I'm a nice, relatively sane, poly, bi, slightly reformed geek with an adventurous spirit. I prefer women in romantic relationships but enjoy all genders when playing.

The path to understanding myself has been mostly rewarding, often frustrating, always challenging and rarely boring. I've been blessed with a lot of amazing experiences and hopefully helped out a bit along the way. And I'm not quite dead yet.

It wasn't hard to figure out the bi part. I grew up in a small town in the southeast, and I knew that I was bi before I knew there was a label for it. The poly part came a bit more slowly, but I started reading about it in the early 90's, probably around the time the term was coined. Getting comfortable with my feelings there and a several other aspects of me took a while, not to mention a large amount of therapy along the way, mostly in my 20's and 30's.

I'm a compassionate man who loves excellence, learning, helping people connect with each other and growth. I'm also a technologist and a business executive, as well as a parent and a husband in an open marriage. I'm not the typical guy, in that I often share my feelings, I love intimacy and, I tend to stand by my commitments come what may. My ego to intelligence ratio is less than 1.0.

Directionally, I'm driving to "finish" the current phase of my career as a software executive to help enable a phase of life that is more focused on service and making a difference. There are also some things in the technology world, like Artificial Intelligence, that intrigue me and that I'd like to explore without having to worry about short term financial issues.

As a student of polyamory, I'm still new at building responsible, non-monogamous relationships in my life. This direction feels absolutely right to me, and I'm tremendously excited about it.

I'm really good at empathy and using it to build bridges that help people on opposite sides of something connect with each other in ways that are good for both. In my day job, that often means helping technologists and business people work together.

In my personal life, the bridge building skill might ultimately become useful in helping the two radically different groups in my life relate better. Or, more specifically, I'd like the conservative bunch to be openly accepting of the poly bunch. My interest in going there is slowly building.

I'm also pretty handy with a grill.

They'd probably notice the wickedly dry sense of humor, just after noticing that I'm a bit shy at first.

Let's see, (recent example) favorite books: Mavricks at Work, The Singularity is Near, The Tipping Point, Wisdom of Our Fathers, The Audacity of Hope

Example Movies: Dead Poets Society, August Rush, The Sixth Sense, Silence of the Lambs, A River Runs Through It, JFK, Dances with Wolves, Apollo 13, A Beautiful Mind

Food: I'm omnivorous, but I'm not that crazy about (literal only) sushi.

The outdoors, stimulating conversation, freedom, family, love and affection.

Relationships, the future, technology, adventure and sex.

Having a nice dinner, and either watching a great movie or going out. I like clubs, dancing (the only thing at which I both stink and enjoy), hanging out with a small group of friends.

Well, um, lately, I've been noticing that I tend to chew on my straw when having a cocktail.

Message me if something here resonates or if you have some thoughtful interpretation of my straw issue.