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t_s_charles

43 M Baton Rouge, LA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
(Updated Profile as of November 2013: Shorter, Smaller, Cut)

I grew up in a large, loving family. Actually a ginormous family of eight of which I'm the baby (gotta love old-style Catholic families. Don't worry, not looking for a repeat performance.). My mom is amazing (she passed away a couple of years ago, but I still prefer to think of her in the present tense), and I have great brothers and sisters spread out across the country, nay the world. Mom paid for a good education, and life has equipped me with a working moral compass, more self confidence than I deserve, as well as a variety of interesting good-hearted friends and a zest for life. (And tolerance for the occasional run-on sentence.)

I try to keep up with friends, new and old. I'm big on the golden rule. I like to read (more nonfiction, but enjoy the occasional novel), like to write, enjoy dancing and getting better at it, love recorded and live music, as well as playing music. I like to travel. I enjoy restaurants and good home-cooking, though my own cooking skills are not what they should be.

I'm ever searching for the next thing to say that's so off-the-charts hilarious that those around me squirt whatever they're drinking through their noses and start punching me because they're in so much pain from laughing. I really want the truly lethal joke, like in that old Monty Python sketch.

I am curious, funny, and generous.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work as a writer, examining education, from young children through senior year of high school. Didn't think I'd like the topic at first, but have found it intellectually stimulating and an enjoyable challenge to write about intelligently.

In the past few years, I've developed a belated taste for athletic activity, mostly visits to the gym and running. I am open to other physical activities. Diet-wise I cut out some bad things and have refocused on good things. I still enjoy myself when it comes to food and drink, but try not to treat myself all the time. I've made a life change and plan to stick with it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
talking with people of all different stripes. I pride myself on being able to hold a reasonably interesting conversation with almost anyone. Friends say that I'm a good listener as well. Writing for a living, I am comfortable communicating with words. I write nonfiction every day, but also have written stories, screenplays and poetry. In the past few years, I’ve taken up partner dancing, starting with East Coast swing, but have added Cajun dancing, salsa and some ballroom dancing to the mix. Have more dances to add to the list. I've played music my whole life. I played in bands in high school and college, composing songs and recording them. Piano is my main instrument, but I can play guitar and have a pretty good singing voice. I can be quick-witted and would love someone who can return fire. I can handle ambiguity and think that life is rarely simple.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I was a kid I had bright red hair that made me a big big hit with the old ladies, but that has darkened to more of a brown rust-tinged color. I've always been relatively tall and thin. A female friend once said I have giraffe eyes. Another female friend confirmed unbidden that I qualify as a cute guy, but that my voice can be too loud at work. But you can't hear me yet, so don't think that's a problem at the moment.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Have trimmed this section. I get into books, then movies, then TV shows, then music and then back again. I am active socially, so don’t spend as much time as others I know keeping up with the latest. Part of the fun of a relationship I've found is meeting people with different interests, like new clothes you can try on and see how they fit. This world keeps producing more and more interesting stuff, so feel free to tell me what I should be experiencing.

Books: Pretty eclectic. A mix of classic and contemporary literature, narrative nonfiction, books on education, social phenomena, and assorted poetry. Not much rhyme or reason to what I’ll pick up to read next. Milan Kundera’s The Unbearable Lightness of Being was important book for me. Imbibed much Tolkien as a child. A.S. Byatt’s Possession was one of the last books I read that really knocked my socks off. Also read newspapers and magazines regularly. Been meaning to renew my New Yorker subscription.

Movies: Where to start? Went through a heavy movie-loving phase. My movie-viewing has fallen off in recent years, but perhaps you can rescue me on that front. Movies that will stop me from moving if they come on include Raising Arizona, Casablanca, L.A. Confidential, City of God, Sexy Beast, Rushmore, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Howards End, Say Anything, This is Spinal Tap, Office Space, Crumb, Chinatown, Belle Epoque, Sideways, The Departed, Goodfellas, The Bridge Over the River Kwai, Fight Club, The Big Lebowski, Eastern Promises, Old School, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Raiders Of The Lost Ark, Up, and the list goes on.

