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61 Beaverton, OR Man


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  • Ages 18–99
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs

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My self-summary
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After of years of dating and looking for a mate, I have come to a couple of conclusions and revelations. First, I trust mySELF in knowing right away who is the right one for me. I trust my inner knowing and discerning the energy from the person in front of me. Second, I don't sweat the small stuff. I don't have a checklist. If you are kind and if we have chemistry and you own your own sh*t then we can go from there. The rest are in the details. Life is too short to focus on what is wrong with the other rather than what is right for each of us.

A lot of people here are unsure about this online dating process. I think this quote captures how the online dating process is backwards: "An online profile is like reading the ingredients on a box of food and trying to imagine what it would taste like." So take my ingredients with a grain of salt ;-).

Speaking of food metaphors...I take the spaghetti approach to dating, i.e. throw it on the wall and see if it sticks. Just try it out and see. I am not looking for perfection, just someone who appreciates me and I appreciate in turn. I am willing to try and am open to the possibilities (throwing on the wall) and if someone "sticks" then that's great.

I believe that we live from love or fear. I live consciously from love. I am not always consistent or mindful and I recognize that. I want a mate that does too. I want us to find our common humaness and in turn, our heart. Come join me and take the risk. This Jim Carrey's video captures this nicely

I view life and relationships the same, don't sweat the small stuff. For if there is a willingness to be in our hearts and to be connected then things can be worked out and life can be enjoyed.

I have been described as kind, grounded, open, honest, intelligent, empathetic, calm, centered, and positive.

I don't really have a "go to" thing to do. I enjoy being physically active, emotionally connected, and intellectually engaged so that can cover a variety of things. I am up for most anything for it is the company I share that is important to me more so than the activity.

I have already started... How about you?
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a technology project manager but that's not my heart's work. In my exploration what I really should be doing with my life on this planet, I am going down this path of learning a healing process that involves mind, body and spirit called Body Talk. I find it a powerful modality for I experienced a miracle from it myself. Now I am investigating how I can bring it to others.

I like being active whether it is in the gym, outside running, or biking with a friend, or walking my sweet dog. I also love listening to live music during our great outdoor summer concert season. I also like museums, art galleries, funky shops, parks, bowling, street festivals, pubs, indie movies, going out to eat,...

Basically I'm up to do most anything as long as i get to do it with people I can have fun with.

I love connecting people who are in touch with their joy and willing to be vulnerable. I look to contribute in making world a better place; it can be as small as reaching out to a friend or expressing gratitude to a service worker for their work. Mother Teresa said, “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”

It looks like we can "make" our love... check this out... I would love to try this! Are you willing to try the questionnaire with me?

Here are the actual 36 questions mentioned in the NY Times article:
I’m really good at
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Listening. I really am curious about people. I find it is my gift to be present with those I am with.

I also very good at dancing wildly with abandon to R&B/soul/funk/African beat music. I went to my first rave and it was nice to be complimented about my dancing by the younguns there. I love the concept of "Dance like nobody is watching."
Hey! I found a video that captures my essence (in dancing)...
and this guy is f-ing amazing

I give a real good massage.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I am intelligent and a good listener. Physically I've been told I got great shoulders and a nice tush.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I got to see The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel. It was a very sweet movie. I thought this was a relevant movie quote for us here on OKC:
Carol: You haven't met anyone?
Madge Hardcastle: Single by choice. Just not my choice

I just got to see Hector and The Search for Happiness with Simon Pegg. It was a nice, light movie.

The English movie Pride was like the Full Monty with a gay theme. I enjoyed it.

I read books on communication and pop neuroscience books "Thinking Fast and Slow," "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking." As an introvert myself, I liked how the book validated my introverted talents.

Right now I just finished Anne Lamott's "Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace" (see my photo of her and me). I love her humor, irreverence, and heart.

I decided to break my habit of non-fiction only by reading "Enchanted: A Novel" by Rene Denfeld, a local Portland author (Is there such a thing as a non-local Portland author?). It is quite an amazingly written book. I love how she uses language and how she creates this world of Death Row and the people associated with it that is enchanted.

I have re-read "Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship" by Stan Tatkin and
"Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness" by Marsha Lucas

Music? I love Afro-pop and most any kind of percussion type bootie shaking music. R&B especially with a horn section like Soul Vaccination or 5 Guys Named Moe or Patrick Lamb, fusion jazz, and indie pop/rock. I think that the Waterfront Blues Festival is the best bargain bar none. There is no such thing as bad music anytime there.

Food? Most anything. Given a preference, I like spicy. Pizza I can eat every day especially wood fired pizza. What I don't like is Pho', some Korean, and Moroccan (well that spongy bread...). Indian, Greek, Middle Eastern, Thai, and of course Japanese are all great.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
beyond the usual conventional things like love, family-friends, health, ...
1. the Internet - I love connecting this way. This is an amazing technology where I get to communicate with people that I would have never would have "met" otherwise.
2. Optimism and faith - I would have never gotten this far in life without these two things. I have a hopeful belief in the Divine. ""Everything will be all right in the end... if it's not all right then it's not yet the end." which is from The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel movie.
3. Physical touch is my primary Love Language (see Gary Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages). I just love giving and receiving hugs. I hug all my friends, male and female.
4. Being physically active and healthy. Being in touch with my body and feeling it is important as well as feeling strong (that's relative for it is more of a sense than actual muscles for me). I run and do gym workouts daily.
5. Laughing - especially with my kids for they just crack me up. They are true beings of Light. I also do the ironic laugh (laughing inside).
6. My comfortable bed especially with flannel or fleece sheets, very comfy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What makes a great and lasting relationship.

Basically I am working on living a more conscious and meaningful life that involves kindness and joy. I believe that being this way will not only make me happier, more fulfilled but also attracting the right woman in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually I look to get out to do a MeetUp or be with a friend. Otherwise I just do a hard workout and recover at home watching Netflix. Ideally I would be in relationship and share that time with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I cry at chick flicks. I cry when I talk about my kids.
The only time I swear is when I am doing home repair projects and not very often at that.
I use flannel sheets all year even during the Summer.
I don't need to drink in order to sing karaoke but i admit, it does help.
You should message me if
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anything I say resonates with you. Who knows? Maybe we can actually meet, connect and have some chemistry! Wow, what a concept *grin*!

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