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58 M Roanoke, VA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40–62
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Oct 13
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Other, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Damn, I know this is really long, but I want to offer more than a pic and a sound bite since this may be my one shot at fame.

For me, life is about connecting. Connecting with people, connecting the lap top to the printer…except the latest printer is wireless. I work at practicing openness and like that in others. Of course there's a difference between needy and vulnerability. Needy gets self absorbed, vulnerable is more about self exposure, visibility. I think a lot of people stay hidden-even from themselves.

Our culture often promotes and substitutes image over substance. It seems a good idea to be aware of what we are doing for the affirmation we all want (need). Being off center seems more real in a largely scripted culture, but I guess that can become a script too. I doubt we can nail down identity as it is fluid. Maybe channel it?

Balance seems central to healthy living. I'm tall and have little feet, so I fall over when doing tricky stuff. I practice/have practiced things like martial arts and yoga, where balance figures in... and I still fall over. 'That's life.' We continue to look for balance, but get lots of practice getting back up when we tumble. Finding balance in relationship seems an intentional practice between two people and love keeps the practice going? A lot of time in relationship seems to involve getting back up. Turns out, grace is important.

I believe that love is the most important thing we do in life. I know. That can sound fluffy and weird. I am a little weird, but I am not fluffy. To me, love starts with an attitude of kindness, then extends as a practice of listening and hearing, looking and seeing then affirming the value of who we see and hear. It's a worthwhile endeavor to me. I mostly fail, especially when I measure life from moment to moment. I know I don't have love all figured out. I think it would be keen to be 'in' love (deliriously). Meanwhile, love does have a practical side.

I am attracted to sweet people. I can't think of another word to describe what I mean. I'm not talking about syrup. "Sweet" is an attitude that seems to accompany those who have a 'glass half full,' positive perspective on life vs. 'glass half empty,' pessimistic approach while insisting they're a more superior "realist." Reality is the glass is both half full and half empty. 'It' doesn't have to do with the glass or contents, but the approach. I dunno. I like sweet people.

I want there to be such a thing as magic (but am kind of suspicious that there isn't and that what appears magical may have a perfectly reasonable explanation). I've been labeled a closet Buddhist by more than one. Many major things that I have visualized in my life have materialized. I often 'pray/meditate' and stuff seems to happen when I do, consistently enough for me to keep 'praying/meditating'. To what or whom do I pray? I have no clue... just to what or who ever may be (or not be) out there. Maybe strangely, acknowledging seems more important than having a name for what I acknowledge. I often find myself feeling grateful and end up expressing my gratitude to the ether. This may be nutty and should go under "the most private thing I'm willing to admit."

For those who are interested, I've taken a few tests that assess your personality. I'm EINTFP on Meyers Briggs (I know, two extra letters, but am level on EI and TF). I question authority of all types, including my own. I hate to see anyone hurting, even if they've been a jerk (heck, we are all potential jerks given the 'right' circumstances). Jerkdom is often a momentary choice, it doesn't have to be a permanent condition.

I've been told I'm a nerd.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being and becoming. I read, all the time it seems. I work full time and am a full time student. I have a microscope on my coffee table. Organic gardening. I have owned a few farms and grown for farmers markets. Have done several house restorations (3 of them historical), and will probably do a few more before I am done, hopefully an arts and crafts style house. I like doing most of the work myself. It's rewarding to be able to do stuff. I like preserving aesthetically pleasing architecture.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
putting on my socks and shoes.
investigating, learning, doing
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that I am very tall and slender. some say my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't have favorite books, I love books in general, and appreciate a capable word smith.Usually reading about 4 at a time. Current reads: "Complications," "The Female Brain," "My Stroke of Insight." "Prakriti"

Movies. I don't have cable. Anything I watch is dvd or streamed from the internet. I don't miss the commercials. I gravitate towards foreign and independent films. I prefer a movie that provokes vs. assaults the senses. I don't like horror movies. A couple of movies I like are: "Remains of the Day," "My Dinner With Andre,'" "A Home at the End of the World," "Babett's Feast." "Princess Bride" makes me laugh. "Wit" makes me cry. Tokyo Sonata, Departures (Japanese). I have season tickets to Actors Theater.


Music: all sorts (but little to no country).

Food: guacamole. anything I raise in my garden. most anything Mexican. Italian, Thai, Vietnamese. Not terribly picky or exotic. I cook.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
okay, I could "do without" some of this stuff, but wouldn't want to.

air (I'm a conscious breather when I remember to be)
connecting with other people
good real food
Being fit (but not 'Hell bent')

(requisite "not necessarily in that order" caveat)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to live properly
why do I keep putting beans in the micro wave (they explode, don't do it)
how the body works, completely fascinated by it
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing just about anything. I work rotating schedules, so I might be working. Writing a paper for a class. Reading or watching a movie. New to the area, so would be great to have some friends to do with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I pray to my ceiling fan
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're a communicator. If you want to connect and you can offer something of your self to connect to. One sentence people make me a little crazy.

If you are looking for a romantic tangle... I am more attracted to the person than the gender. I cannot give a detailed motion picture here, just a snapshot. Not implying that gender isn't a component, but it's just part of the package.