TV: Lots of great ones, and I have many, many many to catch up on. Here are some I’ve enjoyed in recent years: Lost, Arrested Development, My So Called Life, Six Feet Under, The Wire, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Game of Thrones, Justified, The Bridge and The United States of Tara.

Music: Way too many bands to list. Grew up a Beatles nut and have branched out ever since. I was on a new music kick a couple of years ago, but that has calmed of late. Feel free to tell me what i’m missing. Most of my faves are classic modern pop and rock stars and bands that everyone knows. Also like lots of alternative and indie music from the last few decades. My classical and jazz knowledge has many holes but I enjoy that and can be talked to hitting a concert. Can appreciate the craft in some country music, especially older country, but don’t seek it out. I’m pretty whitebread, so my hip hop knowledge is full of holes, but I enjoy dancing and can be shown the error of my ways.

Food: I'll eat pretty much anything. Sea urchin, beets and brussel sprouts were longtime dislikes but have had those in recent years and enjoyed them as well. Depending on how they are cooked. When I eat just for me I try to go light on the meat or better yet avoid it. Also have cut out most junk food, soft drinks and desserts. i like vegetarian fare as well and wish I could cook more of it. At a restaurant, though, I'm an adventurous eater. Tend not to order the same thing twice if I've been to a restaurant before. I enjoy wine, but wish I was more knowledgeable on the subject.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Never is a strong word. I could do without almost everything if I had to. What this question is really asking is what are things I don’t want to do without, things I would really miss. Not too much really it turns out: Friendship, Conversation, New Experiences, Cool Things I Hadn’t Thought About Before, Kindness, Good Food and Drink, Creative Expression, Good Health, Quiet Interludes, Sharp Wit.

But, most of all, I can't do without the fairer sex or I wouldn't be here.

Andrew Marvell was right:

Had we but world enough, and time/This coyness, Lady, were no crime...

But we don't have world enough or time do we? Time's winged chariot draws far too near. So get on with it XX chromosome possessors.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm an observer and love nothing more than to capture life's little wonderful absurdities. I have a more serious life of the mind as well. I try not to dwell on problems inordinately, especially things I have no control over.

A changing world is prompting me to think about the extent to which I need to change with it. So my career and focus may need to shift some. A developing story.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out having fun with friends, either at some watering hole, cooking at someone's house, dancing somewhere, seeing music or watching a movie. I do stay home the occasional Friday night. I also will often head to New Orleans or Lafayette for adventures, if not on Friday night, then other weekend days or even during the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am a late bloomer. I wasn't comfortable with my self image and relations with women until I had my first real long-term relationship. That relationship ended several years back. Its ending forced me to get back out there. At it turns out, that’s been a good thing. Consequently, I have a better idea of what I want and what I don’t want in a significant other. A little closer to figuring out the eternal mysteries of women and men and how we connect with each other. I have also made some good friends and met some great people along the way. But alas the search goes on. Nevertheless, I continue to feel I've just scratched the surface of my potential. I'm ready for the roller-coaster.

I am also a bit of a fidget. Sometimes I flick my toes without knowing it. My mom used to grab my knee to stop my foot tapping, like my leg was a spinning coin she was slamming flat on the ground. Also, an old girlfriend joked that I should subscribe to "Extreme Fidgeting" magazine. I think it's kind of endearing, but I don't notice it most of the time. Just fair warning.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Let’s be honest here. You are not likely to be messaging me. (Feel free to buck gender stereotypes, but that’s been my overwhelming experience). It will almost certainly be me screwing up the courage to message you.

So when should you respond to a message of mine? Always, of course:)

Definitely come take a look, read how I sing my own praises, and then take your temperature. if you get that flush of curiosity and interest then by all means give me a shout. Also welcome are nice rejections. I won’t abuse your graciousness. This is a weird business this mating ritual. We both need to feel that spark don’t we? Need not be right, right away. But if and when we meet, that spark needs to be there or be there fairly soon after.

If I am messaging you, it’s clearly a sign that I’m feeling something or think there is potential there. Respond in kind and I will do my level best to get a little fire going. I am getting better at fire-starting all the time.