49 Portland, OR
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My self-summary
Okay, first things first. I'm not looking for a new relationship right now; let's get that out of the way straight up.

I'm not *totally* closed to the possibility of a new relationship, mind, but I'm feeling a bit polysaturated at the moment, so it'd have to be one hell of an unusual person. I am, however, always open to new friendships.

I am part mad scientist (well, mad engineer, technically) and part gonzo journalist. I wear bunny ears in public. I live in Portland, OR.

I am coauthor of the polyamory book More Than Two: http://amzn.to/1eFPLeZ and author of The Game Changer: http://amzn.to/1HmAqeL. I recently finished a US book tour and will be doing a European book tour starting October 2015, speaking and holding classes in polyamory relationship skills and ethics.

I have quite a number of other projects I work on: I'm the author of a very popular Web site on polyamory and another on BDSM; I write tutorials on BDSM and kinky sex; I speak at poly and BDSM functions. I have just co-founded a new company that makes ultra-high-tech sex toys.

I blog. A lot. About everything from the questionable psychological issues of Peter the Great to evaluating science "news" stories in mainstream press to computer security to building brainwave-controlled vibrators to the Kurgan incursions against Canada's floating cloud-cities. I'm the creator of the Map of Human Sexuality that's been blogged about all over the place.

I'm interested in cyberpunk, photography, computers, electronics, art, nanotechnology, literature, radical life extension, and various other miscellaneous geekery. I spin fire, play World of Warcraft, and write erotica. I design and build high-tech sex toys, and write computer games. I'm also planning to take over the world and rule you all with an iron fist, but that's more of a long-term project. I have an irresistible affinity for small remote-controlled toy aircraft.

If there's anything else you want to know, I have a huge Web site at www.xeromag.com and a blog at tacit.livejournal.com that has more information than you can shake a stick at.

I am polyamorous, kinky, and transhumanist
What I’m doing with my life
I write. I make things. Sometimes they work. I take pictures of things. I wear bunny ears in public. I write porn, which is what pays my rent. I am a game designer, which is what pays everything besides my rent. I am a computer programmer. I do embedded systems programming. I design sex toys. I do computer security work as a hobby.
I’m really good at
I'm good at writing, photography, and absurdity. I can dual-wield floggers. I have mad Photoshop skillz, I'm good at tracking down Russian computer virus writers, quoting the movie "Aliens," troubleshooting computers and cars, and English grammar. I'm so-so at chess, not terrible at rope bondage, like designing electronics, have a working knowledge of TCP/IP networking, used to be good at kite fighting, and excel at consuming Mountain Dew.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: "Citizen Cyborg" by James Hughes; "Godel, Escher, Bach" by Douglas Hofstadter; "The Demon-Haunted World" by Carl Sagan; "Neuromancer" by William Gibson; "Cryptonomicon" by Neal Stephenson; "Use of Weapons" by Iain M. Banks.

Movies: Aliens, The Princess Bride, Memento, The Matrix, Exotica, Bladerunner, Dark City.

Music: Most of what I listen to these days is goth/industrial, EBM, or neo-folk.

Food: Everything I know about cooking would fit on the white space of a postage stamp. If the nearest fast-food place sells it, I probably eat it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ethics, transhumanism, relationships, philosophy, polyamory, the nature of consciousness, technology and society, random geekery, nanotechnology (particularly biomedical nanotechnology, life extension, and artificial intelligence), rationality, personhood theory, computer security.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing Skyrim, cuddling with my partners, blues dancing, going to a BDSM play party, updating my Web site, watching a movie, spending time with friends, or sleeping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've always wanted a steam-powered fucking machine. Like, seriously steam-powered, with a boiler and a furnace and the whole bit.
You should message me if
You think "because that's the way it's always been" is a ridiculous answer to "why should we do things that way?". You're a geek. You're trying to take over the world--we mad scientists and evil geniuses should stick together, or at least know who the competition is! And finally, if you love Pop-Tarts. Mmm, Pop-Tarts.