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35 M Seoul, South Korea

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 1:23pm
White, Other
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
More than $1,000,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Korean (Okay), French (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
In Seoul for the summer, live in LA.

I'm a historian-in-training, Asianist, lover of food and travel and new experiences, films, music, literature, making bad collages from old magazines, writing doggerel, sometimes obsessively fixating on minutiae, alternately annoying and charming those close to me, making jokes about inappropriate subjects, playing garage rock on the guitar, and contradicting and challenging myself and others because I'm curious about them and interested exploring our beliefs and ideas (or just being a contrarian, which is definitely true). That sounds like I'm a bit intense, maybe. That's true sometimes, but I'm absolutely always having fun with it, and my idea of fun doesn't always involve mental gymnastics. Sometimes it involves a bloody mary or a baseball game or a picnic or a bike ride or a game of tennis.

I recently left a collective/intentional community/commune just south of Koreatown with ten other people, they are still family, but I moved to the west side to be closer to school.

My wife and I are interested in openness/polyamory/non-monogamy and have both had a few experiences with it. We are both interested in dating other people independently and/or meeting other couples to talk about what this sort of life entails. Nothing heavy, just casual and fun, and we'll see where each connection takes us. That said, I'm looking for genuine connection with people, not just casual sex and the like.
What I’m doing with my life
Ph.D. program at UCLA.
I’m really good at
Editing, random witticisms, living in the moment
The first things people usually notice about me
Height, curiosity, superciliousness and silliness
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Heinlein-Starship Troopers
Nabokov-Pale Fire, Lolita
Vonnegut-Slaughterhouse Five
Crane-Red Badge of Courage
Browning-Ordinary Men
Toole-A Confederacy of Dunces
Adams-The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
Strugatsky-Definitely Maybe
Fraser-Flashman series
Ryan-Sex at Dawn

Goodfellas, Star Wars, Breathless, The Seven Samurai, Rushmore, Metropolis, Metropolitan, Barcelona, Manhattan, The Big Sleep, Casablanca, 3 Iron, The Wayward Cloud

Mad Men, The League, Breaking Bad, Star Trek, MASH, The Simpsons, The Mighty Boosh

Pavement, The Kinks, Vampire Weekend, Beatles, Rolling Stones, Bingo Trappers, Times New Viking, Jay Reatard, Merle Travis, Merle Haggard, Hank Williams, Johnny Cash, Wu Tang Clan, Philip Glass, Mozart, etc. etc.

vegetarian south Indian Thali, pupusas, tacos (al pastor, suadero, lengua, tripas), tortas, sundae (Korean blood sausage and sausage of all kinds, blood or not), pate, venison, filled pastas of all kinds (ravioli, jiaozi, mandu, manti, momo, gyoza, tortellini, etc.), pinto beans, cornpone, collared greens, gai pad kapow, rendang, smorrebrod, pickled herring, etc. etc.
The six things I could never do without
good food, good books, intellectual discussion with friends, sex, music, movies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
classical conservatism, progressivism, monogamy, the Cold War, Korea, creativity, language, patriotism/nationalism, etc.
On a typical Friday night I am
with friends in my house/larger community, watching a movie, having a beer or cocktail, riding bicycles with friends on a quest for tacos and whiskey and fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
already admitted the polyamory part, which is pretty private, or at least has been heretofore...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you would like to get a meal, see a movie, get a drink, (not necessarily just for romance) especially if you live around the west side, like Indonesian or Japanese food, etc. Or we can visit my old Koreatown stomping grounds and I can show you some cool restaurants and bars that are hard to access without Korean language skills.