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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 7
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Post grad
Wants kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Relatively new to Seattle after growing up in Oklahoma, school in Michigan, and five years in NYC. Love it here so far!

Personality-wise: Driven, but low-key. Genuine. Mature. Pretty nerdy, but not lacking in social skills. Reliable. Curious. Feminist. Sense of humor is fairly goofy, I think. Someone once described me as a "gentle soul," which I thought was nice. I think of myself as an old soul, certainly.

In relationships, I tend to be affectionate and open with my feelings and I like people who are similar in both respects. Looking for a long-term relationship with someone whom I'd consider my best friend--someone who wants to build a life together and to share all the ups and downs that comes with that. I'm at a great place in my life where I enjoy being single, but am ready to be in a serious relationship with the right person.

Some things I like:
--Quality film, television, and books, and discussing all of the above over a good beer.
--Games and puzzles of all sorts. I especially like modern board games, the NYT Crossword, and twisty puzzles (as pictured.)
--Going on adventures around the city: food tours, pub trivia, softball/kickball/bocce teams, etc.
--Spending time outdoors. I'm always up for a camping trip or a nice day hike, and I really love being near or on water. After moving to Seattle, though, I realize that I'm not nearly as outdoorsy as I thought I was! Some of you all are intense.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I used to practice at a big law firm in New York, but left to pursue a career in higher ed administration, which I'm much more passionate about. (Administration and passion are not two words that you usually hear together, but I do love my job.)

Outside of work, I'm doing my best to meet people. I moved to Seattle without knowing anybody! I'd also like to get better at cooking. We'll see how that goes--I've got a fire extinguisher handy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making guacamole. Road-tripping. The Kevin Bacon game. Being punctual. Red carpet fashion commentary, both substantive and snarky. Finding interesting things on the Internet. Bar games. Marathons (Netflix.)

Things I'm bad at, because that's kind of more fun: Anything musical. Figuring out who you are in all those group photos. Being a discerning wine drinker. Patience. Drinking water. Getting the duvet cover on my comforter. Marathons (running.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Smile? Blue eyes, maybe?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I tend to be pretty passionate about all of these things and could go on and on with lists. (And I do, often, on a tiny blog I write.) If it seems like we have similar-ish tastes, we'll probably get along. Here is an attempt at short lists:

Books I've enjoyed in the last year: Aziz Ansari's "Modern Romance." Everyone on this site should read it. Also enjoyed: The Sense of an Ending, Americanah, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, The Paying Guests, Just Mercy, Disgrace, The Good Soldiers, Middlesex, The Emperor of all Maladies. I try to alternate between fiction and non-fiction.

Movies: Vertigo, Annie Hall, Groundhog Day, Before Sunset, Mulholland Drive, Dr. Strangelove, Once, Back to the Future, Singin' In The Rain, The Lives of Others, Her, and lots more.

Television: The Sopranos, Lost, Friday Night Lights, Breaking Bad, Louie, Veep, Game of Thrones, etc. I tend to stay away from most reality tv. Except for The Mole. Anybody remember that? With Anderson Cooper? That show was right up my alley.

Music: Classic rock, mostly. And I see Glen Hansard any time I can. Love that guy.

Food: I'll eat anything at least once and love anything that's delicious. Last year I drove up the Pacific Coast Highway eating nothing but tacos, which was about as awesome as it sounds.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
--My cat, Minnie. She's been my buddy since seventh grade.
--iPhone: it's like the 21st century swiss army knife.
--Diet Coke. It's delicious, but I'm not proud that I'm listing it here.
--The changing of the seasons. Is that silly? I always feel so happy at the beginning of each season. Especially autumn.
--Netflix. Life changing.
--My friends. Cliche, but true. Lucky to have some amazing people in my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Am I doing the right thing?

Also: How does okcupid determine "personality traits," and why are mine so weird? What movie/show/book should I watch/read next? Do people REALLY work out/travel/trapeeze that much, or is this just an okcupid thing? Am I the only one in Seattle who does not/will never have a tattoo?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I wish my answer was that I'm out exploring new restaurants or bars or getting into other similar shenanigans. But let's face it: I'm getting old and am increasingly likely to just be at home reading a book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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OkCupid made me a moderator. Not sure how that happened, but I love that they have some algorithm that told them I'd be just the kind of dork who would enjoy such a thing.
You should message me if
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it seems like we might have similar values, are ultimately looking for a long-term relationship, and you'd like to grab a drink or a cup of coffee sometime. And you live in Seattle.

Or if you can teach me how to ski. I've never been! Seems like this is a thing I should get into as a Seattleite.