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48 Cardiff, UK Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:52pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Working on Ph.D program
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm fiercely intelligent, reasonably cultured (only reasonably, mind!), and possess both a dark sense of humour (think Chris Morris, Viz and the League of Gentlemen and you're getting there), and a well-developed capacity for silliness - and seriousness - of all kinds.

I divide my time between Barnet (where I work) and Cardiff (where my bands and family are located).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I support myself by teaching History for abysmal wages and with no security at a couple of unis and doing a fair bit of painting and decorating (which is my original trade).

My research intersts are left-wing anti-modernism and the 'new left' of the post-1956 period.

I also play drums in two well-regarded - and rather different - bands.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My vocation


Getting into all kinds of scrapes

Looking like a superannuated mod when I'm scrubbed up. (I have a thing for the looks of the 50s and 60s. It's the skinny ties that are to blame, I guess ...)

Cooking for and fussing over others

Being inappropriate

Being a Dad

Being fat, yet sexy with it (apparently - personally, I'm not at all sure that my friend Beta is correct in asserting this. Actually, I think that 'pleasingly ugly' would be a far better description ...)

Having spiky hair
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm great at being inappropriate

I'm fat, yet sexy with it (No, make that 'I'm pleasingly ugly')

I'm intelligent, but can be fabulously low-brow

I'm quite the contrarian

Whilst I might be on the left, I'm certainly not of it
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Graham Greene, Iain Banks, Eric Hobsbawm, Ruth Rendell/Barbara Vine, John le Carre, Irvine Welsh, KJ Parker, Ken MacLeod, Frank Furedi.

Film: The Name of the Rose, Ice Cold in Alex, The Devils, The Wicker Man, anything by Stanley Kubrick, Alfred Hitchcock and David Lean - and any number of fair-to-middling war, sci-fi and horror flicks. I must confess that I have a problem with rom-com, but hey - I'm willing to compromise now and again.

TV: I'm not a huge TV person - I'd much rather be doing something, if I'm honest - but I do know what I like. Likes include: League of Gentlemen, anything involving Chris Morris, Dad's Army, Porridge, The Wire, Battlestar Galactica (sad, I know!), The Shield. Be warned that I positively LOATHE crime procedurals of the CSI/NCIS type ...

Music is really important to me, mainly because I love playing and performing. I have very broad - and not especially 'hip' - tastes: Bowie, 50s and 60s guitar pop and soul, bits and pieces of punk/new wave. I also have a great sense of rhythm, which I get to exercise at lots of gigs - indeed, the extent of my mid-life crisis is such that I'm two bands. I usually play at Glastonbury and Bestival each year, too - which I not only get paid for (ha!), but is also tremendous fun. I love live music in small venues too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

Intelligent conversation



Multiple duvets

Modernity - urban-industrial civilisation truly does make all sorts of fabulously civilised things possible
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The past

How modernity can be improved upon

Possible futures

General naughtiness

Where did I leave that bloody ...?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not putting any effort into my research.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After a gap of 20 years I'm gay for Bowie all over again. Honestly, the new album really is that good ...
You should message me if
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You have a thing for annoyingly bright men who are going to seed.

And if you're as happy at an intimate gig in a dingy bar as you are at an art gallery or museum. And able to comfortably shift from high-brow to low-brow.

As big a fan of the bacon sarnie as you are of cordon bleu?

Impetuous, passionate and risk-taking, yet also trusting, trustworthy and considerate?

Fond of philosophising over the odd pint or three?

Well, if the answer to at least some (if not all) of the above questions is 'yes', then why not get in touch?

This articulate, intelligent, musical, reasonably cultured and, in certain respects, not-quite-so-grown-up-as-he-should-be guy in his 40s would love to hear from you!

Over to you ...