Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm really only looking for friends right now, and my response time
is super slow. Just so you know.
, pro choice
, pro equality
, pro LGBTQ
/ human rights, pro animal rights
anti-censorship, somewhat socialist. Baker
, story teller
, lover of dried fruit
Optimistic, stubborn, energetic, smart, loyal, unconventional, sort
of spacy. Vegetarian
, non monogamous
I like people, and I like learning about why they are the way they
are. I tend to read lots of books on religion and spirituality,
anthropology, sexuality and gender and the history of gender roles,
psychology, the evolution of language, histories of ancient
My main sweety is mindkeep
, the best partner ever! We met
here on in 2008.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now I'm mostly trying to figure out how to be a good parent
to our 2 kids, whoa. If you live nearby and have babies/toddlers or
are looking for parent-friends, message me! I'm also enjoying using
all the vegetables in our CSA share in new and interesting ways.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Carcassonne. Having zombie contingency
, chopping potatoes, slicing pie
(I used to work at a pie diner!), and quoting media such as the
Guide to the Galaxy
at random. And I'm a decent
(if out-of-practice) mezzo-soprano.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If I am in a place where I expected to be social, then I am happy
to meet you and you can probably tell! If you randomly recognize my
OKC photo while we're both in the same grocery store or concert
venue, I am happy to meet you but probably appear flustered and
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
by Catherine M. Valente
The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
series by Douglas Adams
by Neil Gaiman
and Terry Pratchett
, and Stranger Things Happen
by Kelly Link
. I like hard
sci-fi with a feminist spin, well-written fantasy (especially
urban), most things with footnotes, and speculative short
B) Movies - Pacific Rim
, Buffet Froid
, The Fifth Element
Bill and Ted's
, Monty Python's Life
and Guildenstern are Dead
, Love and Death
, Groundhog Day
C) SO MUCH TV, Hannibal
, Orphan Black
, Red Dwarf
, Better Off Ted
, Invader Zim
, Doctor Who
, Star Trek
. I love the culture of fandom
and sharing thinky thoughts about my shows with my friends.
D) Music - Tori Amos, Rasputina
, Peter Gabriel
, Mediaeval Baebes
, Modest Mouse
, Rusted Root
, Neil Young
, Joanna Newsom
D) Food - Ovo-Lacto Vegetarian! chocolate
, soy milk
, carrots and hummus, dessert
of any kind, whole wheat bread with figs and dates
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My piano, my voice, chocolate in any form, good friends and lovers,
sunlight, and blowing up marshmallows in the microwave.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
, the Universe
, and Everything.
Key changes. Emotional connections between and among people, how to
form them, and how to keep them stable. Wormholes. Patterns of
energy. What new ingredients I can try in my next batch of goodies.
How much I'm going to enjoy eating this donut. Garden planning and
tea blends. Baby and toddler sleep.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I have an infant. If you and I click amazingly, I might be
interested in dating, but mostly I need friends who are okay with
(hopefully temporary) flakiness and problems with scheduling due to
the baby. It would be so awesome if you live somewhat close to
I am committed to honesty and integrity in all of my relationships
with friends and lovers, and sincerely wish that anyone who chooses
to message me values the same.
I do not respond to everyone who messages me. Sorry, but it's
impossible, and I get a lot of jerks and copy-pasters. If you
haven't already, please read this OKC blog post: Exactly What to Say in a First Message
. It will
give you a much better chance of getting a response from me. Just
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