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taurussf

49 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:36am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aries
Education
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
On initial messages
At this point, I don't write first messages. I will not write you first. Really.

Many people browse anonymously, then enable visible browsing to signal interest. That's great, but I'm still not going to message you first.

That doesn't mean I'm not interested and enthusiastic about dating, just that women get inundated, so why add to the spam pile? If you're any reasonable match %, or even if you're not, send me a brief note, I promise a pleasant and reasonable response, and won't take it to mean more than it does.

It's effective advice in general. I recently quickmatched with a dummy profile OKC uses for testing. kaar4932sfsfsfs says,
"You'll get better results if you send messages to people who interest you. We've studied this extensively; women who make the first move end up with better-looking and more desirable matches. We can't emphasize this enough."

Who am I?
Being a casual libertine is all about valuing and celebrating human interaction. The sexy stuff just happens as a side effect.

I hate that it has to be explicitly stated, but I've done the ethical poly workshops. I understand the concept, process well, and consider myself a fellow traveler, I'm just no longer that earnest a revolutionary. For me, the revolution is the dancing (if you recognize that misquote, we should talk).

I had a wild youth, so I'll be able to match you story for story if you want, but these days I stay healthy, eat right, and while I'll still debauch, I find that a very occasional drink early in the evening is my limit if I want to wake up sharp the next morning. Partners who put effort into staying healthy, and can keep up, are my ideal choice.

I'm single right now, but still open to ongoing romantic connections. After all, everything gets better the more intimately you know someone. Some of my most interesting friendships started as casual hookups; we give each other relationship advice and support even though we're no longer intimate. It's nice.

Who are you?
It's snarky to say that this section has yet to be determined, but dating should be about broadening one's perspective, and reaching out to people you'll learn from. We can be each other's funhouse mirror, and the more different we are, the more interesting the reflections.

I'm a strong believer that difference doesn't equal incompatibility, but some common ground does help. It would be great if; you really do want to get out and about, you're fascinated with human behavior, and you genuinely enjoy analyzing life almost to death. For all of this, an active life of the mind is the only prerequisite.

I love it when people comment on their match questions. I'd always thought of book burning/flag burning as a simple left wing/right wing litmus test. Recently, one of my matches commented that regardless of politics, books have a real utility, flags are just a symbol, so book burning is more wrong. Original thinking, regardless of whether I agree. It was the reason that I messaged her.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spent many years devoting my energy to the program I ran for a local nonprofit, and watched the organization grow from a handful of iconoclasts meeting in the back room of a Chinese restaurant to a stable power in local politics. The revolution has mainstreamed, and it was time to move on. I run a small business, try to do right by my customers and employees, and maybe get things done by closing time.

Right now, I'm doing what anyone who wants to improve himself should be doing; buying a few new outfits, going to the gym a little more often, attending workshops and engaging in healthy introspection.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Jack of all trades, master of none. That's always held an appeal for me. In just about every area I can quantify I'm slightly above the 75th percentile. I'm comfortable with that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Damn, I'm hoping it's not the one thing I'm insecure about.

If we're talking physical attributes, I'm told that I have noticeably well defined arms and shoulders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I really like a nice walk around town. I've lived in San Francisco most of my adult life and still manage to find something new around most corners. Stopping into a little place that makes interesting food - doesn't matter what kind - in whatever neighborhood I end up in, is a favorite. Doing it with a friend is more than twice as nice.

I ride a bike. Bicycling has been so much a part of my professional life for so long that I sometimes forget how much it's shaped me, physically and mentally. I'm looking forward to doing a couple of short bicycle tours to my favorite local camping spots when I can.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Internet. I think that covers all six in one go. I admit to reading for about 4 hours a day, yet having almost no books in the house. Wikipedia is my best friend and I'm looking forward to the singularity.

It took a while, but I've just about read through all the stuff that interests me in the SFPL Main library.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why OKC forces me to choose between Mostly vegetarian and Strictly vegetarian. I've always taken Strictly to mean Vegan, and Mostly to mean not really. I eat cheese and eggs. I don't care what you eat, but I guarantee you'll like what I cook.

Why heteroflexible isn't on the menu. Bi is too bi, and straight is too straight. If you're a couple, ask me why she's the neutron.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm a seriously early riser, so unless I nap all afternoon, on Friday night, I'm probably asleep.

I try to zig when others zag. I keep a nonstandard work schedule so that I can shop when the lines are shorter, commute when the streets are empty, and...
Oh crap, party when there's nobody at the club.

On the other hand, thank goodness for SF's service economy schedule, because there's always somebody partying in the middle of the week. On Wednesdays and Thursdays, you can often find me out and about, dancing with myself quite unironically at the local 80s New Wave night .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A little schadenfreude. I'll admit to being tickled when I notice that someone with a really high enemy percent has clicked on my profile and imagine their discomfort while reading some of my match question comments.

OK, fine. I'm a little bit kinky too. I know how to use a flogger and rope, but chain and complicated fantasy play is my passion. I'm no stranger to play parties. Mission Control is a favorite. Ask about my activity on FL if you're interested.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 39–54
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Go ahead and send me a sweet, unbidden note, and I promise a thoughtful reply. Guys don't receive too many of those, and getting one does wonders for our enthusiasm.