant poor people.

Dislikes: Capitalism. The Dunning Kruger Effect. Western standards of beauty. Patriarchy. Racial caste systems. Systemic oppression. Men's Rights Activists. Manarchists. Drones. The military industrial complex. The prison industrial complex. Police militarization. Conservative ideology. Voter suppression. Guns. Ayn Rand. Segregation. Deportations. Assimilation. Cultural appropriation. Poverty. Internalized misogyny/homophobia.

I am butch - female bodied/masculine of center presenting. That means I feel comfortable with short hair and clothing designed for masculine people. I'm sometimes described as "queenie". I'm not into recreating heteropatriarchal gender dynamics - which really means I will open the door for you- but only because it is the polite thing to do and I would open the door for anyone. I don't respond well to expectations or pressure to play games/roles. I grew up with 5 older brothers and wasn't particularly feminine growing up so I'm still learning to recognize femininity within myself.
What I’m doing with my life
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I love parties, potlucks, fundraisers, rallies, knitting circles, book clubs, concerts, parades, festivals, movie nights, debates, protests, kissing, etc. I am also making it a point to spoon as many people as I possibly can... then make a world record for the longest chain of people spooning simultaneously.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being queer. Being kind. Detaching. Trying new things. Kissing (it's an art).

Resembling a Kewpie doll?

Not giving a fuck.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People can't determine my gender right off the bat because I typically have short hair. They also notice that I have a lot of energy and am very, very friendly. I will talk to just about anyone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: political theory, philosophy, history, non-fiction mostly.

Movies: Anything scary. Housebound was awesome.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
  • 1. My friends (including those within my family)
  • 2. My family
  • 3. Access to a library
  • 4. Comfortable pants and socks.
  • 5. Space
  • 6.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. I over-analyze things.

Being free.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Nerding out somewhere.
You should message me if
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...have an inkling of what genderqueer might mean. If you like talking about politics, queerness, etc. are a teacher and want to teach me something new.

...get along well with ENFPs.