Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've been totally blind my whole damn life, but I'm happiest when
immersed in visual culture (art museums, postmodern dance, silent
movies, etc). I'd say that my interest in all these things is
aspirational; since my artistic experiences rely on me having
access to someone to describe things, I know there's so many
amazing pieces of work that I can't even conceive of.
I am rather skeptical about the utility of lables, but two that
kind of sort of work for me are transabled and sighted-identified.
Essentialy, there is a mismatch between my mind and body. For that
reason, I draw some parallels with transness, and I tend to feel a
strong affinity for other queer people. (But then there's this
other part of me who is quite conventional, who longs for a house
in the suburbs with two kids and a dog. Paradoxes seem to follow me
It's too complicated to explain fully here, but I am gradually
teaching myself to see. I don't know if I will ever be able to
convey in words what it is like to have never seen anything at all,
but, during certain moments, to see tiny aspects of my world with a
dizzying clarity, to know with absolute certainty that there is a
water glass in front of me, and that this knowledge is coming from
my eyes, rather than my fingers. What I'm experiencing seems akin
to the wonder babies go through when they discover the world, when
they indiscriminately point at objects and garble their names. It
is my greatest wish that I will find someone to share that wonder
with me. If you have an untapped gift of your own that you are
trying to explore, all the better.
What I’m doing with my life
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I recently graduated with my master's in arts in education, and
hope to teach fanfiction-writing and poetry to kids in an
after-school program this fall. I also got a fellowship through
Harvard this summer, and I'm hoping that by the end of it, I'll be
able to think like an engineer. (My natural tendency is to think
like a poet, which means that I overcomplicate *everything* and am
incapable of staying on one topic).*
If I am successful, the product I am designing will train people
with very very limited vision to make better use of it, through
enhancing their awareness about where their eyes are pointing. I'm
in this scary, liminal place, probably familiar to most
entrepreneurs, where I alternate between extreme hope and extreme
I'm about to start tutoring at in independent school in
My official title is "organizational coach," which is pretty funny,
considering my penchant for chaos.
*Epic fail: still as poetic and overcomplicated as ever.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing ghaazals. Being irreverent. Laughing hysterically when you
walk me into things. Being honest. Making references to
poststructuralism in casual conversation. Not knowing my right from
my left. Facing the wrong way during yoga classes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Sometimes I put on my ridiculous version of a South African accent.
(I was born there but grew up here). You usually can't hear any
traces of it, but I do occasionally call the library the libe-ree.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My taste in literature is exceedingly contemporary. Favorites
include 1q84, Alif The Unseen, and The Space Between Us. Plus, lots
of YA. And well-written fanfic.
As for movies, the Piano was one of my favorites. I also liked
Whiplash and Beginners a lot.
I am generally pretty amusical, but I like to vicariously
appreciate other people's musical taste. SO basically, I'm a blank
slate, with a bit of a soft spot for electronic music (which makes
my synesthesia do cool shit) and folky ballads.
Food: If it's Asian, or something salty combined with something
sweet, I'll probably want to eat it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Resonance. Empathy. Intimacy. The Victorian era. Fanfic. Decadence.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to turn an inward journey outward. Swimming style color
synesthesia. Identity. Social justice. Cognitive science. How much
I'd like to go on a spontaneous trip to the Amazon. Right now, I'm
spending a hell of a lot of time thinking about sensorimotor loops
and how to close them.
I also think a lot about energy and intuition and past lives and
woo-woo shit like that, and whether they have a scientific
explanation. quantum physics seems to be the most promising
direction in that regard. I wonder how different Western culture
would be if we taught people to use their sixth sense in a
systematic way, just like we teach English and math, with lesson
plans and formative and summative assessments and understanding by
design. (translation: I basically just want to go to Hogwarts).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either going out with friends or squeeing over the latest
neuroscience article I just found. (Or emailing the author of that
article at two o'clock in the morning). I actually got a response
from Alva Noe awhile back, and you should have seen my silly grin.
You should message me if
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You think you're my British unicorn person, who my friend Babe says
does not exist. (Britishness not mandatory).
You like some nerdy things, but have other facets of your
personality. You are well-spoken, cultured, and cosmopolitan and
like the idea of getting the hell out of dodge and living in
London/New Zealand/some other cool place for a year. Translation:
you have a bit of a snobby side, but you know when to be apologetic
about it. You want to build something awesome together (an art
installation about the danger of compliance-based accessibility, a
graphic novel, my crazy vision project, you're crazy project,
whatever it may be).
You have more exciting things to ask me then, "How do you
this site?" The answer is Googleable and only marginally
*Disclaimer: I am not nearly as snarky as the previous two
sentences imply, but before I added them, literally every third
message was of the "How do you access this site" variety.
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