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tao-te

60 M Beaverton, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:17am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I embrace the life philosophy that we live from love or fear. I live consciously from love. I am not always consistent or mindful and I recognize that. I want a mate that does too. I want us to find our common humaness and in turn, our heart. Come join me and take the risk.

I view life and relationships the same, don't sweat the small stuff. For if there is a willingness to be in our hearts and to be connected then things can be worked out and life can be enjoyed.

I have been described as kind, grounded, open, honest, intelligent, empathetic, calm, centered, and positive.

I don't really have a "go to" thing to do. I enjoy being physically active, emotionally connected, and intellectually engaged so that can cover a variety of things. I am up for most anything for it is the company I share that is important to me more so than the activity.

This post really says it all for what I think about love: http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/11/love-mindfully-nikki-fleming/

With that said, I think this quote captures how the online dating process is backwards: "An online profile is like reading the ingredients on a box of food and trying to imagine what it would taste like." So take my ingredients with a grain of salt ;-).

I would rather just talk and then meet face-to-face in order to determine if we can actually hold a real life conversation and determine if there is any chemistry.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a technology project manager but that's not my heart's work. I got training as a mindfulness based therapist, looked into being a life coach, and exploring developing my own business that is based on helping people.

I like being active whether it is in the gym, outside running, hiking or biking with a friend, or walking my sweet dog. I also love listening to live music during our great outdoor summer concert season. I also like museums, art galleries, funky shops, parks, bowling, street festivals, pubs,indie movies, going out to eat,...

Basically I'm up to do most anything as long as i get to do it with fun people.

I just finished a half marathon which I am proud of since I only have been running for 5 months before I did it. My dog Bodhi gets to run with me as well.

I love open hearted and authentic connection with people. I look to contribute in making world a better place; whether reaching out to a friend or expressing gratitude to a service worker for their work or volunteering at a hospice. Mother Teresa said, “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”
I’m really good at
Listening. I really am curious about people. I love authentic connection between two people who are willing to share our lives. I find it is my gift to the people I am present with.

I also very good at dancing wildly with abandon to R&B/soul/funk/African beat music. I embody "Dance like nobody is watching." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlfKdbWwruY

I give a real good massage.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am intelligent and a good listener. Physically I've been told I got great shoulders and a nice tush.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I got to see The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel while I was giving my blood platelets. It was a very sweet movie. Quote from the movie:
Carol: You haven't met anyone?
Madge Hardcastle: Single by choice. Just not my choice

I just saw Touchy Feely and C.O.G. at the Hollywood Theatre. Touchy Feely is a nice indie movie filmed in Seattle on how people's lives are transformed. C.O.G. is based on a David Sedaris story filmed in Oregon.

I read books on communication and pop neuroscience books "Thinking Fast and Slow," "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking." As an introvert myself, I liked how the book validated my introverted talents.

I have read "The Trauma of Everyday Life" by Mark Epstein. He came to talk at Powell's. I love how he explains how Buddhism philosophy helps us and is in alignment of modern psychotherapy (Epstein is a psychiatrist and a Buddhist).

Music? I love Afro-pop and most any kind of percussion type bootie shaking music. R&B especially with a horn section like Soul Vaccination or 5 Guys Named Moe or Patrick Lamb, fusion jazz, and indie pop/rock.

Food? Most anything. Given a preference, I like spicy. Pizza I can eat every day especially wood fired pizza. What I don't like is Pho', some Korean, and Moroccan.
The six things I could never do without
beyond the usual conventional things like love, family-friends, health, ...
1. the Internet - I love connecting this way. This is an amazing technology where I get to communicate with people that I would have never would have "met" otherwise.
2. Optimism and faith - I would have never gotten this far in life without these two things. I do not (totally) mean "I believe in God faith" per se but more ""Everything will be all right in the end... if it's not all right then it's not yet the end." which is from The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel movie.
3. Physical touch is my primary Love Language (see Gary Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages). I just love giving and receiving hugs. I hug all my friends, male and female.
4. Being physically active and healthy. Being in touch with my body and feeling it is important as well as feeling strong (that's relative for it is more of a sense than actual muscles for me). I run and do gym workouts daily.
5. Laughing - especially with my kids for they just crack me up. They are true beings of Light. I also do the ironic laugh (laughing inside).
6. My comfortable bed especially with flannel or fleece sheets, very comfy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I wonder about chemistry. Upon reflection of the rare occasions that I have experienced that chemistry, I have distilled it down to how the woman opens up to me. I find myself really getting attracted to her when she does that. When she puts her caution aside, lets her barriers down, become vulnerable and open and let her preciousness out then I find myself having that special attraction to her. The clincher would be how she kisses.

I also wonder how we are with each other when looking for a mate. This really helps me understand the skittishness I encounter: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201401/7-reasons-most-people-are-afraid-love

Basically I am working on living a more conscious and meaningful life that involves kindness and joy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually I look to get out to do a MeetUp or be with a friend. Otherwise I just do a hard workout and recover at home watching Netflix. Ideally I would be in relationship and share that time with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I cry at chick flicks and I cry when I talk about my kids.
The only time I swear is when I am doing home repair projects and not very often at that.
I use flannel sheets all year even during the Summer.
I don't need to drink in order to sing karaoke but i admit, it does help.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 47–64
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
anything I say resonates with you. Who knows? Maybe we can actually meet, connect and have some chemistry! Wow, what a concept *grin*!